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| Author: | rieskimo [ Fri Dec 16, 2011 6:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | RE: The Newbie Challenge |
Would it be suggested or not to bring a friend(he's looking into the seduction community as well so he would know well what he's along for). I just don't want to feel like a creeper trying to strut his stuff in a mall full of teeny-boppers. I'm young still(24) but I think it would be slightly less creepy if I was with a friend seemingly on a mission for something other than saying "Hi" to anything with breasts. |
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| Author: | Leo Varone [ Fri Dec 16, 2011 7:23 am ] |
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I think the newbie challenge is more for getting out of your comfort zone. I'd try it by yourself because it is supposed to help you get over the fear of rejection. when you're out you won't always have your buddy with you. |
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| Author: | rieskimo [ Fri Dec 16, 2011 4:48 pm ] |
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Thank you for your reply, that makes sense. Thinking about it now, I don't feel like getting laughed at if something weird or crazy happens(there are a lot of wackos in the malls around here). |
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| Author: | 7000 [ Fri Dec 16, 2011 11:10 pm ] |
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I think the fact you asked this question, and your subsequent response, suggests you probably ought to give it a go! Truthfully mate, you can read as much as you want from this site, but if you are worrying more about the negative outcomes of going up to a random stranger and just saying "hi", then you're not going to get anywhere. I didn't do the challenge as such, but I tried to adapt it to everyday life all the time - I'd try to smile and say hi to as many random people as possible at all times. I wouldn't set a day aside to go out and do it specifically at a mall or whatever, but if I was walking into campus, or going shopping, or just nipping down the road on the way to a mates house or something, I'd try to smile and say hi to as many people as possible. It was probably THE biggest thing to helping me both with women and more generally. I was never a proper social recluse, but it is helpful anyway. Doing this makes you stop worrying about being "laughed at if something weird or crazy happens". You realise that IF someone laughs at you - so what? You never see those people again. Tied in with when I was doing my own "newbie mission" so to speak, I did a flashmob in london. This is where you get together in a random group in the middle of the city and burst out singing (it was for a friend of a friend's music school application or something). Now I wasn't sure about singing randomly in the middle of Trafalgar Square and a couple of other places. But you burst out singing. Most people looked a bit surprised, then most would join in or smile and chat to you afterwards. Some looked at you weird and walked off. But either way, you finished singing, walked off to the next location around London and less than 10 seconds after you left Trafalgar square or whatever, it was like nothing ever happened and nobody gave a crap anymore. That was a real epiphany moment for me. Once you realise nobody cares about you making a fool out of yourself other than YOU then you can get over it and it can make a massive, massive difference to you both in terms of pick up and more general social skills. I'd give it a try man. |
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