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| Author: | joeyjoe42 [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 2:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Alot of people say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship! |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 3:02 am ] |
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A " PUA" shouldn't be in a exclusive relationship in my opinion. |
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| Author: | Snarg [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 3:08 am ] |
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^ wat. |
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| Author: | Kieran Black [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 3:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Alot of people say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship!
I think what Fuze was getting at is, do you want to be a PUA or do you want to be in an exclusive relationship?You shouldn't be using PUA tactics on your long term girlfriend, they are designed for picking up strangers in bars and juggling a polygamous lifestyle. If you have been going out for 3 months then she is not going to start treating you like shit if you cut her a bit of slack, you have already established who wears the pants in the relationship there is no need to beat a dead horse. |
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| Author: | joeyjoe42 [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 3:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Quote: Alot of people say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship!
I think what Fuze was getting at is, do you want to be a PUA or do you want to be in an exclusive relationship?You shouldn't be using PUA tactics on your long term girlfriend, they are designed for picking up strangers in bars and juggling a polygamous lifestyle. If you have been going out for 3 months then she is not going to start treating you like shit if you cut her a bit of slack, you have already established who wears the pants in the relationship there is no need to beat a dead horse. I wish I had some points to give you lol have been very helpful and I really appreicate your time especially saying let my guard down. Because I do need to don't get me wrong I do treat her well like buying her a surfboard for christmas taking her little sisters out and her single dad who getting old. I do alot for her its just when she pisses me off I get real fucking mad becuase like you said I feel like shes controlling me like my ex. But she does give me attitude quite alot how would say I should deal with it? |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 3:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Quote: Alot of people say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship!
I think what Fuze was getting at is, do you want to be a PUA or do you want to be in an exclusive relationship?You shouldn't be using PUA tactics on your long term girlfriend, they are designed for picking up strangers in bars and juggling a polygamous lifestyle. If you have been going out for 3 months then she is not going to start treating you like shit if you cut her a bit of slack, you have already established who wears the pants in the relationship there is no need to beat a dead horse. You want her falling in love, not complaing that your treating her like shit.. 3 months is still the "honey moon period".. And personally i think the honey moon period can last as long as you put the effort in. |
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| Author: | Kieran Black [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 4:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
All women like to nag and complain, if they didn't then their heads would probably explode. What I have always done with my girlfriends is whenever they give me attitude I tell them "If you keep this up then I'm going home" and then if they keep it up I am true to my word and I go home until they call and beg me to come back or say they're sorry. After the first couple of times you do this they know you are serious and they know that when you say enough is enough and put your foot down then that's that. Of course if you did it every single argument it would lose affect after awhile but as long as they know your limit then they should be careful not to cross the line in the future. Or they know what will happen. In essence, If my girlfriend is being really annoying then I treat her like a child chucking a tantrum. I once even threatened to bend her over my knee and give her a spanking in front of a room full of people. I was joking, but it made my point none the less. This isn't conditioning, it is just standing your ground and sticking by what you say. Some would call that integrity. |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 4:49 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: All women like to nag and complain, if they didn't then their heads would probably explode.
I agree 98% lol.. I just disagree with your delivery on the go home thing.. I've learned not to give woman ultimatums. Your still kind of leaving her the option to further with her behavior. This will also lead to her testing you in the future. And if your wearing the pants you don't want your woman testing you.What I have always done with my girlfriends is whenever they give me attitude I tell them "If you keep this up then I'm going home" and then if they keep it up I am true to my word and I go home until they call and beg me to come back or say they're sorry. After the first couple of times you do this they know you are serious and they know that when you say enough is enough and put your foot down then that's that. Of course if you did it every single argument it would lose affect after awhile but as long as they know your limit then they should be careful not to cross the line in the future. Or they know what will happen. In essence, If my girlfriend is being really annoying then I treat her like a child chucking a tantrum. I once even threatened to bend her over my knee and give her a spanking in front of a room full of people. I was joking, but it made my point none the less. This isn't conditioning, it is just standing your ground and sticking by what you say. Some would call that integrity. I would just tell her, I'm not liking the way your acting twice, and on the third time I'd just say, " I'm going home" and actually do it. |
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| Author: | Kieran Black [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 5:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
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I agree 98% lol.. I just disagree with your delivery on the go home thing.. I've learned not to give woman ultimatums. Your still kind of leaving her the option to further with her behavior. This will also lead to her testing you in the future. And if your wearing the pants you don't want your woman testing you.
I've always wanted to try "I have the dick. So I make the rules" but I'm stashing that one away for a special occassion XD
I would just tell her, I'm not liking the way your acting twice, and on the third time I'd just say, " I'm going home" and actually do it. |
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| Author: | danthedan [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 11:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Alot of peopleLet me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.
Let me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece of shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship! Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece if shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! |
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| Author: | joeyjoe42 [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 12:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Quote: Alot of peopleLet me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.
Let me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece of shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship! Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece if shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! Without being arrogant I have been said to be extemely good looking, but i learnt fast growing up looks get you knowwhere hence why I started learning pick up! She has issues with abuse in the past so I believe taht has something to do with it, I woul never hit a woman, but the fact is I'm not putting on the dick head thing I generally am quick a bit of a prick. I do love her so I don't want to go too far! However I loved your reply it definately was very accurate! |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 1:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
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I wish I had some points to give you lol have been very helpful and I really appreicate your time especially saying let my guard down. Because I do need to don't get me wrong I do treat her well like buying her a surfboard for christmas taking her little sisters out and her single dad who getting old. I do alot for her its just when she pisses me off I get real fucking mad becuase like you said I feel like shes controlling me like my ex. But she does give me attitude quite alot how would say I should deal with it?
You seem to have this bit of emotional baggage. Is she really trying to control you or do you just perceive it that way? What do you mean with that she gives you attitude?
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| Author: | danthedan [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 2:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My Girlfriend says I treat her like shit? |
Quote: Quote: Quote: Alot of peopleLet me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.
Let me get this straight, most guys couldn't get a 7 or 8 even if they treated her like a queen, yet you somehow have a 10 obsessed with you, even though you treat her like shit?! You must be some sort of legend mate! How the hell did you manage to score that? Just out of interest, are you tall and are you quite handsome? That would (partly) explain it.Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece of shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! say I don't treat my girlfriend right but I just use push pull on her, or reward/ punishment or classic conditioning! Whatever you call it! I get angry at her when she pisses me off and she lives with me so sometimes I can be very hurtful towards her in quite a calm manner. She's obsessed with me and I love her. I just don't know whether to cool down on being such an asshole jerk with her. But I have been pussy whipped before in other relantionships and I aint leeting that happen I think I'm doing verything right except I make her cry almost everyday, she is quite emotional. We've been together for 3 months and she always beggs me not to leave her and that shes wants me forever. Btw you probs won't belive me but she is a staright 10. I quess i just want some clear advice and what a PUA should do in a relantionship! Regarding your so-called 'problem', if she's still with you she obviously enjoys being treated like shit, so I don't know why the hell she's whining! Next time she starts moaning, shut her up by saying "Look, if you really didn't want to be treated like shit, you'd just leave me. Since you're still here, you obviously enjoy it, so I'll continue." Simply put, if she's still with you, she must be attracted to how you're currently treating her, so the last thing you should do is stop! Remember that there are LITERALLY millions (in fact billions) of decent guys out there who would give their right arm to be in your position, and would treat her like a princess. She's obviously tired of being treated nicely, so it looks like she's looking for a sexy tall alpha male dickhead who will mercilessly bully her and treat her like a piece if shit. That kinda thing seems to turn girls on, perhaps she's a masochist who enjoys pain & suffering. As you can tell I'm frustrated that guys like you get 10s like her, and I'm obviously dead jealous (as are all other guys), but I must say, good work mate, you've done very well. You should write a book about pickup, you're clearly an expert at it! I envy you like I envy a billionaire, but I must admire your talent! By the way, tell her she's the perfect example of why decent guys can't get attractive girls and end up depressed/suicidal, all because pretty girls like her prefer to be treated like dirt by heartless bullies, rather than being treated like princesses by decent guys. Ask her if she'd love you even more if you started physically beating her up and kicking her, I bet the honest answer would be Yes – women eh! Without being arrogant I have been said to be extemely good looking, but i learnt fast growing up looks get you knowwhere hence why I started learning pick up! She has issues with abuse in the past so I believe taht has something to do with it, I woul never hit a woman, but the fact is I'm not putting on the dick head thing I generally am quick a bit of a prick. I do love her so I don't want to go too far! However I loved your reply it definately was very accurate! How tall are you, out of interest? Why are you a prick though? :S If I was lucky enough to be blessed with extremely good looks and kept getting checked out by girls I'd be constantly deliriously happy and I'd be nice to everyone because I'd want to give something back to the society that gave me unlimited sexy girl love just because of my face structure and the length of my leg bones. If you're that good-looking, why are you surprised that you're with a 10? |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 2:14 pm ] |
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Danthedan, I bet you're not as ugly as you say over and over again. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Mon Jan 23, 2012 2:25 pm ] |
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OP, you cannot take the emotions you had in your last relationship and just transfer them to the new one. You cannot punish this girl for the things others have done to you. Plus, if she is your girlfriend, you dont need to game her. Sure the mechanisms are the same but tone it down. She pissed you off and you punish her. Is it her being annoying or is it you being sensitive? Who knows. Best case scenario, you do. Until you do and until you stop punishing her for stuff that she hasnt even done yet, you arent ready to be in a relationship. Shape up boy. Sit down and talk to her, get her to help you calibrate your behaviour. Frankly, it will suck and stuff but you need to get over your fear of being "pussywhipped". The reality is as follows: Will you be able to make it work so that you will both feel good and not treated like shit? If yes, work towards a common goal. If no, get yourself another one. |
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