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Author:  jrs87 [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 6:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Using less attractive girls to build confidence?
I often don't bother talking to girls because they're nor attractive enough and I think this mentality is stopping me get better at pua. Last night I didn't talk to any girls because I couldn't see any attractive enough to bother with. i think its because I know I'm good looking and so I think I deserve better or can get better than mediocre girls but it just means that I can't really talk to that many girls and so I guess I'm lowering my chances of getting laid.

I'm thinking I should lower my standards and just talk to and sleep with girls that are OK attractiveness so that I get better at pua. I think I could pull 6/10 girls fairly easily but never do it.

anyone else have this problem?[/list]
Author:  Snarg [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 7:16 pm ]
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Definitely go for a few of them. I'm constantly juggling 6/10s just to boost my ego. Just make sure you don't give them any indication that they're more or less being used, because that's morally wrong etc. Make them happy in exchange for building your own confidence - fair trade.
Author:  Pinocchio [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 7:35 pm ]
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Stop being an unsociable dick and talk to everyone. By the same token, don't sleep with anyone you're not attracted to.
Author:  0uch [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 8:16 pm ]
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I use to be there. At least within my first year. Only talk to hot girls. Guess what? Is your insecurities that is stopping you. I also wasn't getting laid back then.

Never judge a book by its cover (this will also help eliminate. Approach Anxiety) Approach them, hot or not. I have approach some super hot girls, as I got into comfort building, turns out they were actually nerdy and stuff, which I would have never figured. I have approach ugly girls who you would think there nice, but turns out there complete bitches.

Even if you don't find the girl attractive, approach. Who knows, she might be really cool down to earth girl who you got a lot in common with it. You can always keep her as a friend and bring her out to social proof yourself when you come out. After all, a cool social circle where you can introduce girls to will be a DHV on it's own and will make your job a lot easier, especially when it comes to pulling them the same night.
Author:  jrs87 [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 8:47 pm ]
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Yeah I think I'm so preoccupied with getting girls that I'm not really being sociable. I mean I'm bring sociable with the friend I came with but probably not as much as usual and I'm not being sociable at all with anyone else really. Is it better to have the mindset of being just generally sociable and letting the pickups happen incidentally rather than focusing just on getting girls?

And I think I will try and sleep with 6/10 girls for a bit just to make sure I actually get some.
Author:  Suriyel [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 9:05 pm ]
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I had this exact same problem never to interested in talking to other dudes unless they new HBs or never talked to the lesser HBs mainly because I am an unsociable fuck and a lot of people annoy me. Once I got passed my own arrogance and the disdain for others and started to be socialable and friendly my social circles grew which also meant the number of HBs that surround me grew as well.

I'm not saying saying you're arrogant or anything was just stating what my situation was.

It's better to come off as that one fun guy who gets along/has fun with everyone than a guy who reserves himself to his own group.

Fun fact; ugly girl have friends, sometimes really hot ones.
Author:  dirty6 [ Thu Feb 02, 2012 10:07 pm ]
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unattractive girls can work to you're advantage bro.

1. Practice
If you know in your heart that you dont like this girl then at least practice your skills on her. She'll be easier to talk to and you wont get nervous at all.
WARNING: be careful though practicing on less attractive girls may result in stalkers or clingyness

2. others will notice
Attractive girls will take notice that the unattractive girl is getting more attention than her. this will trigger the "why is she getting more attention, i'm hot!" mentality
Author:  jrs87 [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 2:45 pm ]
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WARNING: be careful though practicing on less attractive girls may result in stalkers or clingyness
lol This made me laugh
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2. others will notice
Attractive girls will take notice that the unattractive girl is getting more attention than her. this will trigger the "why is she getting more attention, i'm hot!" mentality
I didn't think of this actually, good idea.
Author:  Suriyel [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 3:32 pm ]
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unattractive girls can work to you're advantage bro.


WARNING: be careful though practicing on less attractive girls may result in stalkers or clingyness


Attractive girls will take notice that the unattractive girl is getting more attention than her. this will trigger the "why is she getting more attention, i'm hot!" mentality
haha I never thought about these two, good point. I usually talked to the less attractive girls in secret for I am a proud fuck and the amount of ridicule I would receive from my peers aka friends would be to no end. :lol:
Author:  Ezo [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 5:19 pm ]
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To the OP.

I was training a wing with the same problem. He would always find an excuse for not opening sets. Either the girls were not hot enough or if they were hot, they were supposedly rude or bitches or whatever. This stems from bad confidence and unless he started to build up his confidence somewhere, he would not have improved. Now I forced him to approach not too attractive girls and slowly his confidence went up. Now he is incredible sociable.

Take this little story and imagine yourself as my wing. Same thing.
Author:  0uch [ Fri Feb 03, 2012 7:08 pm ]
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Fun fact; ugly girl have friends, sometimes really hot ones.
LOL! one of the hottest girl I hooked up with up to date, is through sarging this ugly fat girl. Actually, she hooked me up with couple of her friends. This is exactly why you need to be social.

I am social, but I don't go around talking to guys, waste of time. Just girls! Approach every set you see possible.
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