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Author:  it [ Wed Dec 28, 2011 6:46 am ]
Post subject:  Gaming a girl who said no

..I asked this girl out ( I had known for 1 year..I m pretty sure I was in friend zone ..sorry didnt know PUA back then)..at first she dodged by saying she had baggage /needed time blah blah ...2 days later she tells me she cannot think of me romantically she only treats me a friend....then when into a shell ...didnt respond to me in a way she used to ..so I decided that this was not gonna work ...I start forgetting her ( and not contacting her)....2 months down the line she contacts saying she is sorry for the behavior...actually she likes someone else ...I was like ok ...(acted cool) ....then we kinda resumed talking till 2 months later she mails me saying she is in a relationship (with a guy she had said no earlier) ...I said ok ...we are friends ..acted calm again...then she did something that friends normally dont do and I expressed my anger at her and completely cutoff talking...then after like 4 months we happen to be in the same town .She messaged me if I am free and can meet.I was like ok .I go there have coffee and casual talk .I act cool show I am having fun ...no anger no rudeness.She said if I would want to watch a game ( obviously with other set of friends and her bf)..I flake .At the end I say nice to meet you and leave.[her bf comes to pick her and drop her]
My question is - is there anything for me in this scenario ? Do I have a chance? I though strongly feel that this meeting was because she felt sorry for me and perhaps guilty for her behavior to me ( she kinda hinted to this in the end of the meeting
) ....I dont wanna waste time and get into emotional turmoil if this doesnt have a decent chance.I dont have those feelings that I once used to .I can give it a shot.I am afraid off being sucked into emotional stress and then left high and dry.Senior PUA please give me some guidance.What should be my next step

Author:  Rosewood [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 1:30 am ]
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I would say move on. Sounds like a lot of time spent on one girl who just gave you a lot of grief.

There are lots of girls, go find a new one, one who doesn't play these games.

Author:  P-Style [ Thu Dec 29, 2011 6:14 pm ]
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You have zero chance. Go for someone else.

Author:  SidTine [ Fri Dec 30, 2011 12:33 pm ]
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Girls are EXTREMELY senstive about this things, like hurting guy`s feelings.. And when they have a feeling they`ve done that, they do a lot of things which they normally wouldn`t. They just feel sorry. Back then when I was still an AFC or a starter in this and I had a similar case, when she said no to me, it wasn`t really a no, bcs she wrapped it in ten million bags and it sounded like I had a chance with her and later bcs she felt bad, we actually kissed and all that.. And I kept trying for half a year, ALWAYS the same story, but nothing really happened in the end. So I suggest you to let it go. I know it`s hard, but really, let it go.

Author:  Breaking Bad [ Fri Dec 30, 2011 1:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gaming a girl who said no

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I dont wanna waste time and get into emotional turmoil if this doesnt have a decent chance.

I am afraid off being sucked into emotional stress and then left high and dry
^ You answered your own questions. Why would you wanna do either of these to yourself if right now you have a choice!!??

Please. Get over this girl, move on with your life. Meet other many other beautiful, attractive, sexy, fun, tan, tall, gorgeous, blonde, brunette, red hair, dark skinned, short, asian and cute women. See the possibilities in life are unimaginable!

This girl is just ONE of the many possibilities!!!

Most importantly, move on, grow and learn from it.

Author:  it [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 2:26 am ]
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Right ...I had moved on ( until before this meeting) and will again ( coz I dont have the same feelings).
Two things :-

1) I never wanted to meet her up until I told a friend (who is more experienced than me in PUA) and he said that he could see that girl was attracted and said I might have a shot.He said it might be similar to a situation of getting your ex back.
Anyhow this is just a FYI.

2)More importantly ,What do I do in the future if she tries to contact me.I feel so much anger contained in me that I want to give her a piece of my mind some day but I know being rude and angry isnt the best way out.I want to completely cutoff.
For me its either black or white no grey areas.
If I do not talk to her will it signal to her I still have some feeling for her and may be give her the upper hand in all this? What did you do sidtine?

Author:  EddieFews [ Sat Dec 31, 2011 2:45 am ]
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It won't bro..

And besides, who cares if she thinks your bitter and sad about her not wanting you... You don't want her anyway remember? why would you care what it would look like from her point of view?

Let it go and move along.. No Further questions should be asked

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