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Author:  2:35 [ Thu Oct 27, 2011 9:23 am ]
Post subject:  FUCK...LJBF? Help :S
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She was supposed to come out about 2 weeks ago with mutual friends etc. She said she wasnt out to me/her friend so I didnt text her for like a week. After this time we were both at a gathering and the conversation seemed good.


So the next day on sunday just passed I asked her on facebook if she wanted to go see some bands at this fairly small gig.


She said yeah so we went last night.


We met up at 8pm and things seemed to be running well, plenty of kino (used that thumb war stuff) and I was making her laugh.


She asked me if I liked alot of unsigned bands, cos she didnt know any (this was a low key gig) and I said yeah I do but moved the conversation on.

Maybe I fucked up by not K closing - I havent with her for 3 weeks.

This is where things started to go shit.

She told me before we went out that she had to finish some work off for tomorrow (today) and shes really methodical with work - has to have it finished for college.

It got to about 10.30pm and she stopped drinking alcohol. - Point - I bought all the drinks and paid her entry fee, she offered to pay for her drink every single time but I just waved it and said I got this.

The last band were on and I said we should do something next week.

Her : 'Yeah...but I dont wanna lead you on'

Me: What do you mean

Her: Well I kinda see things as friends at the minute

I now tried to salvage things;

Me: What? Oh you thought... I just meant go out for a few drinks and stuff nothing serious!

Truth is I really didnt know how to handle that ha. I was totally not expecting that line to come out, at least not now.


First real time alone and this happens....but we have k closed....


Someone give me a textual ear bashing please!
Author:  2:35 [ Thu Oct 27, 2011 9:26 am ]
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Also it would be good to know what I should say to her/my mutual girl-friends who will no doubt ask me asap how the date went.

Do I say fine?

Do I say... oh it started well but got a bit so-so

Do I say she friend zoned me, waste of time etc

Not really sure what the best course of response to them will be, but I need something canned because theyre gonna be around me today tomorrow saturday.


Point - she's going home tonight until monday afternoon.[/b]
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Thu Oct 27, 2011 10:29 am ]
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Point - I bought all the drinks and paid her entry fee, she offered to pay for her drink every single time but I just waved it and said I got this.
in the beginning she was just giving a plausible deniability... i got to go to work blabla .. if sex happens then it's your fault because she was planning to go to work the next day... it's fine...

you paid for all her stuff ...the reason she wanted to pay for her own stuff is because she was feeling like you were buying sex .. like you trying to buy her. It's not about the money....if you have enough $ it doesn't matter - it's about how it makes her feel.

Woman do not like it when you spend your time or $ on them for free .. it kills attraction instantly. you just complied and invested....

do not tell other people how the date went... don't tell other woman you just bought her all kind of shit - because it ruins chances with other woman as well. Just say it wasn't anything special... and brush it off... discrete...
Author:  bansario [ Thu Oct 27, 2011 11:06 am ]
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I think she might be dating/getting to know some other guy/s. She went out with you just to see if she could get to feel something for you, but it may have not happened.

Remember that when women want something, homework, work stuff, time, schedules, none of that matters to them. They make things happen.

This one didnt want it enough, so...you know what to do next.

P.S. A woman can fuck you tonight, and wake up tomorrow without wanting anything with you. That's how weird sometimes women can be. She kissed you 3 weeks ago. That's a pretty long time. Get over it. ;)

Good luck.
Author:  2:35 [ Fri Oct 28, 2011 11:20 am ]
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anyone else? Im unsure on my next move
Author:  bansario [ Fri Oct 28, 2011 11:24 am ]
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anyone else? Im unsure on my next move
She said she wanted to be friends with you....is that what you want? If so, then be her friends. Chances are that if you're asking the question here you want to be more than a friend.

That will take a lot of effort and time, and most likely won't work.

Freeze her out for a minute, and give her some space. That should be the next move in my humble opinion.

Chasing her more is not going to help you.

A woman won't shit-test you with something like that. Well, actually, she might, but that's too risky even for her, cause if she likes you and you're like "psst, whatever bitch, I'm out..." she looses a lot. Women can be cautious too :). But I have a feeling this is not the case.

Sorry.
Author:  2:35 [ Mon Oct 31, 2011 6:32 pm ]
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anyone else? Im unsure on my next move
She said she wanted to be friends with you....is that what you want? If so, then be her friends. Chances are that if you're asking the question here you want to be more than a friend.

That will take a lot of effort and time, and most likely won't work.

Freeze her out for a minute, and give her some space. That should be the next move in my humble opinion.

Chasing her more is not going to help you.

A woman won't shit-test you with something like that. Well, actually, she might, but that's too risky even for her, cause if she likes you and you're like "psst, whatever bitch, I'm out..." she looses a lot. Women can be cautious too :). But I have a feeling this is not the case.

Sorry.

Yeah im going with that - no contact for now.

We went out wednesday night and there has been no contact since then.

Her friend has asked me a few times how it went, and if we'll be going out again.

I just said it went 'alright' and that 'I dont know havent decided anything yet'.
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