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Author:  Shyler [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 9:15 am ]
Post subject:  Friendzoning the interested friends
How to friendzone a girl properly without her turning cold?
Alot of girls who are interested in me, but in who I am not interested enough, often turn cold on me.

Now in this salsa group I'm in, there are 2 girls in whom I'm interested. But as I am quite flirtatious and teasing, other girls, get interested in me as well. Problem: those other girls are their best friends. They are realy nice and funny girls, but not girls whom I see myself kissing or fucking. And they will more easily put a claim on me than the cuter girls who have more options.

One girl for example, we get along very well, but she might want more than I do. I had this idea to go to this salsa bar with the whole salsa class, and so I sended invitations. A lot of other girls still have examination period, so they are not able to come. So the risky part is: I already told that I want to meet up with them, so if all the other girls can't come except for this one girl who is interested in me, then it will be a one-on-one meeting, which she might see as a date and she'll feel tension. How to make clear then that I don't want anything special (and that in a salsa bar) without her turning cold on me?

Second problem: if there is a whole group of (female) friends who is interested in me, and I only like the cutest of them, how to not fuck things up? I can't just go make my move on her because jealousy of her friends will make the whole process more difficult. It will make her more resistant (she knows her friends like me) and her friends become resistant.
Author:  bansario [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 12:05 pm ]
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I think you might be asking really ambitious questions ("how not to fuck things up with a hot girl...?")

In terms of keeping women in the friend zone:

1. Do not kino escalate
2. Mention other women.
3. Be funny and charming but never go for getting into emotional states.
4. If you feel they are getting into topics that are too deep for you dismiss them by laughing and joking around.
5. Keep flirting with everyone else.

Women won't make extremely aggressive moves in general. If they do, all they want is sex (mostly). Sometimes you know they like you, but unless you do something about it, it just remains in that position. After a while, they get the message and let you go.
Author:  Shyler [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 1:33 pm ]
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Sometimes you know they like you, but unless you do something about it, it just remains in that position. After a while, they get the message and let you go.
I know, that's the strategy I always use as wel.

Point is, most girls then turn cold on me. If it's a random chick then it's okay. In this case, the girls are from my salsa class. It would be quite awkward to have to dance with a girl who used to be interested but then turned cold on me because I wasn't interested enough. And about the kino thing, well yeah, dancing is a form of touching as well. :?
Author:  Shyler [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 1:38 pm ]
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And if I want to game her friends, then I should keep her as a friend, not as a dissapointed girl.
Author:  bansario [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 1:49 pm ]
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Hey man, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

Sounds like you basically want to have access to every single girl in your salsa class and sometimes things just don't work that way. You can't expect all of them to be ok with you fucking around with everybody in the group.

That's just wishful thinking in most cases.

Even if you isolate outside the class, sooner or later everyone is going to know what you're up to.

The rules of thought in this community are about us getting all the women, all the time. But that's just not practical.

Be friends with everyone and decide who you want to game. Keep it simple. If it doesn't work then move on. Don't be so greedy ;)
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