The love that you have for this girl is addictive clinging. I know, I've been there. It's very painful to see the purity and fidelity of this addiction damaged.
No real man is addicted to the person they love.
It's a hard truth, but here's how it applies to your situation. It would hurt you very badly to see her go off with this guy. That is the result of the addiction, the first symptom of withdrawal. It would be painful from there, and you would probably crawl back to her unhappily and be rejected every time, unless you found another way to satisfy your cravings for her.
The fear of this pain exists in you now, whenever you think about this other guy she likes.
Now let me tell you why that other guy will probably win, as it stands now (I've lost to that other guy, it hurts). He isn't scared of losing her. He has an infallible confidence, knowing that she has some attraction for him, and knowing that nothing she does can hurt him. You have none of that attractive confidence. The "love" you share is a clinging, pressurized force on her back, driving her back to you. She may come back, but she won't be happy doing it.
Take away the neediness. Trust her to be faithful, and be willing to let her go if that's what she chooses. That's the only way you can be the man she needs.
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