I have been indirect with girls for years and it ALWAYS results in them losing interest in me and ending up back at square one.

So one day i ask this female friend I've know for 5 years about how she ended up with her boyfriend. She is a 10 by the way. He was direct and upfront about his feelings towards her and that is how they got together. I told her about me being indirect and she has told me that is how girls lose interest FAST!

Really, guys take a chance. I mean PUA has helped me to become a much confident guy but for finding happiness within myself? Not so much.

I thought outright telling a girl you like her was a big no-no from all the posts I see about it? Making it weird for the girl etc. all of a sudden having this serious stuff out there.

I thought the point was to build attraction naturally until it just happens.

I dunno, this thread is just confusing me now! I know that being direct and out there with your sexuality is good, but just outright saying "I like you" seems counterintuitive now.

This topic proves a good point: there is no one correct way to go about doing this. There are so many little variables factored into the way you should execute a strategy with a woman that pretty much any material you read online will be almost completely irrelevant to your situation. Don't get me wrong; the information you read can be useful, but you need to think rationally and apply things differently based on the circumstances.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being direct. It shows that you're confident and know what you want. But you have to be careful with the way you show your affection early on or it'll backfire. Similarly, being too aloof and indirect will cause the woman to lose interest because, as you'll find out soon enough if you haven't already, females are far superior at playing this game. They will always be one step ahead of you no matter which precautions you take.

Personally, I also disagree with people who say you should try to have sex with a woman before considering a relationship. Do you really want the girl who you ripped away from her boyfriend with one night of sweet talk? Are you really attracted to a girl who puts out immediately? There's a huge difference between sex material and relationship material, and different strategies need to be used based on your desires.

I agree, there are always many ways you can go about doing it. And yes showing your affection early on can backfire, especially if she is a 10 because you just come across as every other guy who has fallen for her looks.

However I think I have played a really good game with this certain girl. I was indirect as I usually was and she would text me every single day. They randomly out of the blue she text me saying "Can I ask you something, do you like me?"

That is when I thought I should be a bit more straight forward because I've played with her head and if I did it anymore she would get frustrated and end up losing interest. So I tell her yeah I see you as more than a friend and she says she kinda liked me too so there we go.