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Author:  jstar1 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:21 am ]
Post subject:  Girls wearing your hat on dancefloor = IOI?

happens to me a lot when I'm on the dancefloor by random chicks im dancing near. I always wear some sort of hat in the club and am a good dancer compared to everyone else in the club so I usually just enjoy the music and bust out some moves.

Does it mean she's interested or just thinks its a cool hat?

Author:  detox75 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 3:59 am ]
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that's clearly an IoI, the fact that your even asking concerns me.

Author:  waty19 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 4:59 am ]
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What kind of clubs do you go to that allow hats? Most have dress codes...

Author:  jstar1 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 5:26 am ]
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What kind of clubs do you go to that allow hats? Most have dress codes...
most clubs with student nights allow hats which is where I go.

Author:  jstar1 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 6:34 pm ]
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that's clearly an IoI, the fact that your even asking concerns me.
To clarify she was dancing with her group of friends (nearly all female except one or two) and I was dancing in the middle of their circle so they were all watching me get down. She tried to steal my hat but I moved my head and didn't let her then I put it on her myself.

I didn't try to escalate beyond that because I thought it was more of her having fun sort of thing than flirting.

Author:  DboTheHero [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 6:39 pm ]
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I think this could be an IOI but it could also just be a girl acting cocky when she's in a group of her friends. Just make sure you read the situation correctly, you'll be able to tell from other IOIs whether she's interested.

Author:  detox75 [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 7:49 pm ]
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I didn't try to escalate beyond that because I thought it was more of her having fun sort of thing than flirting.
until you get better at calibrating interest assume attraction over friendly, risk creepy, you are better off being labeled as the sexually aggressive creeper then the friendly, safe guy. Your success and game will get better much faster this way. Eventually you will know the difference easily, mostly because you will be deciding her interest level for her.

If your waiting around for a chick to clearly or overtly display or express interest you are blowing the vast majority of opportunities with woman. I know because I did this lame shit for years.

And finally the truth of the matter of "was she being friendly or flirty?" Yes and Yes, the answer isnt mutually exclusive. If the possibility of sexual interest was not in her mien she would never have worn your hate. If a girl asked her "did you like that guy" chances are should would have answered "no" or "i don't know". The hat wearing is a unconscious invitation to escalate. This again is 9/10 opportunities that are going to cross your path, that your in the AFC habit of missing and losing, where as a PUA would always follow up and attempt to escalate.

Author:  Defy [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 9:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girls wearing your hat on dancefloor = IOI?

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happens to me a lot when I'm on the dancefloor by random chicks im dancing near. I always wear some sort of hat in the club and am a good dancer compared to everyone else in the club so I usually just enjoy the music and bust out some moves.

Does it mean she's interested or just thinks its a cool hat?
I wear hats all the time when I'm clubbing, and I can say this is an ioi, but be careful with this. make her work for your hat, don't just give it to her or she'll lose interest so quickly. this happens every time i let her get away with this. if she steels your hat, jump right in, neg her for being grabby, and escalate really quickly. you don't have to talk much or at all.

Author:  Kieran Black [ Sun Jan 22, 2012 9:40 pm ]
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Punch her in the face next time and you TAKE your hat back like a man!

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Just loling.

She would not have taken your hat if she didn't want you to touch her. This is a good sign. I'm surprised you even needed to ask.

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