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| Author: | thewarrior07 [ Sun Nov 13, 2011 10:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | WTF is the deal with oneitis and kicking its ass |
This hasn't happened to me to this extreme in years. I thought I conquered oneitis. Basically there is this completely average looking girl in my class. I stress strongly the word AVERAGE. All year I'd been flirting with her real good. I got alot of other chicks numbers and get at least one a day now. I have the college approach down. With this particular girl though I didn't make my move in that early flirting phase and now 3 months later emotions have built up. I can tell myself all day shes nothing special, everytime I see her facebook picture I think "damn some people might not even think she is hot" because she has a snaggled tooth and isn't striking immediately. But for some reason every time I'm about to ask her out she just completely stifles me. I tried once a couple weeks ago as we were like walking across the quad both almost late for class and shes like "just talk to me later we'll figure it out." Now every time I go to class I have it built up in my head and just can't talk to her when before I was like fucking her world up and making her laugh all the time...back when I didn't care. |
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| Author: | 0uch [ Sun Nov 13, 2011 11:54 pm ] |
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don't resist it! If you have oneitis, accept it. I am in the same boat you are, no matter how many girls number I get from sarging, I don't even follow up with them, just because I am busy talking to my oneitis a lot. Personally, I think is great if you get oneitis, it is just hard trying to not fuck up with her. Instead of going out and sarging, it's always fun to hang out and talk with the girl you really like. |
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| Author: | thewarrior07 [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 12:18 am ] |
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so you are saying i should just accept the fact i'm being a bitch and talk to this girl all nervous and shit. I was even thinking about like just admitting it and just being like "hey i'm crushin hard and you give me butterflies" probably destroy my chances but fuck it. |
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| Author: | swagstar [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 12:34 am ] |
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Just play the jealous game, talk to other girls when she`s around. Show her you don`t need her, then maybe she might crawl back to you. Good luck bro. |
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| Author: | billy_the_mountain [ Mon Nov 14, 2011 1:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Irrational |
This is a very subjective issue and with the limited information you've given it is difficult to give a proper appraisal. Nonetheless this particular instance of oneitis is an archetypical example of why it is such a hindrance. Oneitis is an irrational thought process/bodily response. Thankfully it is not as ad hoc as, say, blind rage or fear which can strike rapidly and lead one to act ridiculously in an instant. It is a slow burning irrational urge which, with discipline, can be managed. The first step is to recognise that the urge is thoroughly illogical i.e. scolding oneself when the urge arises. The second step is to be a PUA; meet people and make connections. It is a very satisfying experience and gives you greater perspective. In other words, instead of merely recognising that there are plenty of fish in the see, actually seeing for yourself. I'm not suggesting that you thoroughly emancipate yourself from this woman but that you need to improve your internal value, your self image and your own recognition of your social abilities. Furthermore, it can't hurt for this chick to see how much of a player you are even if you're just making friends with other women. I hope this helps. |
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