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Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:37 am ]
Post subject:  I may have just screwed up my whole life! Need advice
OK long story short I broke up with one of my girlfriends, HBlond yesterday, because she couldn't deal with me sleeping with other women, going to clubs and being a 'her words'"player".... and then found out she is pregnant tonight!

It gets worse. I'm seeing her sister HBrunette too. And have made plans to go clubbing with her tomorrow. night and a concert Saturday. Both nights she will be staying over with me. And I know she will tell her sister HBlond since she told her last weekend when I k-closed her which caused the fight that ended the relationship.

So my issue is, if HBlond finds out I'm sleeping with her sister too things could get ugly. And since she is now my child's mother that's bad... on the other hand I've already broken up with her and have her sister lined up ready to go... so do I stay a player and keep fucking around or do I get back with HBlond. Who BTW I'm in love with but due to my player status can't stay faithful to. I tried to talk her into an open relationship but she's too jealous.

Am I out of the game? :roll:
Author:  Pacer [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:42 am ]
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For me, you should be worrying about the bigger picture:

HBBlonde is pregnant - are you ready to be a dad? Is she ready? Is this something that could work?

The gaming stuff certainly comes seconds to this, you seem to be doing pretty well in that department (the sister thing would be great if you hadn't managed to get one of them pregnant).
Author:  KingOtto [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:43 am ]
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Dude! This is fucked up in so many ways...

It depends on what you want and what you can do. If I was you I would go get the blond, form a nice family and quite being a player. Also, the girl isn't too jealous, she is just normal!

Cheers.
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:50 am ]
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That's kinda what I'm getting at. I don't know what to do. I'm 23 self employed living a bachelor lifestyle. She is 19, in nursing school, and wants me to settle down with her. I just got out of the only marriage I'll ever be in last year. I'm not at all ready to be with one women. I have no problem raising a child... but I can't see the relationship working out between the mother and I.

So what am I left to do? I'm sorry if none of this makes any since. I'm not exactly thinking straight right now... I'm at a loss.
Author:  papichulo818 [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:52 am ]
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You fucked up, I have no sympathy for you. Should have thought twice before you put your dick in her (likely raw too).

Your priorities are out of whack you're worried about not getting busted when you knocked up a chick you had no plan on staying with.


Class move, dipshit. You've made your bed, now sleep in it.

Dumb mufugga!

And ya, I just negged your ass 3 points. Nite
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:58 am ]
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Yeah I knocked up a girl on birth control the one time I didn't use a condom. I made my bed I get that. But do I try to make a relationship work that I'm unhappy in... knowing it's inevitably going to fail. Or do I live my life happily and focus on being the best father I can be... without a relationship with the mother.
Author:  EddieFews [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:59 am ]
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I don't know dude, ass holes like your turn these chicks into lesbians lol

Fuck it though, its happening.. Just do what you have to do..

Her sister though bro? Hell, if you get her pregnant too you'll have one hell of a story to tell the kids.

An abortion may just be in the best interest of both of you.. Think it through though dude. This is not something you should let us help you decide.

I would never fuck a girls sister that been nothing but good to me though, the karma from that isn't going to be pretty
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:05 am ]
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And ya, I just negged your ass 3 points. Nite
Like I care about points right now. And I would love to be with her if she wasn't so damn jealous. We got in a fight... she didn't like the way I live my love life so I told her I'm not changing...

It's not like I'm walking out on my child here. I just don't know what to do about the mother.
Author:  EddieFews [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:06 am ]
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And ya, I just negged your ass 3 points. Nite
Like I care about points right now. And I would love to be with her if she wasn't so damn jealous. We got in a fight... she didn't like the way I live my love life so I told her I'm not changing...

It's not like I'm walking out on my child here. I just don't know what to do about the mother.
Her sister though?

You seem like you don't have an issue getting chicks, did you have to stoop that low?
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:12 am ]
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Abortion isn't an option! I'm not walking out on my kid here I don't see where you guys are getting that idea.

I know it's my shit storm but you strangers and my roommate are the only ones who I can go to with this... I figure you'll be the least bias.
Author:  papichulo818 [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:15 am ]
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Abortion isn't an option! I'm not walking out on my kid here I don't see where you guys are getting that idea.

I know it's my shit storm but you strangers and my roommate are the only ones who I can go to with this... I figure you'll be the least bias.
Figure your shit out with her. Go seek counselling if necessary.
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:20 am ]
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And ya, I just negged your ass 3 points. Nite
Like I care about points right now. And I would love to be with her if she wasn't so damn jealous. We got in a fight... she didn't like the way I live my love life so I told her I'm not changing...

It's not like I'm walking out on my child here. I just don't know what to do about the mother.
Her sister though?

You seem like you don't have an issue getting chicks, did you have to stoop that low?
It started with me dancing with a random HB9 who I k-closed on the dance floor after my boner opener. I found out afterwards she was my girlfriends sister. I ejected then... but I hit her back up after I broke up with HBlond. Thinking it was no big deal. But now I have this situation to contend with. I can't tell her about the baby either... since HBlond asked me to keep it hush hush for now.

So I'm not sure if I should cancel or keep acting like nothing happened.
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 6:44 am ]
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So I've learned that this is obviously not the place to ask personal questions... note to self.

Thanks a bunch.
Author:  Kalel [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 7:57 am ]
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So I've learned that this is obviously not the place to ask personal questions... note to self.

Thanks a bunch.
Don't take it personally, the guys here aren't really prepared to answer questions about these kinds of situations. A lot of the guys in this section are probably a lot younger than you, and like you would be completely lost if this happened to them. This isn't really the forum for those kinds of topics.

Honestly, my advice for you is to first forget about the sister. You have a baby on the way with a girl you don't want to be with, the last thing you need is more drama in your life. You Know for a fact that no good will come from pursuing anything with your new baby mamma's sister. That's just asking for all kinds of trouble. So just drop it, there are plenty of other women out there.

Secondly, you need to have an open and honest discussion with your baby mama. You need to be clear with her that you don't want a relationship with her, but you are going to be part of the baby's life. You need to be upfront with her about this. It's going to be a hard conversation, but if you are man enough to make a baby, you are man enough to talk to the mother and come up with a plan.

Thirdly, start saving money. You said you're self employed, I don't know what that means exactly, but you're going to have to start working a lot harder and spending a lot less money on yourself. The cost of a child is ridiculous nowadays, you need to put aside as much money as you can for the baby. This is going to mean sacrifice, and it is going to change your "bachelor lifestyle" but that's just the way things are and you are going to have to deal with it.

Lastly, don't fuck up things with her family. You are going to have to spend a lot of time with them in the future if you want see your child, so don't do anything to make them hate you, like date her sister, or anything dramatic. Try as hard as you can to get along peacefully with her and her family, for your child's sake, because that your baby's family too.
Author:  hardkink [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 2:57 pm ]
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Well you're obviously right. But this is the only forum I'm a member of where I don't personally know a large majority of the members. I network my other forums for business and am a vendor, so I wouldn't want to post this there.

As far as my business... I own a fabrication company. And the money thing isn't too big of an issue.

As far as her family... its already jacked up. All three sisters were raised by their grandma. Their mom is in prison and dad isn't in the picture. So after their grandma dies they're without family.

But thank you for replying with a serious answer and good advice.
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