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Author:  ActualPUA [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 12:46 am ]
Post subject:  Question about inner game improving.
First of all, I would like to have some tips improving my inner game because it's really holding me back from approaching women. I don't really mind the thrill that's involved with approaching a woman, I have an issue with the fact that she might reject me and I have rejection fear. I don't know how to really handle it, I need to improve my inner game, no doubt about it.
Plus I think I'm taking stuff too personally, if for example I get a comment ((saracstic one or something negative)) from 'Y', as much as I don't want to really pay attention to it, I can't really control that annoying feeling. ((It passes on after a while, but I want it to pass imdtly so I can move on.)) I sometimes comment back, try to make the comment sound 'sophisticated' or I simply try to like not answer, ignoring ((attempt to in a cool way. ))
I think it has to something to do with my inner game, therefore, I'd like you guys to help me improve it.

Thanks :)

Ryan.
Author:  Snarg [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 12:53 am ]
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Getting rejected sucks. It always has and always will, no matter how much you improve your inner game.

But think about something: if you get rejected, does it really matter? Do you really think your target woman is going to go around telling everyone how she rejected some guy? Do you think she'll stand up and announce to everyone in the room that you made an advancement on her? Hell no. In the end, there are no truly negative repercussions to approaching a woman. You'll either leave the approach the same way you entered, or if things turn out well, you'll get laid or have someone to date depending on your goal.

Additionally, most women won't outright reject you like you're imagining. If you go up to one and start making conversation, she's not going to say something like "Get lost, asswipe". Most women will at least be courteous enough to give you 5 minutes of their time. And if you can tell there's no chemistry there, just thank her for her time, get up and try someone else.

Getting rejected is the easy part. Remember that.
Author:  Slip n Slide [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 1:24 am ]
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Read The Power of Now. You have to remain in the present moment, even if that means dealing with the pain of rejection. You'll quickly find that the fear is more painful than the reality.
Author:  LD [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 9:07 am ]
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Hey Ryan!

The people above already gave some pretty darn good advice. I am going to add one more thing: Go out and do stuff.

No matter how many programs, books, blogs on cooking you will read, if you never cood because you fear your pots might burn through, you will never be able to cook.

Good inner game, solid confidence is done by experience and conquering your fear. In order to grow, you could take some smaller steps, get a book and learn some approach routines and some canned material. After a while though, you will notice that they dont get you anywhere really fast, but... whadda ya know... fear of rejection is the size of a marble now where it used to be the size of a truck.

Dont get me wrong though, fear is always present in some form. You never completely conquer it, but you will learn how to deal with it.

So my advice is, go out and do!

cheers
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