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Author:  momoguru [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 10:38 am ]
Post subject:  Is she interested ? Or should i stop trying ?
I can't decide if this girl is interested or not. And probably need some sanity check, as i am about to call it quit with her.

We flirted for a while, and made plan for her to come over my place to cook a meal for me for dinner, she said she was free and would love to. Now that was a week ago. I then text her a day before to re-confirm the date, she didn't reply my text or call. I stopped at there. I know that she definitely got the message, but for some reason is ignoring my text.

I was annoyed, but decided to be patience. So I ignored her for two days, then texted her

"hey you, where my dinner ?? ;)" which she promptly replied "lol!!!"

i stop messaging there, as really i don't think there anything i can text after a "lol" reply.

next day she text me to ask how i was doing. I replied her the next day, told her i was doing great, and invited her to a cafe. She didn't reply.

Prior to that my friend is organizing a trip to the shooting range. I invited her along, and she seems interested. I reconfirm if she was interested again today, and she said yes, but she wanted to invited 3 other of her friends. I was annoyed but i told her it's alright.

Should i be alright with that? and what do i do ?
Author:  adaption [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 5:17 pm ]
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how are you 100% sure she got your "re-confirmation" message? , i wouldnt recomend ignoring her, it might just make her angry at you and she'l probably think your acting like a baby, when she txted back lol it could be for three reasons, 1. ussualy short awnser replies means she isnt intrested, 2. she could be busy and txted you the first thing she thougt, or 3. all she could think to put was lol.... my guess would be number one seiing as how you ignored her and didnt put alot of what we call "hooks" in your conversation, a hook is a subject she can hook onto and both of you can go into detail about, for instance a hook would be how much you love going to the fair, then she would respond on how much she likes it.. then you could talk about what you liked about it in detail, shed do the same... basis of a conversation your both involved in it, but simply putting wheres my dinner :) doesnt leave her much room to reply with anything.i wouldnt get to angry if shes inviting her freinds, its what ive heard it called a chick buffer, if she brings her freinds she'll feel more safe beacuse shes around people she knows on a deeper level. where as if she went alone then she might not feel so secure.
Author:  EddieFews [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 5:30 pm ]
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She isn't that interested, and that is mainly because there is NO rapport... Your not talking to her on the phone, your not building a connection.. You just keep inviting her out. She doesn't trust you, of course she wants to bring friends. Let her friend go and just have fun, don't make the day about her.. And start CALLING her dude.. You guys just don't get this. Call these girls, I called a chick I met online for the first time last night at 12:30 am and she was over at my house at 1.. Call these girls! Thats to all you guys
Author:  momoguru [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 6:06 am ]
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adaption: Using 'whatapp' it tell when someone is online, and when was the last time they were online.

You guys are both right, there is a lot of sticking point in how i should have handled this.

Fuze: How do i build rapport if she doesn't answer my call or return my calls. Tried calling her a couple of time, and she only reply to text. What do i do in this situation? We did meet up over coffee and talk about guns, which got me to invited her to the shooting range.
Author:  waty19 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 7:08 am ]
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If she won't pick the phone up there's not much you can do. She's either not interested or just very shy. I'd stop texting her. When she catches on and ask you what's up just tell her you don't feel like texting. If she wants to talk then to pick the phone up when you call and to come over and make that meal she flaked out on.. Tell her your not in middle school anymore. I'd just be straight up with her. Let her know your noting putting up with her BS. You don't have much to lose.
Author:  KingOtto [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 1:39 pm ]
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I don't believe that it would be in your best interest to keep trying with this girl. However, if you ignore her and lose interest in her she might turn things around. If I was in your shoes I would think to myself to better stop trying so I will not get hurt even more in the future and get over her quicker now that its earlier rather than later.

Believe me I have been in your sittuation loads of times and I am a sensitive guy but I learned to get over it at the very early stages of my attempts to win a girl that is not interested in me, and there are plenty of girls not interested in me :)
Author:  Thedutchone [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 1:46 pm ]
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Move on.
That LOL should be enough to get it.
Author:  momoguru [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 2:31 am ]
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Okay... moving along.
Author:  mikeygreeny [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 3:11 am ]
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She isn't that interested, and that is mainly because there is NO rapport... Your not talking to her on the phone, your not building a connection.. You just keep inviting her out. She doesn't trust you, of course she wants to bring friends. Let her friend go and just have fun, don't make the day about her.. And start CALLING her dude.. You guys just don't get this. Call these girls, I called a chick I met online for the first time last night at 12:30 am and she was over at my house at 1.. Call these girls! Thats to all you guys

If you text with a girl back and forth (met online) would a random call at one time be creepy ?

What topics would be best to talk bout on the first call?

Would it be good to call her a day before your date?
Author:  papichulo818 [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:43 am ]
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If she's interested, you should probably stop trying...
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