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Author:  Verite [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 1:23 am ]
Post subject:  Feedback on an unexpected text convo
So all this happened yesterday. My natural friend was telling me to say some things towards the end. I'm unsure if they were good or not. But I put my faith into him. His experience with girls was more then persuasive. I'm posting this here in the hopes that you guys can tell me if this convo was a success. Or if anything was done wrong. And what is needed to be improved on. A part of me thinks it was a bit to 'douchei'. And that perhaps I blew it with this one. I'm not necessarily overthinking the situation. I am just eager to know what to do in these situations. Please help me my brothers, in any way you can.
2:00 PM

her: My boobs look amazing today
me: so do mine (I remember Style saying something not to give in to temptation when a girl talks dirty)

convo starts up again at 7:00 PM

her: mine look better
me: all talk
her: wanna see?
me: I dare you
her: *sends me a pic of some cleavage. Underneath it saying "see!" *

(Natural friend begins with suggestions)

me: That shows me nothing. I'm hardly impressed.
her: i give you a foot and you ask for a mile.
me: I wasn't asking for anything let's get that straight lol. You talk smack expect to back it up.
her: lol how was I talking smack? I thought they looked good in the pic I sent you and if you don't think so then we can agree to disagree.
me: whoa whoa let's not out words in my mouth now
her: lol mhmm
me: *I sent her a pick of my cleavage while flexing my chest together. Underneath saying "see" *
her: my chest is better
me: whys that
her: it just is.
me: Your cute when ya wanna be right.
her: I'm cute all the time
me: Lol
her: Brat
me: oh so now were resorting to name callin
Author:  mi1ooo98 [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 1:34 am ]
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Doesn't look like anything went wrong, but you haven't achieved that much out of the conversation either, What do you want from her, after all this?
Author:  Verite [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 1:42 am ]
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Doesn't look like anything went wrong, but you haven't achieved that much out of the conversation either, What do you want from her, after all this?
Ah, well I'd want to close with her ultimately. But for the convo itself, I suppose an escalation of some sort? If I did not achieve such a thing. Would an escalation been possible if the situation was played differently? Also I was wondering if the convo ended on a sour note. Thus ruining my chances.
Author:  mi1ooo98 [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 5:37 am ]
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It didn't end on a sour note at all, you're worrying too much, maybe due to being attached to the outcome.

You escalated a bit, but you probably could have thrown something in there really direct and sexual somewhere, how? i'm not entirely sure, I don't specialize in scripting better lines for guys to say, Just do it in the moment, you're trying to close her, so focus on that, and when you focus on that, then you'll say stuff like that automatically.

But for the most part, escalate in real life, like a pro. it's better in every way.
Author:  charblad [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 6:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Feedback on an unexpected text convo
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I remember Style saying something not to give in to temptation when a girl talks dirty
Sooo true, pisses em off in a good way, and makes them get even dirtier; it's how they're taught to get a guy to do something and when you don't give them that what do they do? They get more extreme (this is always good in this situation) Although I had to learn this from experience... Learn from my mistakes lol
Anyways yea, you have to carry the sexuality through the text, don't let it get boring. She started texting you about her boobs, how can't you use that to get into sexual stuff?
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her: my chest is better
me: whys that
her: it just is.
That's where it lost its flavor, you took a sexual moment and turned it into a 2 word reply. Maybe use it to set up a day 2 "Well I'll never know until I see them, maybe when we hang out at the park tomorrow you can prove me wrong" play with her saying you'll "say" your wrong but until then "your right" - women cant handle being wrong.
In the end not a bad text, but a boring one she might remember later
Author:  mi1ooo98 [ Sat Dec 03, 2011 7:06 am ]
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Now that charblad looked more in depth and pointed out the boring part, I agree. I still don't think it matters at all though, it's only texting, just fill her head with exciting real life interactions and she won't even remember texting
Author:  Verite [ Mon Dec 05, 2011 11:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Feedback on an unexpected text convo
Quote:
Quote:
I remember Style saying something not to give in to temptation when a girl talks dirty
Sooo true, pisses em off in a good way, and makes them get even dirtier; it's how they're taught to get a guy to do something and when you don't give them that what do they do? They get more extreme (this is always good in this situation) Although I had to learn this from experience... Learn from my mistakes lol
Anyways yea, you have to carry the sexuality through the text, don't let it get boring. She started texting you about her boobs, how can't you use that to get into sexual stuff?
Quote:
her: my chest is better
me: whys that
her: it just is.
That's where it lost its flavor, you took a sexual moment and turned it into a 2 word reply. Maybe use it to set up a day 2 "Well I'll never know until I see them, maybe when we hang out at the park tomorrow you can prove me wrong" play with her saying you'll "say" your wrong but until then "your right" - women cant handle being wrong.
In the end not a bad text, but a boring one she might remember later
Hey man thanks, I really appreciate the honest feedback. And your right about the whole attachment thing. I tend to get attached fairly easy... which I detest.. and i'm workin it.. And I see what you mean about it losing it's flavor. Yeah, I'm really trying to learn all this stuff. And more importantly getting it down.
Author:  PuATX [ Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:06 am ]
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All the escalation you needed was her asking "wanna see?". Your next step should have been "be right over"

Txting should only be used as a last resort to build escalation. Over txtin does more harm than good. It's only purpose should be to set up physical interactions. She gave you an in right away.
Author:  mi1ooo98 [ Tue Dec 06, 2011 6:07 am ]
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Nice, puatx, I didn't think of simplifying it so much. :)
Author:  Verite [ Thu Dec 08, 2011 3:20 am ]
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All the escalation you needed was her asking "wanna see?". Your next step should have been "be right over"

Txting should only be used as a last resort to build escalation. Over txtin does more harm than good. It's only purpose should be to set up physical interactions. She gave you an in right away.
Would that of really worked? I can see the cockyfunny elements in it.
Author:  ItsAlwaysOn [ Thu Dec 08, 2011 4:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Feedback on an unexpected text convo
overall, i think you get it and your conversation is pretty good. having said that, though...

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her: My boobs look amazing today
me: so do mine (I remember Style saying something not to give in to temptation when a girl talks dirty)

...i dont like this. if a girl texts you this out of the blue telling you this, there's a chance that something sexual could happen. i mean its basically like her telling you she wants to send you pics of her tits. i think this is the wrong situation to play it too cool for school like you did. id prefer to respond with something like "pics or it isnt true" or "ill be the judge of that". then go from there.

also, id be interested to know your relationship with the girl because you didnt go into any detail on that. id be more likely to respond the way you did to a girl i had already slept with or seen naked a bunch of times.
Author:  Verite [ Thu Dec 08, 2011 4:48 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Feedback on an unexpected text convo
Quote:
overall, i think you get it and your conversation is pretty good. having said that, though...

Quote:
her: My boobs look amazing today
me: so do mine (I remember Style saying something not to give in to temptation when a girl talks dirty)

...i dont like this. if a girl texts you this out of the blue telling you this, there's a chance that something sexual could happen. i mean its basically like her telling you she wants to send you pics of her tits. i think this is the wrong situation to play it too cool for school like you did. id prefer to respond with something like "pics or it isnt true" or "ill be the judge of that". then go from there.

also, id be interested to know your relationship with the girl because you didn't go into any detail on that. id be more likely to respond the way you did to a girl i had already slept with or seen naked a bunch of times.
Well, we were childhood friends. I've known her since I was like 8 or something. But then my mother drifted her friendship towards her mother(They got into a fight or something) we lost contact with one another around the age of 14(She's three years older then me.) I'm 20 now, and we recently got into contact with one another via facebook. She was really surprised on my new appearance.(I use to be a fatass lol.) We were suppose to meet up back in august but she flaked on me. She apologized to me about a 3 weeks ago. Saying how she had a jealous boyfriend and that's why she couldn't see me.(Think that was an excuse. I believe she had two men in her lives, including myself. And she chose the other guy. Didn't work out with him, so she came back to me.)
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