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| Author: | SouthOfTheBay [ Tue Oct 25, 2011 7:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Am I a nice guy? Do women really have a 6th sense? |
Hey All, After a long relationship (4 1/2yrs), and having my self-esteem and confidence completely destroyed from this (for# of reasons) I have had no luck with women. Well, at least not attractive ones... Sometimes it just makes me so sad what I have to settle for, at times I just rather use my hand... I think I'm a nice guy... Right before this last relationship I was a complete asshole, I was taking down chicks left and right (hot ones), and I got with the last one because I was a complete dick to her. But after years I lost touch of that. So I'm starting to believe that women have a 6th sense for a guy that's desperate(I can't help it, having a pretty girl around me 24/7 for years, then just complete loneliness..). I guess my brain can't help but NEED attention from some attractive girl. And the thing is, if I do start talking to one, I feel maybe they sense that in me? Even if I try my hardest to avoid giving that vibe. There is one girl I met that I hit it off with her great, the night I got her # she was falling for me. But once we got to talking, I seem to have become nothing but a pen-pal. Another(which was sooo hot), went on a couple dates with her, she seemed to be really into me always complementing my appearance and saying I impressed her. But in the end I busted out with this Mr. nice guy move and said "can I kiss you?” After that it was over... saw her once more and it was just a waste of time. Now the most recent girl: She was working drive-thru, she said I have nice eyes, got her # so on. We would talk about psychology or some random shit. Then for some reason she started talking to me like I'm her therapist. Eventually I told her she was going out with me to the movies. We did, had a good time. She said we have great chemistry, and she feels she can tell me anything. So, I tell this to an uncle of mine and he says, "What the fuck are you doing? Simpin? You’re being a straight nice guy! I wouldn't take a girl to the movies unless I knew I was going to fuck". He then advised me to call her and tell her what she really wants to do, what her intentions are. So after several days I call her and very assertively tell her what is she wants. She says that the day before she had returned to a dude she was with before, but she wasn't happy about it, she said she did it out of... ego? and that she would much have rather been with me if I would have asked her before, but she doesn't want to hurt this guys feelings. So what do I do? I haven't talked to her since last night when she told me to text her but I just decided to not waste my time. I really want this girl... and she obviously knows that, but I feel as if dude is probably the asshole and I'm the nice guy (shoulder homie). She said she won’t last with him. But IDK, what the fuck am I? Plan b? How can I change my situation? I try to act confident, but I feel my low self-esteem having nice guy leaks out into my exterior persona. How can I change feeling like I need a girl in my life? Can women really sense this in me? My self-esteem? True level of confidence? Desperation? How can I honestly in my heart feel like I don't give a fuck about a girl? I know I probably sound like the biggest-softest AFC, I accept that. I need some advice guys, help me change. I’m tired of being nice. |
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| Author: | AmazingArt [ Wed Oct 26, 2011 3:20 am ] |
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Yes South, girls do have a 6th sense. I realized this after so many painful rejections but I learned. Now the fact that you perceive approaching girls different than approaching guys is because you for some reason think the girls are better than you or higher value. That is why you treat them nice and try to hold their attention but really girls aren't any different than you or any other human being. The way you look at it now is that the world has 4 categories of living things plants, animals, human beings and girls(or rather hot girls). You have to change this because when your subconscious mind will believe that girls are like everyone else you will act naturally and will see more success. The way to do this is just to go out on the field(experience). When you will start to approach so many woman it will be normal for you to approach hot girls and talk to them. When you do something so many times it becomes normal to someone and therefore your confidence will boost. Remember experience is the teacher of all things. - Amazing Art - |
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