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Author:  SidTine [ Thu Nov 17, 2011 1:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Looking for a right time to reframe Help
I think I`ve been in a friendzone with this girl, or not, it doesn`t matter. We were about to be together and then i farked it all up. After things got a bit weird, I stopped talking to her and texting her.. Basicaly i did a Freeze-Out. Only a hello now and then. Now it`s been about 2-3 weeks since i started this freeze-out, and I want to try again.. In one night of course.. And I want to do it tomorrow evening when she˙s out with her friends (I`ve found that out, bcs my best friend is dating her best friend). But today when we met and I said hello, she did smile and said hello, but I didn`t feel that smth.. Should i take in considering in making a descision of trying again tomorrow, or should I do it anyways? Bcs I only have one shot and I don`t want to ruin it with doing this to early.. Please answer, thx.
Author:  bansario [ Thu Nov 17, 2011 11:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Looking for a right time to reframe Help
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I think I`ve been in a friendzone with this girl, or not, it doesn`t matter. We were about to be together and then i farked it all up. After things got a bit weird, I stopped talking to her and texting her.. Basicaly i did a Freeze-Out. Only a hello now and then. Now it`s been about 2-3 weeks since i started this freeze-out, and I want to try again.. In one night of course.. And I want to do it tomorrow evening when she˙s out with her friends (I`ve found that out, bcs my best friend is dating her best friend). But today when we met and I said hello, she did smile and said hello, but I didn`t feel that smth.. Should i take in considering in making a descision of trying again tomorrow, or should I do it anyways? Bcs I only have one shot and I don`t want to ruin it with doing this to early.. Please answer, thx.
When you freeze someone out, always make sure you have the upper hand. If she's not really interested in you, by "freezing her out", you're actually helping HER. Now, another thing, you are not supposed to be contacting her during this time. By you saying "hello" here and there, you are letting your true intentions show. She knows you're trying to stay away while still being interested.

Anyway, you met her, she wasnt much into you, well, the freeze out didnt really work. Do you have another shot? Hmm...doesn't really sound like it. You can try, but chances are she won't be interested.

How are you planning on "trying" again?
Author:  SidTine [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 2:55 pm ]
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Huh.. Too bad I didn`t think about that before :/ Now when you said it, you`re pretty right. But my plus is maybe the thing, that she saw me with other girls in the meanwhile-yealousy plotline.. But yes, she probably knew that I just tried to stay away while still being interested-came out as some tactic.. :/ Well fuck it, what`s done is done.
Well I had in mind that today, I go with my friend (her GF is her best friend) to them, we talk a while and I say that she doesn`t really know me so well, blablabla, relaxed and all that, and then just go for it... Is there any way to do it better? Bcs she is Very shy and afraid of commitment, never had a boyfriend, never kissed...
Author:  bansario [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 3:04 pm ]
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Huh.. Too bad I didn`t think about that before :/ Now when you said it, you`re pretty right. But my plus is maybe the thing, that she saw me with other girls in the meanwhile-yealousy plotline.. But yes, she probably knew that I just tried to stay away while still being interested-came out as some tactic.. :/ Well fuck it, what`s done is done.
Well I had in mind that today, I go with my friend (her GF is her best friend) to them, we talk a while and I say that she doesn`t really know me so well, blablabla, relaxed and all that, and then just go for it... Is there any way to do it better? Bcs she is Very shy and afraid of commitment, never had a boyfriend, never kissed...
Questions:

-You say you're "going for it", what does that mean? A kiss?

-You are going to tell her you don't know each other well, but didn't you say in the past you were going to get together? (To me that sounds like she may know enough about you)

-Why do you think she doesn't want any commitment?

-Is she worth all the trouble and effort you are going through? She's shy, never kissed, etc. Do you know how difficult is going to be to break her out of that shell? To me that sounds like a lot of work, and the results with women are never guarantee.

Think about it...
Author:  SidTine [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 3:32 pm ]
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Oh.. Yes, a kiss.
No, I will tell her that she doesn`t know me so well. It`s a part of a reframe, bcs I think that the reason we didn`t get together is, that she has an opinion of me that I had sex or kissed with other girls on almost every party.. So that will be kind of a reframe that she doesn`t know me so well and that I`m not like that..
Well, not that she doesn`t want.. She is afraid of it, bcs she wants to know someone Really well before she decides to have smth with him and that includes that he is loyal, fun etc..
Well, I was asking myself the same question and so did my friends.. And yes, I know that, I`ve been on to that for few months.. And it`s worth it, at least I think so. And I know that the result is not guaranteed, but fuck it, I don`t want to regret it later that I didn`t tried..
Thanks :) Any advice?
Author:  bansario [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 3:42 pm ]
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Advice....hmm...sure, I have one: Go For IT.

Do I think your game plan will work? No, but I think that your mind is already set so there's no point trying to make you realize some major pitfalls in this attempt.

So just try it, see what happens, and learn from the experience (whether the outcome is good or not).

All I'm going to say is: Good luck ;)
Author:  SidTine [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 4:04 pm ]
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Hehe :) We have the same opinion on whether this will work or not.. But as I said, fuck it :) It`s all just a practice.. :) I know I seem kind of a AFC, but, I`m actually in a game for more then a year and I`m really pulling it off great. I just don`t know what hit me this time with this girl :P
Thanks for wishing me luck, I`ll get back to you to tell how it went.
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