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I have this problem and I can never get rid of it. Every time I am talking to a girl, I try to sound like Mr. know it all. I think its very unsexy but i do it anyway.
Like she says "I live on 4th street and Lincoln blvd" and I say "oh I know where that is. there is a McDonalds on the corner...and there is a walrmart on the other side, right? Ya I have been there"
"where do you go to school?"
"I go to ___."
"Oh ya, on Jefferson Blvd, right? there is a Chinese restaurant right there, behind the school, right? I used to work there"
Instead I think I should pretend I dont know. like "oh really? where is that?"
what do you think?
also i have another problem. today this girl and I were both walking to my school which was a 10 minute walk we started talking and I really liked her and i think she liked me to...but I didnt know how to get her phone no. because i thought if i ask for her phone no. she will think "what a horny bastard." do girls think this when you ask for their phone no.?
I think you're over-thinking this situations waaay too much. Like she says "I live on 4th street and Lincoln blvd" and I say "oh I know where that is. there is a McDonalds on the corner...and there is a walrmart on the other side, right? Ya I have been there"
"where do you go to school?"
"I go to ___."
"Oh ya, on Jefferson Blvd, right? there is a Chinese restaurant right there, behind the school, right? I used to work there"
Instead I think I should pretend I dont know. like "oh really? where is that?"
what do you think?
also i have another problem. today this girl and I were both walking to my school which was a 10 minute walk we started talking and I really liked her and i think she liked me to...but I didnt know how to get her phone no. because i thought if i ask for her phone no. she will think "what a horny bastard." do girls think this when you ask for their phone no.?
If the way to show off you have is by saying things like the ones you mentioned, I don't really see anything wrong. As a matter of fact, I'd be a great way to connect with people since you have very clear ideas where they're coming from (in general, not only location wise).
On the other hand, if you're bombarding women with technical knowledge like with science, math, economics, and politics (among others), you're totally wasting their time (and your time too).
You should be able to overcome this problem by listening more and talking less. That's a problem many guys have. They just don't pay attention and feel they have to talk ALL the time. Relax, take things at their pace, and you should be able to measure when to contribute to conversations and when to keep your mouth shut.
.Now, about the phone number, the best way to get it from a girl is simply to ask for it (surprise!!). How do you do it? Well, in the situation you presented, you could have asked for it by saying something like "Hey, let's get in touch some other time, what's your number...?" as you pulled out your phone. This is a direct approach, so make sure you do it with confidence and without hesitation.
Do not worry about women knowing what your intentions are. You're talking to her and she's not your friend. Your intentions are clear, and she definitely knows about it, so don't even try to hide it.