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Ok this seems like a stupid question, but fuck it, that's what I'm here for.
Once you actually get a date, what do you do on it?
I suppose the better question is how do you make it clear that its a date/ transition into dating type stuff?
I understand you make the date, then meet up, but what to do beyond that, once you get a kiss and establish there is sure attraction its clear what to do, however what do you do for the in between part?
Hey Florg,Once you actually get a date, what do you do on it?
I suppose the better question is how do you make it clear that its a date/ transition into dating type stuff?
I understand you make the date, then meet up, but what to do beyond that, once you get a kiss and establish there is sure attraction its clear what to do, however what do you do for the in between part?
For the moment I'm going to refer to a very high level over view of Mystery's M3 Model. The components to the idea of getting the girl... Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. Since you know what you need to do after things turn to kissing we'll focus on the first two.
Attraction... The good news is if you have set a date attraction is pretty well assumed. She is definitely attracted to you or she wouldn't be out with you. That having been said you want to "solidify" her attraction by telling stories that demonstrate higher value or your better characteristics while on the date. Try to weave them into the conversation.
Comfort... This is going to be the biggest part of your date. The whole reason for the date is to get to know the other person better and see what develops. This means you are going to be asking her opened ended questions and answering several yourself. It doesn't have to be like an interview but you are going to need to learn things about her and vice versa.
Here are some good things to talk about.
1. Your/Her Passion in Life
2. Life Goals or Personal Goals
3. What your family is like (any brothers, sisters?) and your relationship with them
4. Talk about your friends and what they are like
5. Any hobbies or things you are into
6. What you like to do for fun and places you've gone
7. The type of relationship you are looking for
-Don't be afraid to talk about sex but generally reserve this for when the vibe is really there.
things to avoid talking about...
-Past Relationships
-Religion
-Politics
Generally those are good things to discuss and it will help her develop a good amount of rapport with you. Thing in terms of past, present, and future. You want to talk about your past some so she knows where you came from and what it was like. What's going on now in your life. Future; where you are going and what you are doing with your life.
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Basically how do you transition from the initial meeting up into a more sexual/dating mood, like when to grab her hand, when to go in for the kiss, what to talk about, and so on.
Keep in mind during comfort kissing occurs and so does hand holding and basic touching. When on your date you will start with light touching or kino and gradually increase it and find more intimate places to touch. Hands/Arms to Legs/Back to Neck/Lips. When to go in for the kiss is a whole other long post really. You are going to learn this through going out more and going for the kiss. It takes calibration to know when she really wants it. Generally speaking you are close, there is a pause of silence, and you catch her looking from your eyes to your lips, and back to your eyes. Girls subconciously do this a lot... this is called "Triangle Gazing" and at that moment don't say anything just lean in and kiss.
Now to go from the initial meeting to get in a more sexual mood. You are going to start out with basic topics for a while. After spending a FAIR amount of time in comfort so that she has a good grasp on who you are and what you are about. She will feel more comfortable. Then you can attempt to start talking about more sexual things... Where she likes to be kissed... If she has a high sex drive... Is sex important to her in a relationship... Then you can get into deeper stuff like what positions does she like, and further.... BUT you have to have that base level of rapport there plus some or she's gonna feel like a slut.
The key here is you have to get enough rapport built so she knows you well enough and she doesn't feel like you are just after sex with her. She has to know enough about you that she feels comfortable getting to sex. She could tell her friends about you...not just say, "he's just some guy I hooked up with." She wants to say... "I met this great guy, he's into this and that, he's from here, and he wants to do this...and one thing lead to another... and we had sex"
Florg, I hope this gives you an overview of what to talk about and what to do during the date as you asked, and then how to transition things sexually. Remember if you start to go sexual and she appears uncomfortable back off and go back to your normal topics for a while more. Then you can always bring it back up to see how she responds a second time.