abundance, is usually the answer, and if that is not the cure, then something internally is off, neediness often stems from a lack options, you don't invest effort into gaining more options, so you invest alot of emotionally in what little options you do have, this causes you to be needy because if it doesn't work out and you don't reach your outcome, all of a sudden your investment was a waste, when in reality you should be approaching several women constantly, with little to no investment, trying to widen the options as much as possible, there is no ''one girl'' only several girls, once you have slept with a girl you can begin investing and thinking about a relationship, usually she will bring up the whole define the relationship talk for you (that is if you are not managing expectations properly before hand), that is why alot of people throw the philosiphee of, if you have oneitus just ditch her and GFFTOW, or in other words if it isn't working out, don't fix the problem, go find new girls for new problems then ditch them to, eventually the girls just add up, some come back around, some don't, the idea is to get good with the process, not the outcome, that just comes eventually from abundance and experience

playing the monkey, swinging from branch to branch, not letting go of one branch until you have a hold of the next one
-the strategy of a woman

playing the spider, setting down your web trapping as many flies simultainously as possible and getting to them when they are ready
-the strategy of a man