I am 20 years old, and all my life enjoyed to be nice with the people around me. When it came down to girls, I liked to treat them just like everybody else, respecting them, being there when they needed help, and not talking sexual to them(felt like would show no respect).
FUCKING WRONG
I knew that people who were cocky and bad boys (in my dictionary aka ASSHOLES) got all the girls, including mine which made me ask myself "WHY?" . I never wanted to become an ASSHOLE to get the girls, and always had this fight with myself, because at my roots I am a good person. Then after a real life incident with 2 girl, reading this forum and reading some books (most important i would say was women's sexual fantasies) it opened my eyes to see the reality. I had this wrong idea in my head for such a long time, its not about being an ASSHOLE, its about being playful, cocky, fearless, romantic, and in control. Girls love that stuff, which i was blaming them for choosing a "Bad Boy" over a nice guy, but then the same thing i was searching into a girl also. I had to chose between 2 girls, a sluty, stylish, and intriguing girl, and a friendly, good, and innocent girl. To my surprise I chose the sluty one even if it went against my own way of thinking.
All this can be done without changing who I was, and I was pleased to find out the balance. The girls that knew me before, and saw the new me, like through magic started flirting and enjoying my company(which never happened before). I was talking cocky, and sexual with this innocent girl today(an old friend who i wanted before but failed miserable), which kinda made me feel I was gonna crash and burn, but to my surprise she says this: "Haha I like your crazy side, it makes me feel more sane; show it more often."
I feel that I have to THANK this forum so much for leading me in the right direction and opening my eyes. There is just one regret that i have now, i did not see this earlier, in my high school years. Hope my short little experience is gonna help other guys that are in my same situation. Not saying I am good at this, but now I feel great talking and meeting girl, feel alive, I am not afraid of them anymore.
Once more, THANK YOU so much guys for everything
