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Author:  Restless1900 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 2:44 am ]
Post subject:  My sad story.

Hello.

I am a twenty year old student, and a complete loser with women. You wouldn't think so by looking at me though.

I'm quite good looking, I have good hair, I dress well and I have a good body (sixpack abs, no joke).

I can comfortably lead, I'm funny and I have no problem talking in front of a crowd.

I honestly believe that a lot of guys envy me, but I also believe that those guys have balls five times as big as mine, because when it comes to girls, i'm a failure.

My problem is this: I can attract women, and I know when they are attracted to me, but I am completely unable to pull the god damn trigger. I avoid escalating and I make excuses to avoid women who are into me. I've litteraly had a girl tell me "you have to make the first move" and still I was unable to do so.

Tell me guys. How can I fix this?

Author:  Draft [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 3:13 am ]
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You can't change, it's rigged into your mind and you'll never do it.

I'm joking.
Really it's not that big of a deal. At least you can attract women.
I asked a girl out like a week ago and got rejected. Wasn't that bad, but I'm not even sure if it was the right move now, since I didn't read the signals right. If I was in your position I'd definatly had done something and been very happy.

If you are sure that she's interrested then what's the big deal?
Another thing is that you can use your anxiety. Tell yourself that's now is the time, that it's now or never. Tell a good friend that you're gonna do it so you can't back out without stepping on your reputation. That's what I did, I told my best friend i'd do it that night, and I also told my parents and I did it because if I hadn't it would have been worst then rejection after having said to both my best friend and my parents.

-So what did she said?
-I didnt do it...
-Your such a dork.

I couldnt have faced that.

What i regret is not having seen the right signs.

Author:  LD [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 9:30 am ]
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hey dudes.

@Draft: a man can look an entire night for signals and not see them even if 100 have passed. you got so stuck up with the goddamn signals, because your mind is so fixed on kissing/fucking, and you miss all of them.

The key point in escalating is having the balls the do it. Yes, you already knew that :). But its the only thing we can do to help you as it is you yourself that needs to cross the line of your own "comfort zone". It is you who needs to "take the risk of rejection". We cant do it for you. Also, all of these routines are all good and well, but they are training wheels. at some point in a routine, you still need to grab your balls and just go for it. This is something i wrote recently to somebody else in PM. i hope it helps out:

There is two things you can do: all mode one (which i like very much) or the slow way. Mode one is just going to her, tell her you like, she is sexy and you wanna fuck her. A more playfull variant is where you flirt/tease her on a heavily sexual side (which i like the best), then just bombard her with the real thing. Imagine if the HB all of sudden would say to you: i wanna fuck you hard. You would be nailed to the ground and horny like melting butter in a heated pan. When the attraction is there, stating such a strong intent has an amazing effect. You feel like the boss of bosses, no matter if she says yes or no, and she will respect you for it.

On the other hand, you have the subtle slow way. In there, you 'escalate' your intent step by step. That means that you play some kind of a trading game. If she does something unique, that shows who she is, you compliment her on it. Every compliment should be closer to something sexual. After two or three, you can state interest, by saying something like: i think you are sexy. And i can hear you say: but i thought this was the subtle way? yes amigo, but no matter what, and remember this, no matter what, at some point you NEED to show this kind of interest and you need to be prepared to be turned down. Normally, if you escalate slowly, there is less chance in a rejection, for the exact same reason as the mode one thing: when the attraction is there, and you show interest, she will only get more excited.

Cheers and good luck to both. If there are questions, please shoot!

Author:  Fvckitimout [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 9:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My sad story.

Quote:
Hello.

I am a twenty year old student, and a complete loser with women. You wouldn't think so by looking at me though.

I'm quite good looking, I have good hair, I dress well and I have a good body (sixpack abs, no joke).

I can comfortably lead, I'm funny and I have no problem talking in front of a crowd.

I honestly believe that a lot of guys envy me, but I also believe that those guys have balls five times as big as mine, because when it comes to girls, i'm a failure.

My problem is this: I can attract women, and I know when they are attracted to me, but I am completely unable to pull the god damn trigger. I avoid escalating and I make excuses to avoid women who are into me. I've litteraly had a girl tell me "you have to make the first move" and still I was unable to do so.

Tell me guys. How can I fix this?
Lol what exactly is "good hair" xD. Sorry but your descriptions i started to imagine Fabio :P

On a serious note, "good looks" or "confidence" or good anything truly is irrelevant to a girl if you do not know how to connect to her.

To a girl, a guy who is a 5 suddenly becomes a 10 when they establish a connection.

How do you connect? Have fun with her, and while you are both having fun, let her know you bit by bit and get to know her bit by bit. Then when you think you admire her be honest and tell her she is "fun, or amazing, or cute" andthing to let her know you enjoy your time with her. Dont be too seripus dont overthink

Author:  Restless1900 [ Sun Jan 29, 2012 6:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My sad story.

Thanks for the replies guys.

The point of this thread is that I have every reason to escalate with many of the girls I meet, but for some reason I can't get over my fear of rejection. It's like I'd rather be lonely than rejected.
Quote:
Lol what exactly is "good hair" xD. Sorry but your descriptions i started to imagine Fabio :P
Not bald would be a very good example.

Author:  silverito [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 2:22 am ]
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I had same issue when i was a virgin. Exactly same thing - chicks liked me, I liked, I was very social, everything was perfect except that I was afraid to escalate :)
After losing V card that was gone.

Author:  skills360 [ Mon Jan 30, 2012 2:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My sad story.

Quote:
Quote:
Hello.

I am a twenty year old student, and a complete loser with women. You wouldn't think so by looking at me though.

I'm quite good looking, I have good hair, I dress well and I have a good body (sixpack abs, no joke).

I can comfortably lead, I'm funny and I have no problem talking in front of a crowd.

I honestly believe that a lot of guys envy me, but I also believe that those guys have balls five times as big as mine, because when it comes to girls, i'm a failure.

My problem is this: I can attract women, and I know when they are attracted to me, but I am completely unable to pull the god damn trigger. I avoid escalating and I make excuses to avoid women who are into me. I've litteraly had a girl tell me "you have to make the first move" and still I was unable to do so.

Tell me guys. How can I fix this?
Lol what exactly is "good hair" xD. Sorry but your descriptions i started to imagine Fabio :P

On a serious note, "good looks" or "confidence" or good anything truly is irrelevant to a girl if you do not know how to connect to her.

To a girl, a guy who is a 5 suddenly becomes a 10 when they establish a connection.

How do you connect? Have fun with her, and while you are both having fun, let her know you bit by bit and get to know her bit by bit. Then when you think you admire her be honest and tell her she is "fun, or amazing, or cute" andthing to let her know you enjoy your time with her. Dont be too seripus dont overthink

fuckitomount is back, good too see... To the op, you have to get rid of you limiting belief, change your mind set, write down everyday i am good with woman and i can escalate, WRITE IT DOWN, start visualizing yourself as being good with woman and able to escalate... also get all books of 60 yoc.. Start with this:

http://60yearsofchallenge.files.wordpre ... n-vibe.pdf

and:


http://www.datingskillsreview.com/ep-17 ... -andersen/

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