No worries my man. That’s what I’m here for. From the above message to “Snarg” my advice would be to definitely take a step back. Especially if she knows that she’s a looker, I would most certainly try to regain control and let her approach you. She may do so, or she may not but women who know that they’re good looking are usually the ones wasting your time. Time waste is not on the agenda. Move fast but be sufficient and don’t rush into a relationship. Have you been waiting for her to come around or have you had fun in the mean time?
I am very intrigued by this conversation, as I can identify with your situation and now that you say that your ex is of Scandinavian origin all of the above is starting to make sense. By asking a few questions I am merely attempting to gather information to give the best advice on your current situation. Analysing what went wrong, rather than ignoring it, may help you to view your current situation in a different light and help you understand your current behaviour.
I mastered in psychology of the Northern hemisphere and in fact my wife is half-Swedish, half-Danish. Your ex didn’t suit your personality you say, in what way? These women are the best of the sort, yet the most complicated. Why? Because once taken out of their comfort zone (being the freedom of the snowy, sunny hills of their home country) these women become insecure, anxious, depressed and stressed. This may not be noticeable at first, but will become apparent over the duration of a relationship, when stressful situations arise. They will then lean on you for support. YET, these women have an infectious innocence about them, carry themselves with humility and respect and are incredibly intelligent. It is how you, as a man, deal with these traits of their personality that will make the difference and where I went wrong previously. As an added bonus they are sexually free-spirited and well-aware of how to please their partner. They usually do not realise how attractive they are.
What led to the break-up of my engagement was the fact that I strived for freedom – in the form of independence and I assumed that by doing everything on my own I would somehow achieve this. My mistake however, was that I FORGOT about HER needs. Most men do, it is scientifically proven. She was left feeling hurt, second-best and under-valued. This behaviour makes women act needy and insecure out of NO fault of their own. We need to be MEN and make time for our partners, whilst maintaining our independence. It’s a skill. At the time however, I found my ex-fiance’s behaviour off-putting, obnoxious and simply annoying. However, reflecting back on it now, I do not blame her for her reaction.
May I ask why you don’t speak? Have you seen each other after the break-up? When I broke off my engagement my ex-fiancé would sent me letters, call me, speak to my friends and try to arrange a get-together, yet I was not returning any of the favours. It was an outlet for her. A way of dealing with the raw emotions. However, I cut her off and probably caused more harm than good. I now wish that I had treated her with the respect she deserved. Live up to being a gentleman, don’t make enemies – you want to be the best that you can be by treating women to the best of our ability – that includes those in the present as well as the past.
Eventually, the letters and the calls subsided and I was left to my own devices. Time apart heals all wounds and brings back emotions that we tend to put on the shelf when frustrated. For some reason, from reading the feed, I do not think that your relationship with this Swedish stunner is over. It may merely be a refreshing break for now perhaps, but Scandinavian women have seductive traits that may lure you back in when you’re ready to be confronted.
I often ask my clients, why would you go for second best, when you already have/had the best? Recent studies have shown that Scandinavian women are the most sought after in the world. Is the current interest Scandinavian too? I am assuming not, due to her reaction to your text messages and behaviour. Am I right in saying that she may be younger than you?
More importantly, and potentially ALL importantly, what does your friends and family think of your ex in regards to looks and personality? What is their take on the break-up? Although men tend to disregard other people’s opinions, an outlooker’s views can be all important.
Feel free to ask any questions you may have on your mind. Let me know if the above at all sound familiar.
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