PUA Forum :: Okay to send texts everyday?

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Believe me I have done this quite a bit, texting on a daily basis does in fact make you look needy and desperate.

Quit texting her for a while and do stuff to yourself busy, if she likes you back she will eventually text you first.

I should have been more clear. I don't always initiate. Many times she texts me early in the day and I pretty much opt to kept the convo going with her all day through text until its time for one of us to go to bed. I went a few days without texting her and she wanted to know what was up. And several times she has thought I was upset because of me having to cut our text short and then she has always texts me the the next day asking if I'm mad.

I know if I was always the one initiating that would of course be an indicator that I'm way too into her. But I would estimate that we both initiate texts equally. You see I am torn because I want her to know that I am interested and that's why I chose to send her the text after our last meetup, yet at the same time I don't want to overdo it and make her thing I am too clingy.

Author:	Doodle23 [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:21 am ]
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What do you guys think about texting a girl everyday if you guys don't have the time to hang out? My biggest fear is this coming off as needy or clingy. I have been seeing this girl for about 2 months and she works full time and also goes to school full time so she doesn't always have time to do things. We often send each other dozens of texts a day. She always responds to my messages and she has said that my texts are often the best part of her day. She had a break in her schedule and she came to my place the other night and we just talked for about 3 hours or so. ( it was only the second time we have hung out ) I texted her the next morning and said I had a great time and would like to hang out again. She was very friendly in her text and I got no indication that she didn't enjoy herself. I kept it brief and didn't want to come off as clingy and to give her space and made sure to let her be the last one to respond. I want to see this girl again and I want to keep the spark going through text but at the same time I don't want to seem like I'm some crazy clingy stalker guy. Do you guys think its acceptable to keep up the text game on a daily basis?

Author:	Tigereyes [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 6:02 am ]
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Believe me I have done this quite a bit, texting on a daily basis does in fact make you look needy and desperate. Quit texting her for a while and do stuff to yourself busy, if she likes you back she will eventually text you first.

Author:	Doodle23 [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 6:35 am ]
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Quote: Believe me I have done this quite a bit, texting on a daily basis does in fact make you look needy and desperate. Quit texting her for a while and do stuff to yourself busy, if she likes you back she will eventually text you first. I should have been more clear. I don't always initiate. Many times she texts me early in the day and I pretty much opt to kept the convo going with her all day through text until its time for one of us to go to bed. I went a few days without texting her and she wanted to know what was up. And several times she has thought I was upset because of me having to cut our text short and then she has always texts me the the next day asking if I'm mad. I know if I was always the one initiating that would of course be an indicator that I'm way too into her. But I would estimate that we both initiate texts equally. You see I am torn because I want her to know that I am interested and that's why I chose to send her the text after our last meetup, yet at the same time I don't want to overdo it and make her thing I am too clingy.

Author:	Tigereyes [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 7:16 am ]
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Just don't text on a daily basis= too needy unless you two are in a relationship

Author:	papichulo818 [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 7:45 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Believe me I have done this quite a bit, texting on a daily basis does in fact make you look needy and desperate. Quit texting her for a while and do stuff to yourself busy, if she likes you back she will eventually text you first. I should have been more clear. I don't always initiate. Many times she texts me early in the day and I pretty much opt to kept the convo going with her all day through text until its time for one of us to go to bed. I went a few days without texting her and she wanted to know what was up. And several times she has thought I was upset because of me having to cut our text short and then she has always texts me the the next day asking if I'm mad. I know if I was always the one initiating that would of course be an indicator that I'm way too into her. But I would estimate that we both initiate texts equally. You see I am torn because I want her to know that I am interested and that's why I chose to send her the text after our last meetup, yet at the same time I don't want to overdo it and make her thing I am too clingy. If she's initiating, and so long as you aren't feeling she's being needy, than by all means respond.

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Author:	EddieFews [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 12:49 pm ]
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It's not your actions per say; its the mindset behind your actions... And yes you're doing it all wrong, because your mindset is in a needy place. I say this because your worried about fucking up. I find back ages ago when I used to post on the forums about a girl, it always ended up bad for me. text her whenever and whatever you want, your the boss. Who cares if you come across needy or not. If she doesn't like it, you have plenty of girls lined up who do. - Thats the mindset my friend. And 3 hours at your house just to talk? You must not understand how bad girls want sex.

Author:	Slip n Slide [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 1:28 pm ]
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The texting isn't that important. You have a great pattern going, but that's between the texting every day and the occasional breaks, not one or the other. Seems like a good balance. Quote: And 3 hours at your house just to talk? You must not understand how bad girls want sex. MORE IMPORTANTLY. ^^^THIS. What are you THINKING dude?? You're texting her EVERY DAY and not looking to close! You must not care how this relationship goes at all! Don't pussy around with this, CLOSE.

Author:	A_Steal [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 6:24 pm ]
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Don't text to often. I had a relationship with a girl that was based a lot around texts once. When we finally did get to know each other in person we didn't like each other. Texting is a perfectly ok thing to do, just use moderation.

Author:	papichulo818 [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 6:59 pm ]
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3 hours of str8 talking at his place? I didn't even read that! NO! I don't even want to see that! OBSCENE!!!!!

Author:	Doodle23 [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 8:28 pm ]
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LOL. You guys! She is super religious and she would not come over at first because she thought I would try something. She seemed to be really worried about me doing something so i figured the best course of action was to build comfort being it was only the second time we have ever physically met. She actually responded to an ad when I was looking for a roommate and came and looked at my place about a month ago. Turns out my other roommate decided at the last moment to stay so I texted the girl I'm interested to let her know what was going on and that we could still hang out on a friendly level and then she goes " Well I bet you couldn't handle a girl like me " . and she basically took the conversation to more of a potential boyfriend/girlfriend level and We have been texting each other since then. Friday night is the first night we have ever hung out besides when she came and looked at the apartment. She was busting my balls the other night too. Almost everything I said she tried to refute and be argumentative seemingly for no other reason than being argumentative. I tried to return the favor and give her weird looks when she said something off the wall and she would just laugh and jokingly tell me to shut up. It just didn't feel like I should push the issue and that I should wait to try when I see her again.

Author:	Slip n Slide [ Sun Jan 08, 2012 11:56 pm ]
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Quote: I should wait to try when I see her again. Well now you have to, no matter what you should have done. Just make sure you actually try something next time.

Author:	Doodle23 [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 1:56 am ]
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Quote: Quote: I should wait to try when I see her again. Well now you have to, no matter what you should have done. Just make sure you actually try something next time. Yeah the problem is that she is very religious and she has made it clear that she isn't going to let me hit it. She seemed comfortable when we hung out though. She leaned towards me to show me something on her phone when we were sitting on the couch, she kept doing the hair toss thing, and she was giving me a hard time on everything I said. I have told her I play guitar and she has been wanting me to give her lessons and she sort of hinted around that she wanted me to play for her. But I did not want to break out all my tricks right there and I wanted to save the lesson for the next meeting. At any rate I opted to text her today and we have plans to hang out again Friday.

Author:	Snarg [ Mon Jan 09, 2012 2:00 am ]
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Honestly, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Just don't do that thing you mentioned where you text from morning until night...that might be a little too much. You're hanging out with her Friday, then? Focus on kino this time. Touch her, see if she touches you, etc. The more you touch her, the better your chances are with taking things to the next level. If you aren't familiar with how to transition between light to heavy kino properly, Google it. There's plenty of great guides out there that explain it well enough.

Author:	EddieFews [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 12:48 am ]
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You have to stop listing to what chicks say... I just f closed this girl on the 1st night that told me she was hurt by a guy before and is staying celibate until marriage.. Said she been staying strong for 2 years now... Well actually, Day 1 I got a great BJ and she swallowed everything, Day 2 I fucked her.. Ignore asd

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Author:	Hakuna [ Tue Jan 10, 2012 3:23 am ]
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You should be busy killing your enemies, not texting. But fuze is right, frame control is everything. You're coming from a place of fear and no matter how little or how much you text her; that desperate undertone will always bleed out of your words. You need to work on your inner game, not just superficial matters like the frequency of your texting. As for being religious; that's absolute bs. If a girl doesn't want to have secks, that just means she doesn't want to have secks with you.