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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 1:06 pm ] |
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Ok, this is kind of a newbie question so any advice will be welcome. My situation is that I want to get with a girl that recently broke up with her boyfriend. Here's some background info: 1.)her ex boyfriend introduced us 2.) she comes to me when she feels sad, so I think maybe she ljbf ed me, but I doubt it. 3.) when she went out with her ex, we flirted a lot, especially during text messages. Any advice is welcome |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 1:35 pm ] |
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At this point the most you can be is a rebound, which means if your comfortable just being her fuck buddy then go right ahead. Just understand she will leave soon because she'll be in search of someone that didn't choose to date her while she was most vulnerable. |
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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 2:48 pm ] |
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K thanks for the quick reply man. What would happen if I waited a little before asking her out? |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 3:39 pm ] |
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If she's like most girls, she will go search out a rebound for comfort, possibly and ex boyfriend.. If she's strong and has her head screwed on straight she will wait and put the focus on herself and grow into someone who is ready for a relationship again. |
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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 4:24 pm ] |
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Thank you and I guess you're right. I will probably just be the rebound like you said. Hopefully gaming her will improve my skills and if not I hope I leave her better than I found her. Again thank you for the advice, and is there a way that you recommend for me to approach her? |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 4:46 pm ] |
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Do you not care for the girl? Are you just trying to get what you want out of her and the move along? That's fine if thats what you want, i just want to understand that before we proceed. |
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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 5:15 pm ] |
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I do care, the reason why I would date her is because I care for her and I honestly want to be with her. If this will end up hurting her then I'll abort. However, I know that one of her exes is trying to get with her and he will probably end up hurting her. Like I said I'm new and I don't have much experience with this so if you think she will end up getting hurt let me know and I'll abort. If not then I'll dedicate my time with her to making her happy. Like Ross Jeffries said leave a girl better than you found her. |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 5:19 pm ] |
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I just think you'll end up getting hurt bro.. She's not in the position for this at the moment. The world is full of beautiful women all desperately waiting for some guy to come to their rescue. I believe you could do a lot better with one of the other million girls that have more to offer you in return for treating them the way you want to treat this girl. |
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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 5:51 pm ] |
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Ok well in that case I guess you're right and I'll abort. Thank you for your help and quick replies though. |
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| Author: | guruman [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 6:04 pm ] |
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Just posting to agree with fuze here- abort the mission of getting into a ltr with her for right now.. but what you can do is just be her friend. If you pursue her you will probably get a shpeel about not being ready for anything serious, so don't even try to cross that bridge yet. If you genuinely like her then enjoy her and be there for her as a friend, but be open about the fact that you are constantly pursuing other women. You can game her up from time to time, but don't get too invested in it. Chicks in this spot loooovvveee to mess with the minds of the other men they know.. Ego stroking I believe it's called. Your best bet is to ride all that out with a smile on your face and yet never be the sucker who plays into it, imo |
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| Author: | Ace-es [ Tue Feb 07, 2012 6:58 pm ] |
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Thank you, and you guys are right, at first I was in mental rejection of fuze's idea because I saw it as counter productive. Now however, I realize that both of you are right. I think I recall some PUA saying that the ideas that AFC's think as counter productive such as the "Hands off the merchandise" neg are the most productive. Besides like Fuze said, I could do better and I know I can. Thank you guys for the advice |
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