PUA Forum :: insecure about the amount of guys she has slept with?

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Have to disagree. The number of guys a girl has slept with has zero reflection on her being possible girlfriend material.

You care to explain? I gave an example which was a 23 year old women that slept with 20 guys. The number would show me that her average relationship would be around 5 months if she started at 16. Or she was in long term relationships and then sleeps around in between them. You can do the math in this example anyway you want but it's a lot of guys. Attractive, intelligent women are in relationships normally and don't sleep with every guy that comes their way.

Girls like sex and are human, I understand that. I know we are in the pick up world and we like to think that the girls we go home with or pick up off the street are classy, intelligent, non-damaged girls, but they are not. (Talking about the women that are easy lays)

In my experience, MOST of the girls that have gave it up to me too fast turned out to have low self esteem, daddy issues, baguage, desperate or party girls. The girl I am currently with took 3 weeks to get in the sack. Some of the higher rated girls took a month. This is just my opinion based on my experiences from dealing with girls from different backrounds, social classes, religions, ect... There are exceptions. This is only my defense to my statement of girls who have high amounts of sex partners are not relationship material.

Relationship material girls take more work then your average ONS or second date bangs. I know my skills are pretty good at seducing women on dates, but even if you're a casanova, they classy girls hold out. You are an investment to them, they need to make sure they are not giving the pussy to some loser.

I'm not great with putting thought onto paper but this is my reasoning behind my statement.

Author:	safety [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:25 am ]
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i am with a girl who is younger than i am and has slept with more guys tha i have girls. she is my second ever and i am her fourth. is it normal to be insecure about this sort of thing? because i definately am.

Author:	FCgame [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:32 am ]
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Hey! Most guys are worried about that but ask yourself why are you worried about that? What is it about that fact that bothers you? Is it really important? Remember she's with you now.

Author:	EddieFews [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 10:04 am ]
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Quote: Hey! Most guys are worried about that but ask yourself why are you worried about that? What is it about that fact that bothers you? Is it really important? Remember she's with you now. What he said

Author:	Mack 2.0 [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 1:25 pm ]
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90 percent of the girls have slept with more partners than 90 percent of the men because the alpha male fucks more of them so he gets lots of sex, so do they beta gets rosie palmer so most chicks you fuck will have had many more partner, unless you ARE alpha-man!

Author:	2:35 [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 1:28 pm ]
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I've had 20, I'm 23. She asked me and I was honest. She's 25...I havent asked her... who cares?

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Author:	SmoothOp [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 3:12 pm ]
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Best solution for this problem is to never ask the question. If she asked you exagerate the number to 200 or say you are a virgin, she will drop it or keep hassling you about it. If she keeps asking tell her it's private. Say it in a polite way and smile. I just prefer not to know, because in I have judged girls that I likedin the past because of there numbers. I know judging sounds ignorant but in all honesty, I think you can tell if she is girlfriend material because of her number. Example: 23 year old girl that has slept with 25 guys shows that she can't hold down a solid relationship for a decent amount of time. She might be hard to get along with, a cheater, or doesn't commit. There are obvious exceptions. I think it bothers every man, even if they admit it or not. And if you are just banging her once or in it for a short ride, then fuck it! Who cares, pussy is pussy. Unless attached to a hedious creature then it's gross.

Author:	Snarg [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 3:42 pm ]
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I agree completely with SmoothOp. Also, for a girl, 4 really isn't that much provided she's over the age of, say, 20. What personally bothers me is when it gets beyond 6-7. At that point, as Smooth said, she starts to lose her credibility as girlfriend material, and once she hits 12 or more, I don't even bother anymore.

Author:	jurupa [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:34 pm ]
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Quote: I know judging sounds ignorant but in all honesty, I think you can tell if she is girlfriend material because of her number. Have to disagree. The number of guys a girl has slept with has zero reflection on her being possible girlfriend material.

Author:	2:35 [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 6:50 pm ]
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I think its a personal thing. If I like someone I really don't care how many they have slept with. The girl I'm with now has had 4 serious relationships. Shes 25 so that's what, 4 in maybe 9 years. I've never asked her what her number, the thing I've told myself is 'she could have had 4 or 400 guys before you but that's because she hadn't met you yet. Maybe you should use this line too.

Author:	SmoothOp [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 7:39 pm ]
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Quote: Have to disagree. The number of guys a girl has slept with has zero reflection on her being possible girlfriend material. You care to explain? I gave an example which was a 23 year old women that slept with 20 guys. The number would show me that her average relationship would be around 5 months if she started at 16. Or she was in long term relationships and then sleeps around in between them. You can do the math in this example anyway you want but it's a lot of guys. Attractive, intelligent women are in relationships normally and don't sleep with every guy that comes their way. Girls like sex and are human, I understand that. I know we are in the pick up world and we like to think that the girls we go home with or pick up off the street are classy, intelligent, non-damaged girls, but they are not. (Talking about the women that are easy lays) In my experience, MOST of the girls that have gave it up to me too fast turned out to have low self esteem, daddy issues, baguage, desperate or party girls. The girl I am currently with took 3 weeks to get in the sack. Some of the higher rated girls took a month. This is just my opinion based on my experiences from dealing with girls from different backrounds, social classes, religions, ect... There are exceptions. This is only my defense to my statement of girls who have high amounts of sex partners are not relationship material. Relationship material girls take more work then your average ONS or second date bangs. I know my skills are pretty good at seducing women on dates, but even if you're a casanova, they classy girls hold out. You are an investment to them, they need to make sure they are not giving the pussy to some loser. I'm not great with putting thought onto paper but this is my reasoning behind my statement.

Author:	pumpington [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:29 pm ]
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don't worry man, 4 is a low ass number, you will probably stop giving a shit after a while, as long as she treats you good, you think she is hot, and she isn't upping that number while dating you then it really doesn't matter, and if she ever cheats, now you know you can get a new girl in 2 days lol congrats saftey, glad it worked out for you

Author:	Nadine [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 8:47 pm ]
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Quote: In my experience, MOST of the girls that have gave it up to me too fast turned out to have low self esteem, daddy issues, baguage, desperate or party girls. Didn't you give it up as easily to them as they did to you? Do you consider yourself relationship material?

Author:	SmoothOp [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 9:26 pm ]
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Quote: Didn't you give it up as easily to them as they did to you? Do you consider yourself relationship material? Actually no I don't consider myself relationship material. I'm a selfish, very perverted young man with a fear of commitment. Also I'm a giant male slut(politically correct term I believe) I understand what you're saying and I'm not saying it's a double standard. I just think girl's give up sex for validation and acceptance. It seems like a transaction sometimes, she gives sex, I give nice feelings back. It's unhealthy. Then after I get the sex, I lose interest and stop talking to her. She moves on to the next guy. This is not a very healthy minded person. And yes guys that have sex with 100+ women do have issues too if they are not commitment phobic or sex addicts. I have a natural friend that has slept with 150+ girl's including hookers. He can't stay loyal to any girl, has extreme low self esteem and makes himself feel better by having sex with every girl he can. I wasn't saying this was a one way street. Also I said from my experiences. OP asked for opinions right?

Author:	jurupa [ Wed Jan 11, 2012 11:24 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Have to disagree. The number of guys a girl has slept with has zero reflection on her being possible girlfriend material. You care to explain? I gave an example which was a 23 year old women that slept with 20 guys. The number would show me that her average relationship would be around 5 months if she started at 16. Or she was in long term relationships and then sleeps around in between them. You can do the math in this example anyway you want but it's a lot of guys. Attractive, intelligent women are in relationships normally and don't sleep with every guy that comes their way. Girls like sex and are human, I understand that. I know we are in the pick up world and we like to think that the girls we go home with or pick up off the street are classy, intelligent, non-damaged girls, but they are not. (Talking about the women that are easy lays) In my experience, MOST of the girls that have gave it up to me too fast turned out to have low self esteem, daddy issues, baguage, desperate or party girls. The girl I am currently with took 3 weeks to get in the sack. Some of the higher rated girls took a month. This is just my opinion based on my experiences from dealing with girls from different backrounds, social classes, religions, ect... There are exceptions. This is only my defense to my statement of girls who have high amounts of sex partners are not relationship material. Relationship material girls take more work then your average ONS or second date bangs. I know my skills are pretty good at seducing women on dates, but even if you're a casanova, they classy girls hold out. You are an investment to them, they need to make sure they are not giving the pussy to some loser. I'm not great with putting thought onto paper but this is my reasoning behind my statement. In your example for all I know 5 of those guys she slept with where actual boyfriends where she didn't give it up just like that as she viewed them as boyfriend material where the other 15 guys where one night stands. You have to look at the person and their mental state. There are girls out there that just like to have fun and sleep around, but can hold back when they meet a guy they see as relationship material. Basically what I am saying is you have to look at the why more than the action. I talked to classy girls that where sexually free but when it came to a guy that was dating material they held back. This isn't even getting into swingers and/or open relationships. I bet you a person with mental problems, it being low self esteem. daddy issues, etc will present it self before the sex happens. The sings are not hard to pick up. I guess what I am saying is you have to look at the person.

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Author:	safety [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 12:52 am ]
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Hate to say it nadine but we are guys. Yes there is a double standard. And to clear things up she is 17 so I think that's a high number but that being said I have met most of the guys and you can tell she isn't a slut based on the guys. It bothers me a bit but I think it's just personal insecurity which I will get over eventually as I was the same way with the girl who took my virginity. Anyway thanks for your two cents guys. It's good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way. And cheers pumpington things are going really well.