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| Author: | Century100 [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 6:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | How do you maintain being a challenge? |
So great, you've finally landed her and she's all yours. You are now a pair. Congratulations! But how do you stop yourself from becoming boring in her eyes? And is it really necessary to continue with push pull when she's already yours? Can being too supportive of her REALLY push her away? So many questions...so little time. Thanks guys 
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| Author: | mickeyjackson21 [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 11:44 am ] |
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very important to keep the attraction going and interesting. making fun of her, teasing her, calling her names. but you have to be serious sometimes and be supportive when she's feeling down and need give her emotional feedback. it's all about keeping things balanced. |
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| Author: | Txacoli [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 12:12 pm ] |
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I've been thinking about this for a while. I might be wrong, but as long as you don't turn into an AFC, you can just be your self. If you're humorous it will still be funny, if you tease her it will still have the same effect. I guess the key is that you stay the individual, true to your self, with your goals, your life, your inner game intact. And maybe the most important bit, to not think it will last forever, just live for the moment. That doesn't mean you can't fall deeply in love, but just to know you can survive without her. She will sense that. |
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| Author: | hero99 [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 1:54 pm ] |
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One thing I'd like to point out which I feel is important.. I made this mistake before and it caused problems. Don't start trying to please her. For example if we were planning a night out, I would ask her 'If that was okay..? If she was happy?...' etc etc.. I lost my dominance which she craved. Be careful dude! |
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| Author: | EddieFews [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 3:30 pm ] |
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Challenge Guys always talk about how they were a challenge and did everything right but their girlfriend still left them. Why did they fail? Because they were being a challenge for her. If a woman leaves you that is the good news. But that’s the main difference in mindset. Some guys want girls to break up with them so they will have more free time. And other guys will do anything to keep the girl. When it comes to relationships my overall mindset is I am being a challenge for ME not HER. In other words, I’m way more concerned about me losing interest in her than I am of her losing interest in me. I know too much time together will lower my interest so I limit the number of days we hangout. I know constantly gabbing on the phone, texting, and instant messages will eventually turn me off so I don’t do it. I know arguing, debating and her nagging will make me sick so I diffuse it with humor or ignore it so I will still be able to like her. I know if I don’t go out with my friends, flirt with other women and work on my hobbies I will lose attraction for her. I also know every time I get jealous and hide her away instead of letting her social proof herself I’m decreasing my sexual attraction for her. I don’t do all these things so she will like ME; I do them so I will like HER. - 60 Years Of challenge |
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| Author: | Defy [ Wed Jan 04, 2012 6:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you maintain being a challenge? |
Quote: So great, you've finally landed her and she's all yours.
I think this is coming from insecurity. At least in my case, it did.You are now a pair. Congratulations! But how do you stop yourself from becoming boring in her eyes? And is it really necessary to continue with push pull when she's already yours? Can being too supportive of her REALLY push her away? So many questions...so little time. Thanks guys Then I read 60's thoughts on this and it has taken me a year for those words to sink in. He says something along these lines YOU HAVE TO BECOME A CHALLENGE TO YOURSELF, NOT TO HER. I can't remember of the top of my head other things he says, but seriously READ RELATIONSHIP ROULETTE BY 60. It is just amazing and I'm sure it will help you. Best of luck, Defy |
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