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Author:  SomeGuyItaly [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:31 pm ]
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I'm in college and I decided to walk this girl home. I guess she wanted me to leave cause she kept saying as "you need to leave" but she was saying it in a flirty way. We cuddled and made out a little. I tried going down on her. She thought i was trying to rape her. She freaked. I walked out and then she called me saying how she didn't have the best childhood and things happened to her. I called her the next day and she told me how selfish i was and inconsiderate i was to her feelings. She said she doesn't like me and she wouldn't treat me the same. She also said she doesn't care about me. I tried apologizing to her in person again the next day. I walked her home again this time but I didn't go all the way till her door step. She said this is far enough. I said i understand and i walked back. I asked her on the phone again "Why would you let me walk you home again if you thought i tried to rape you? I personally wouldn't want someone to walk me home after they had tried to rape me." To which she replied, "After i told you the things that happened to me, you seemed genuinely sorry. And i understood you were actually trying to apologize." I asked her how could i ever fix this. She said "Just be considerate of others feelings before putting your own feelings on the line all the time. You can't be so selfish all the time."
My intentions were never to hurt this girl. I only thought she'd like it if I went down on her. But she misinterpreted what I was doing. I need to know what is the best thing i can do to make up for what i did. I know i don't have a chance with her ever again but i don't want to leave the impression of a rapist in her mind.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:33 pm ]
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Just stop. She misinterpreted, things happen, be glad she didn't go so far as to press charges. The worst thing I could see you doing is overreaching to try to change her perception of you and now looking like an attempted rapist AND stalker.
Author:  Defy [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:34 pm ]
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Author:  SomeGuyItaly [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:36 pm ]
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Just stop. She misinterpreted, things happen, be glad she didn't go so far as to press charges. The worst thing I could see you doing is overreaching to try to change her perception of you and now looking like an attempted rapist AND stalker.
I got that, but if i ever run into this girl I don't want her to look at me like a rapist. I don't think what i did was right. But my intentions were never to hurt this girl. I would've never behaved the way i did if i knew the things about her.
Author:  papichulo310 [ Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:49 pm ]
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Just stop. She misinterpreted, things happen, be glad she didn't go so far as to press charges. The worst thing I could see you doing is overreaching to try to change her perception of you and now looking like an attempted rapist AND stalker.
I got that, but if i ever run into this girl I don't want her to look at me like a rapist. I don't think what i did was right. But my intentions were never to hurt this girl. I would've never behaved the way i did if i knew the things about her.
You have no control over what another person does. On the other hand, you have control over yourself. Respect her wishes, be nice to her when you bump into each other but stop pressing at things and continually drudging up the past with her. You'd obviously crossed a personal boundary of hers, if it were me I'd likely extricate myself from the situation before it carried on any further as this is an individual who is likely in need of counselling.
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