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Author:  Morpheo [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 5:19 am ]
Post subject:  Girl Not Texting, Need Advice
I approached a girl at a store and asked her for a coffee. She said she'd like that, but she was in the process of changing phones and couldn't give me her number. So I was forced to give her mine. She said she'd text me, but it's been 24 hours and so far nothing.

I don't think the change of phones was an excuse, cause she did agree to the coffee before hand and seemed interested. I don't think she could make up something like that on-the-fly because I did a pretty direct approach that caught her off-guard.

Question is, what should I do now? I can go back and talk to her in person or sit around waiting for the text. How long should I wait?

Or do I take this as a sign of her changing her mind and no longer being interested? I hate playing these mind games.
Author:  FCgame [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:59 am ]
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Hey!
You know that usually happens when you don't create enough "connection" with the girl, when you just went for the phone number and that's all you cared about. For most girls giving the phone number is not a big thing, the problem comes when you try to call her or text her and she doesn't pick up the phone or she desn't reply to your text messages.
I'd say call her one more time and if she doesn't pick up the phone or text you back then forget about it and learn from that experience.

Check these 2 videos, they can help you out so this thing doesn't happen again.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oga02d8 ... 20gNZIRx_F

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWeQJmdH ... YkdGE8l04O
Author:  EddieFews [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 2:44 pm ]
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You can change phone and keep the same number dude... And if a girl is interested she will give you the current number and then the new one phone she switches.. That wasn't that hard to make up on the fly believe it or not.. I've gotten that excuse before and I just smiled and said it was nice to meet you and walked away.. The giving your number out to girls things may work once out of every twenty times it happens.. Just move on, you can pull the next chick if you came so close to pulling this one.

Just remember, don't focus on getting the phone number.. You shouldn't even want the phone number from her unless you built a solid connection with the girl and know that she is someone you would like to talk to.. I'm talking 10=15 mins of conversation before you get the number.. Unless your in a huge hurry!

And one tip: don't ask girls for they're numbers, just reach your phone out to them for them to grab it and say " here, put your number in", that takes away they're need to give a response/excuse/etc.

Also, when you build a connection solid enough the girl will sometimes ask for your number because they want to make sure they get to see you and talk to you again.
Author:  FCgame [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 3:12 pm ]
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Totally agree with you, if you build a connection you don't have to worry about her not replying to your text messages or things like that. That's why I think conversation skills are so important and not only talking of course, you have to be very good listening as well.
Author:  Morpheo [ Fri Feb 10, 2012 4:37 pm ]
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Yes, I know this. But in this case, I did have a conversation with her the previous day. I don't ever just come up and ask for a number point blank. Plus, the number was merely a means to an end. We agreed to a coffee. The number was only needed to set up a time.

She was on a cheap Tracphone, so the excuse seemed plausible.
Author:  Morpheo [ Sat Feb 11, 2012 2:08 am ]
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So I went back to the store and spoke with her. She didn't text because she has a boyfriend. Fucking women. Mind games to no end.

I'm guessing this happened because I came off too confident and intimated her, and she either felt bad turning me down, or was afraid to turn me down. Is this a common problem? I had other girls say they feel shy/nervous round me. Am I doing something wrong, or is that the desired effect? Personally I don't picture myself as an intimidating guy, although I am 6'2''. I smile quite a bit when I approach. WTF?
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Feb 11, 2012 2:15 am ]
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So I went back to the store and spoke with her. She didn't text because she has a boyfriend. Fucking women. Mind games to no end.

I'm guessing this happened because I came off too confident and intimated her, and she either felt bad turning me down, or was afraid to turn me down. Is this a common problem? I had other girls say they feel shy/nervous round me. Am I doing something wrong, or is that the desired effect? Personally I don't picture myself as an intimidating guy, although I am 6'2''. I smile quite a bit when I approach. WTF?
Like I told you. And I doubt she has a boyfriend..

Read my post again.
Author:  Morpheo [ Sat Feb 11, 2012 2:23 am ]
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So you are against the direct approach for day game? I.e., "Hi, I think you're cute. blah blah blah."
Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Feb 11, 2012 2:28 am ]
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Not at alll...

I always go with the " hey whats up" approach .. I wouldnt ever try and hook up with a girl from a store that I go to often.. Things can get awkward.
Author:  Morpheo [ Sat Feb 11, 2012 2:36 am ]
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So was I gaming wrong, or was this just an inevitability? I'm starting to think that you just have to accept that some girls will be shy and not have the balls to blow you off by being direct, that is, saying "No, not interested." or "I have a boyfriend."

I can understand the girl's perspective. When I come up and do a ballsy direct opener, she's thinking, "I'm not interested, but how will he react if I tell him? Maybe this guy will freak out. I better be indirect for my sake."
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