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Author:  M0N3YMAN21 [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 2:07 am ]
Post subject:  How should I proceed with this girl?

Dealing with a girl that has trust issues. Her last Boyfriend cheated on her and she scared to commit. She's texts me a soon as she wakes up and all throughout the day, but when it comes to hanging out she is real cautious. I'm trying to take this to the next level as far a sex and possibly a relationship, but trying to get that right moment... What should I do from here on out?

Author:  mickeyjackson21 [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 6:56 pm ]
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Trust is a phenomenon that is so fragile and can be created so quickly which involves giving and listening to each others feelings and emotions. this girl assumes that all guys are motivated by sex (obviously we are lol). but what you need to show is that you are motivated by building a connection with her. if you build enough deep rapport with any girl, you can literally make her want you more without you ever making a move because you'll find that she's making the moves on you.

here are some notes on conversational techniques and rapport:

building rapport is a very interesting process. in order to build a great emotional connection one must choose to talk about things which have deep emotional content. it does not matter what the girl does or likes, you can connect with her even if you have dissimilar interests. as you know all occupations and hobbies are completely different in their complexity, principles and structure, but there is one thing which all of them have in common/share "EMOTIONS". one must be empathetic and show a girl that u understand why she chose to do that job or hobbie by expressing the emotions that one feels when doing that activity, it shows that you're really trying to get to know her, and she will think "wow this is a great guy to talk to, he's making an effort to understand me, but wait, i dont know anything about him" and this will compel her to ask you questions and u can freely express yourself how ever much u want as long as u express urself passionately and positively. all the men dont do this at all and do not understand how much empathy is a powerful force and openly allow themselves to be perceived to see a girl superficially. you can use the concept of 'rapport' to ur advantage as well.

in order for you to build greater rapport with her, get used to asking more open-ended questions e.g. "what have you been up to?" or "What did u get up to today?", my one: "What monkey business did u get up to today?". dont use questions like "wats up hun?", thats a closed-ended question which the girl would simply answer and she wont give u much material to work on in order to reach the hook point.

and connect on her answers in a positive way. dont be afraid to tease her as well. dont be afraid to create impact. when telling a girl about a situation that happened to u on that day or in the week, give more details about it, women love details. it is also good to read the local news paper, women are usually very aware what happens in the world, u should as well. u can get her point of view on something in the news (nothing to do with which celebrity had sex with who) e.g. political, environmental, sociological etc and then she would ask you what u think and you can manipulate the conversation which can lead anywhere u want.

another way u can have an "endless conversation" is the principle of "Question, statement, Question, statement, Q, S, Q, S etc". so u ask an open question, receive the answer, and then make a statement about the last thing she said in order to ask a deeper question. this process can go round in a circle, it can go on for ages.

hope that i have helped. happy gaming dude ;-)

Author:  motownsoul [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:59 pm ]
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Pretty much was Mickey said....You're going to have to prove to her that are genuinely interested in her, and not just for sex.

Author:  M0N3YMAN21 [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 5:47 pm ]
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Yes, this helps alot!! Thanks

Also, although i feel that she makes an effort to text me and wants to talk to me throughout the day, and if I don't stop texting her at some point in the day she'll be like "You were MIA today what happen?". I still feel like I am the always the chaser since i'm always the one wanting to hang out and usually she is doing something with friends or something and says her naturally personality is to push people away. I dont know whether to just stop attempting to go out of my way to ask her to hang out or keep doing it or what. Any advice on that?

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