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Author:  lukeyx [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 2:02 pm ]
Post subject:  fwb is pregnant, i need some serious advice.
Ill explain whats been going on up to this point of where this has happened.
edit: fwb = friend with benefits just to clear things up
we've been having sex for roughly 3 and a half months now, but the last 2 weeks have been complicated, ill cover this bit after.

For the first 2 months we was having sex with a condom, wasn't a problem, but we wanted to do it without, so we waited for the next time she was on her period and she got the injection. For the next few weeks we had sex without a condom, although not as much as before because my exams are coming up.

The last 2 weeks, its been seriously complicated, her friend got involved and told her dad im a dickhead. He was off with me one night while i was at hers and its been complicated since then, we've not been speaking hardly until the other day. Im actually not a dick, her bestfriend is just a stuck up bitch and wants everything her way, she's very manipulative to her and is actually an arsehole herself, ive never liked her.

Last night she told me she was late for her period, didnt think much of it as i thought it would just be the injection that done this. This morning she took the test and told me theres 2 blue lines thats come up on the test. I'm in total shock and speechless with no idea what to say or do or how to go around it. I need some serious advice here. I don't want to say 'go and get an abortion' as she could use it against me. I've said literally nothing so far. I mean she could even be lying but i definitely do not want to take that risk.

Btw, note to everyone reading this, use a fucking condom.
Author:  Mr. R.I.P. [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 2:43 pm ]
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Well if your not ready for a kid tell her straight up. You guys tried birth control because you don't want kids. It's not a dick move to say I want you to have an abortion if you bring it to her in the correct manner. Have that conversation. What are WE goin to do. How are your finances? What are your goals? Etc. I have two kids by being dumb and rolling the dice on some cooch. Be a man about it of she's firm on keepIng it just handle your business but have the conversation for your sanity and it can go better than u think
Author:  EddieFews [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 3:25 pm ]
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This will answer your question and give you something to relate to.. Be open minded and tell me what you think http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxq0nwPcAvg
Author:  gtdave [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 3:01 am ]
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Ok, I've just been through a very similar experience as you except it turned out that the girl wasn't pregnant at all.

The first thing that you should get her to do is visit a doctor and get him/her to confirm that she is pregnant via a blood test. If she is already late for her period then this will be 100% accurate!!

If she refuses to do this then she might be talking shit. As in the case of my girl!



Things got stressed between us then the pregnancy card was used....


I'm not saying that your girl is like this but I'd want to see official proof first from a doctor. Try and go with her...then you can discuss your options with a professional.

Best of luck dude
Author:  Marc [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 3:11 am ]
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First off you are in the wrong place asking for help. Here most people are just trying to get laid. But if this is your best Option then :
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The first thing that you should get her to do is visit a doctor and get him/her to confirm that she is pregnant via a blood test. If she is already late for her period then this will be 100% accurate!!
^ YES DO THIS.

(2) Do a DNA test to check if its your kid.

(3) Then you and her need to talk whether She'd like to keep the Kid. How Old are you and How old is she

(4) If she wants to keep the kid then its your decision whether you're ready to support the kid. YOU CANT WALK AWAY OR ABANDON A CHILD THAT THE TWO OF YOU DECIDE TO BRING INTO THIS WORLD.

(5) If Both of you decide or you disagree then you should be frank and open about it with the Girl. Its a joint decision and no one person should have to final say.

A Kid is a serious business and thats one reason why even married couples wait and plan on being parents.
Author:  motownsoul [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 3:28 am ]
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I had to deal with a pregnancy scare a couple years ago... To this day I still don't know if the girl was pregnant, or fucking with me.

There was also a friend present, who on the outside seems like a confident, secure, man...but in reality is a little bitch that just can't have things happen different than what he wants...Plus he was trying to fuck the girl, but I was the one fucking her instead..


Anyway, the time came, her period was late and she was generally feeling a little different..So we both kinda started stressing...oh shit, what if we just made a baby!?! So I told her straight up "We're going to stop everything right now, and wait until we KNOW what is going on..I know you don't want a kid right now, and I certainly am not prepared to take that responsibilty...so let this be a lesson to both of us as we figure out what the best option would be."

Then we proceeded the talk....The tricky thing was, she had a bf...who was locked up. She had swore up and down that she was done with him....and I gave in like a dumb ass.

Anyway, that was her reason for not wanting a kid...So we talked about it...The only options there are, is:
1) Keep it
2) Put it up for adoption
3) Abort it.

We had agreed that it probably wouldn't be a good idea to keep it because neither of us wanted her to be pregnant.
She did not want to keep it and put it up for adoption because then people would know she was pregnant and cheating.
So then came abortion.......She said, to my shock, that she had to get an abortion before and still feels guilty about killing a baby, but that it would be the best option for us. I agreed.

A few days later she claimed she was not pregnant, but was still acting weird...being like "I'm not pregnant, but I really need you inside of me" and shit like that........I just ended up being like "After the past couple weeks, I'm exhausted from all the stress and I really don't feel like doing anything right now"

She eventually became distant...and I get weird looks from people who were around the social circle at that time.


Back to the pussy bitch friend I mentioned earlier.......I walked in the girls house one night and he is there, they're in the kitchen cooking food and I hear him say something along the lines of "Theres only 2 kinds of people in this world..blah blah blah" But he was really trying to convince her to keep the baby if she was pregnant...He was talking shit about me, trying to make me look like the bad guy, while trying to convince her to do something she really didn't want to do, while throwing everything on me as well......Ya know, it takes 2...especially in situations like this. There is no badguy....both people are equally responsible..And it is up to YOU to have the conversation and realize the best option for both of you.

DO NOT force an idea or any opinion/influence on her. Afterall, it really is her decision. Simply discuss the best options for the 2 of you.

And when it comes to the friend....In a friendly manner, point out what that friend is trying to do, and is doing that you do not like or appreciate...And maybe your girl will talk to her friend and get her to step back. Its probably not a good idea you do it, because that would cause more drama

But thats about all I can offer...Take things slow...Take the time to find out what is really going on...and discuss in a calm, cool, collected manner..the best option for you 2 to choose, without forcing anything on the girl.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 4:57 am ]
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i hear wedding bells
Author:  gtdave [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 5:08 am ]
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Quote:
i hear wedding bells
Evil lol
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