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Author:  Frito [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 1:36 am ]
Post subject:  Sleepover Follow-Up Advice?
Last Saturday night, I met a girl at a party who was from a university 20 minutes away from mine on the metro. I coaxed her into leaving the party by saying I'd show her around campus, but we ended up coming back to my dorm and she later spent the night with me because the metro in my area shuts down at 2:00am. Now, I did get a blowjob out of her, which was apparently her first, and we did various other versions of fooling around, but I never got all the way because of LMR (even though we were both naked in bed), no matter how convincing I was.

We cuddled over night and fooled around a little more the next morning, which was risky because my roommate was home by then. However, she soon had to go back to her own university so she could change and go to an event, so we exchanged numbers and parted ways.

I didn't text her the next day because that would have been weird. I did, however, text her today because I'm interested in getting to know this girl better, in person as well as in bed. Here's how our conversation went:

Me: Hey, how'd your event go?
Her: Ha I never actually made it back.
Me: Haha probably my fault, sorry.
Her: Haha definitely not. Unless you've been conspiring with my professors to give me a lot of homework.
Me: No, but I can assure you our professors are conspiring together.
Her: Ridiculous. I didn't come to college to learn.
Me: Exactly. I don't need this math shit to be an engineer. I'd be better off sticking shit together and seeing what goes boom.
Her: I like it. Sounds safe and smart.
Me: Only the best at (college). It's not like we text cute girls during math class in the front row or anything.
Her: Hahahaha oh no, am I interrupting your education?
Me: Education? Psh, I though we already established that I didn't need this.
Her: Haha true. Is wasting money an added bonus?
Me: Hey, you can never pay enough to party. That slip of paper they give you means something too, apparently.
Her: At this rate I'm not even sure you'll make it to that slip of paper. :P
Me: But that's what makes people want to PAY me to blow shit up!
Her: Well in an interview when they ask you why you didn't graduate, just explain that you were texting cute girls during math class. They'll admire your spirit and let you blow shit up.
Me: Ha, or maybe let me BE blown up. Now, unfortunately it's a lot harder to text cuties like yourself during a chem lab, 'cause I really might blow myself up. You need to come up soon so I can actually show you around campus, because it's almost as gorgeous as you are.
Her: Still as smooth as ever. Haha enjoy actually paying attention in class. :)
/conversation

Now, what frustrates me is that she didn't give me an answer to my date request. I'm confident that she's into me and that she wants to see me again, but I don't know how I can make the request again without coming off as clingy. Can you guys analyze this and possibly give me some advice?

Thanks!

Edit: I'm a Freshman, and I'm pretty sure she is too, by the way.
Author:  detox75 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 1:56 am ]
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This concerns me "Still as smooth as ever. " I see this whole scenario as a classic "Buyers Remorse" PUA problem.

I need to use a little inductive reasoning since you said she was a virgin. She probably, correctly, thinks sex is going to occur the next time your together. She is worried about this or doesn't want this due to the evidence of her virginal status, the fact that she had massive LMR with you, and doesn't really know you that well.

It seems you have attraction but need more comfort and rapport. 50/50 at best shes even going to see you again to give you a chance to build comfort and rapport with her. She thinks your a player.

I would go the friendly angle and try to get her out for coffee or some activity which would suggest comfort and no sex.
Author:  Frito [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 2:05 am ]
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I'm not 100% sure she's a virgin, but that's a possibility.

I'm pretty sure the "Still as smooth as ever" comment is referring to comments she made about me the night we were together when I was getting her into my room and then attempting to get past LMR.

The invitation to actually see campus actually was an attempt at a friendly date, but I'm assuming she thought I had other plans, which is reasonable, using your logic.

How long should I wait until I ask her to a friendly date? Should I text back later today, already after my Chem Lab, or should I wait another couple of days?

Edit: I should add, we actually talked a decent amount about each other while we were cuddling. We know basic info about each other and whatnot. This was actually a part of my attempt to get past LMR at first (When she hit me with "I just met you," I responded with the classic, "Well, I like walks on the beach, etc."), but it got more serious later on.
Author:  detox75 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 2:10 am ]
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I'm pretty sure the "Still as smooth as ever" comment is referring to comments she made about me the night we were together when I was getting her into my room and then attempting to get past LMR.

--- Thats pretty much what I said

---

Your questions are good ones and im not an expert in this area as im impatient with chicks and not much of a romantic lol. All I would suggest is using text language that is less cocky/funny and more sincere

" I want to get a chance to get to know you"

or flip the script

" Hey we moved too fast"

-again I think we both now know the problem but this isn't an area im good at. I hope others have more specific ideas
Author:  Frito [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 2:20 am ]
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Alright, I'll definitely consider that. Thanks for your input!
Author:  thedocta [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 5:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Sleepover Follow-Up Advice?
Quote:
Me: Only the best at (college). It's not like we text cute girls during math class in the front row or anything.....
Me: Ha, or maybe let me BE blown up. Now, unfortunately it's a lot harder to text cuties like yourself during a chem lab, 'cause I really might blow myself up. You need to come up soon so I can actually show you around campus, because it's almost as gorgeous as you are.
Her: Still as smooth as ever. Haha enjoy actually paying attention in class. :)
Nice text game, except you broke the one important universal rule: never, never ever ever EVER tell a cute girl that she is cute. You got away with it once, but then you slathered it on even thicker and that's what bought you the rejection my friend.

You can compliment her dress, her hairstyle, or any accessories...but do not give vague comments about her overall beauty ever...once youve gotten to know her a lot better and yo uknow shes not going anywhere, then maybe you can start to give some specific compliments on eyes, ass, etc.
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