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Author:  Icyunvm [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 1:02 am ]
Post subject:  How do you deal with weird girls?
Hey everyone. I'm in a dilemma, and some advice would be well appreciated.

I met a girl two months ago at a party. She was very quiet, shy, and didn't speak to anyone. I went up to her and started talking to her. She was going to go to a club (Uni club) I had been wanting to go to so I told her that I'd come along with her. I got her number.

We started texting each other occasionally and went to the club together.

Fast forward to today.

We talk/text ALL the time. Its been a radical difference since we first met. If I don't reply back she will sent chain texts (sometimes 3+ in a row) until I respond. She follows me on twitter and actually has my tweets sent to her phone (which I think is kind of weird).

Now here is where I need help.

We were texting and she was asking me questions about cuddling and such and she she says "I don't know if i'd cuddle with you, i'm not super comfortable around you yet. It takes me longer to get comfortable with guys, especially cute guys like you."

I'll take that as an ioi but then again it shows that she isn't comfortable around me. I went over a few days after that and we watched some tv shows together.

She has also given other IOI's, such as giving me super long hugs, playfully hitting me, playfully teasing me, the amount of texting, etc.

So my question:How do I show her that i'm interested in her without making her uncomfortable, before ending up in the friend zone?


Im very careful with my words around her and the last thing I want to do is go backwards with my progress.

Any help? Insight? I could use some advice.

Thanks

-Icyunvm
Author:  detox75 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 1:54 am ]
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Bro...

"I'll take that as an ioi but then again it shows that she isn't comfortable around me"

She has already shown you she is very interested, this wasn't your first hint as this is well beyond an IoI , this is an explicit verbal demonstration of interest and attraction. She is never going to be 100% comfortable with you when you escalate or initiate sex. As a PUA she shouldn't be, if she is 100% comfortable and verbally expresses that, you have waited too long and are likely already in the friends zone. As an Alpha your not waiting for her to give you all the buying and proceed signals.

You need to physically escalate immediately next time you see here. I have a feeling your the kind of guy that ends up in the friends zone a lot? From this post that's my educated guess.
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 1:57 am ]
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Quote:
Bro...

"I'll take that as an ioi but then again it shows that she isn't comfortable around me"

She has already shown you she is very interested, this wasn't your first hint as this is well beyond an IoI , this is an explicit verbal demonstration of interest and attraction. She is never going to be 100% comfortable with you when you escalate or initiate sex. As a PUA she shouldn't be, if she is 100% comfortable and verbally expresses that, you have waited too long and are likely already in the friends zone. As an Alpha your not waiting for her to give you all the buying and proceed signals.

You need to physically escalate immediately next time you see here. I have a feeling your the kind of guy that ends up in the friends zone a lot? From this post that's my educated guess.
x2

this chick is doing everything to tell you that she is COMPLETELY INTO YOU,

besides yelling "I AM COMPLETELY INTO YOU, IDIOT!"
Author:  Icyunvm [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:11 am ]
Post subject: 
Well that's why I come here to get advice from people so that I can learn from my mistakes/people.

So you suggest next time I try to escalate? We watch tv shows and i'll try to cuddle with her.
Author:  detox75 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 2:22 am ]
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if by "cuddle" you mean go for unprotected anal then yes.

Just kidding, whatever your comfortable with, but ya you need to be more aggressive and initiate physical escalation sooner.
Author:  Icyunvm [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 6:55 am ]
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I understand guys. It's hard. You get use to the comfort zone and its all nice and warm and you want to move past it but you're scared of messing things up.

Any ideas on how to overcome this feeling?
Author:  detox75 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 8:42 am ]
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you have to be willing to loose the girl at any time.

25-50% of your moves to kiss girls should be rejected on the first attempt.
Between erroring on the side of creepy sexual guy or friendly safe guy error on creepy aggressive side.

The only way your gonna grow your game is overcoming the fear and pushing through it.
Author:  swagstar [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 9:08 am ]
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The girl obviously wants you to take the alpha role and initiate. Wtf you want her to do, give you a silver platter saying, "`You can kiss me now you know...".
Author:  Mack 2.0 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 10:24 am ]
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the good news is you still have some time left to salvage this before she figures you for a gay buttpirate.

escalate sooner rather than later.

the next report we here from you needs to be about how many orgasms you gave her in one night.
Author:  EddieFews [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 1:49 pm ]
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If you concerned with not wanting to make her uncomfortable, theres no way to build attraction..

Shes seems a little desperate and i think you should just take the situation by the horns and grab her and start kissing her the next time you guys are watching TV.. I can't imagine her being all that attractive so you pretty much got this one all to yourself.
Author:  detox75 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 6:28 pm ]
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she figures you for a gay buttpirate - LOlz

Maybe if you don't take a chance and make a move you can look forward to some back pats.
Author:  Ezo [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 8:26 pm ]
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That is your definition of weird? I thought she broke into your house at night and shaved your hamster or something.

This is the girl equivalent of push-pull.

She wants something but she wants it to go at her pace so that she can feel comfortable. Also she wants to build up some tension and keep you around, hence the teasing! :)
Author:  om3n [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 9:42 pm ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
you have to be willing to loose the girl at any time.

25-50% of your moves to kiss girls should be rejected on the first attempt.
Between erroring on the side of creepy sexual guy or friendly safe guy error on creepy aggressive side.

The only way your gonna grow your game is overcoming the fear and pushing through it.
This is golden!!! If the "you have to be willing to lose the girl at any time" message ran through my head every time I was with new girl, I would have enough stuff to write a book about. Unfortunately, that little coward inside of my head is quite capable at times....

Fight the coward!
Author:  Icyunvm [ Tue Nov 15, 2011 4:38 am ]
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I appreciate all the constructive criticism and advice. I see her on Wednesday and i'll come back with a report.

She told me today that she was moving in 2 months. I guess I don't have a reason not to break out the comfort zone. Nothing to lose, right?

-icyunvm
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