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| Author: | CanadianHollywood [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 5:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | To Text Or Not To Text |
Hey Gang, I'm new to the forums, but have been practicing PUA for about 3 years now. I consider myself decent at it but still encounter, from time to time, some roadblocks. A few nights ago I met this stunning brunette who was exactly my type. I was at a close girlfriend's house who knew I was into PUA so I couldn't use any of my good material on this brunette without my close GF knowing. I ended up doing quite well, got her bbm, but didn't feel I built up enough attraction as I usually do. She was giving me IOI's all night, agreeing with all my likes and interests, and loving my cocky/funny NEGs I'd throw at her. I am really into this girl and she is coming back to party this weekend. The question is: Do I instigate texting her? If so, how often? I don't want to lower my social value by seeming needy and giving her the upper hand. What do you think? |
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| Author: | FCgame [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 6:30 pm ] |
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Forget about texting, you should be asking when are you going to call her? Not texting her, call her just try to think a little bit what you are going to say and relax that's all |
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| Author: | Hakuna [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 6:54 pm ] |
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I know the norm is to always call instead of text but honestly ive gotten equally good results with texting. It gives your approach a sense of Plausible deniability in case you're worried you might be communicating too much interest too quickly. The goal is only to create a spike in attraction, and then to be laid back and let HER do the chasing. The best seductions are the ones where the seduced feel as though they are doing the seducing Text her whenever u feel like it, dont over analyze the situation. Theres nothing wrong with directly conveying your attraction for her, as long as its not seen as a desperate type of attraction. He who waits, masturbates. Embrace Action, never sit around wondering if itd be a good idea to do an approach or to escalate. Your question about seeming too needy is out of context. Its not the act of texting that will make u seem needy, its HOW u text or talk to her. If shes taking 30 minutes to respond but you reply in 2 seconds, she retains the power position. If you barrage her with texts and compliments while she barely reciprocates, you will come off as desperate. You have to display caveman secksuality. Let her know you're DTF but if she says no, you still have a plethora of other bossoms to take refuge in. As for your gf knowing about PUA, irrelevant. First, obviously she shouldnt... NEVER tell a girl about Game, you will ALWAYS live to regret it. Second, when a girl does know about your diabolical talent, play it off with Natural aloofness - amused mastery. The more you worry about it, the more you ACKNOWLEDGE it as a problem, the more it actually becomes one |
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| Author: | CanadianHollywood [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 10:20 pm ] |
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Thanks Hakuna, very insightful. My fear stemmed from many girls who tell me about how these guys text them non-stop and it is an instant turnoff, however you hit it right on the nail by saying it's "how you talk to them." I'm going to give it a shot, perhaps build some comfort before she comes back to party this weekend. Cheers |
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| Author: | Tundra [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 10:26 pm ] |
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Neither method is superior. Understandably some people are better at one than the other but you shouldn't look at a phone call any differently than you would look at actually standing next to her. Texting is fine just don't confess your undying love and you should be ok honestly. |
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| Author: | ItsAlwaysOn [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 11:01 pm ] |
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CH- it's sad that youve been doing this for 3 years yet you cant talk to a girl without using any of your "good material". that really bums me out. at any rate, definitely text her. just do it correctly. dont be needy. be witty, charming, playful, funny, etc. the thing you mentioned about them being annoyed with guys texting them nonstop doesnt apply to guys theyre attracted to. besides, youre not going to do that anyway, so its not really a problem. girls ALWAYS have their phones right near them and are pretty much always excited to get a text from a cool guy theyre interested in. |
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