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Author:  Century100 [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 4:59 am ]
Post subject:  How to tell girlfriend I'm busy without seeming rude?
I have exams. And although realistically I probably do have ample time to see my girlfriend, I'd rather not see her often during this period as I like to think my time is valuable.

So whenever she asks to hang out, I'd like to tell her that I can't because I'm busy studying...but at the same time I'd like her to be happy and excited for me to finish? If that makes sense?

Id like her to respond eventually with a comment like "Can you stop studying now? :)"
Ya know, cute shit like that so that I know she will be very enthusiastic once holidays start.

How should I behave during this time to
a) Have time to do my own work
b) Keep her happy and not feel like i'm disowning her
c) Have her excited (not necessarily only sexually) to see me when she can (I want to have really good after-exam sex)

ie if she says "Would you like to hang out?" what should I respond with?
Should I still be calling her every few days that she doesn't call me?

Thanks guys
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Mon Oct 17, 2011 10:29 am ]
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be honest ...

if you are telling her your bussy .. and after a few minutes you comply to her she will lose attraction 99%.

the best way in order to avoid such thing is to be deadly honest almost untill the point where you are rude. when a woman asks you for your time she is saying : i am more important than you please tell me im more important than you time and life. people have self-interests , they want to fuck you over and waste your time in order to get what they want.

if it's really really really important i would listen...if i really got something important to say i would talk.
Author:  Century100 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 12:42 am ]
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Would being blunt lower her attraction though?
eg "No, you know I'm busy"
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 9:43 am ]
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no .. she will like you even more..

she will get frustrated and attracted.. she will try even harder..

im not telling you to brush her off everytime .. just be unavailable once and then.

your time is valuable .. i don't give a shit about your time.. she probably doesn't give a shit about your time either... but you do give a shit about your time
Author:  Century100 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 9:56 am ]
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Thank's a lot, your advice is invaluable
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 10:06 am ]
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if you ever have the feeling you are really blunt ..

brush her off in a different way .. like :

hey i cannot talk right now because im very bussy... i wish i could but i can't

just have a legimate reason to do so.
Author:  Century100 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 10:17 am ]
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Alright cool

What would you say is a too frequent ratio to brush off your girlfriend?

A lot of the time I am legitimately moderately-highly busy, so I probably do 50-50

However, that can't be healthy for a relationship in the longterm...right?
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 11:53 am ]
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it's not a standard formula i am applying... but when i live my life it's often :

50-50 in dating, my time is more important

10-90 to 20-80 in a relationship... im there for her but im not going to sacrifice myself.

it also depends on the situation... how much you need eachother and so forth.
lets just keep it at this : it's never wrong or selfish to invest in yourself and place yourself above other people in general.

aside from that..

sometimes woman can be so clingy , manipulative and approval seeking - and they don't listen.. if this happens you need to be rude .. just tell them to shut the fuck up.
Author:  Century100 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 9:59 pm ]
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"sometimes woman can be so clingy , manipulative and approval seeking - and they don't listen.. if this happens you need to be rude .. just tell them to shut the fuck up."

Cool
Author:  juan47 [ Tue Oct 18, 2011 10:24 pm ]
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like guy said, just tell her your busy, or else trying to keep her happy can ruin things on your own part
Author:  Century100 [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 1:42 am ]
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kk good idea, thanks Juan
Author:  juan47 [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 2:26 am ]
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No problem guy.
Author:  Mythodical [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 2:33 am ]
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This sounds all too familiar as I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a clingy girl, Hence why I am here. One thing I always did when she was nagging me was put aside 30 min to call her it always helped. I completely let my ex soul suck me and didn't know who I was afterwards, don't let that happen to you. I guess the way it goes is have a girlfriend get pussy all the time or work for pussy and have a social life. Good luck :)
Author:  mother_fucker_2000 [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 2:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to tell girlfriend I'm busy without seeming rude?
Quote:
I have exams. And although realistically I probably do have ample time to see my girlfriend, I'd rather not see her often during this period as I like to think my time is valuable.

So whenever she asks to hang out, I'd like to tell her that I can't because I'm busy studying...but at the same time I'd like her to be happy and excited for me to finish? If that makes sense?

Id like her to respond eventually with a comment like "Can you stop studying now? :)"
Ya know, cute shit like that so that I know she will be very enthusiastic once holidays start.

How should I behave during this time to
a) Have time to do my own work
b) Keep her happy and not feel like i'm disowning her
c) Have her excited (not necessarily only sexually) to see me when she can (I want to have really good after-exam sex)

ie if she says "Would you like to hang out?" what should I respond with?
Should I still be calling her every few days that she doesn't call me?

Thanks guys

Plan, schedule and orgonize your time. Then tell her:

Babe, I am sure you're mature enough to understand that I have to study, but at the same time I want you to know I love spending time with you and enjoy your company very much. I prefer spending time with you than going out and drink with the boys. I have to study today and ..., but on Wed night I make it up to you, both in and out of bed....Something like that.

If she doesnt understand this, then fuck her off your life
Author:  Century100 [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 11:14 am ]
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nah nah she understands, but I was just worried I might sound too harsh and non-interested.

I've tried it out lately (being blunt but positive toward her) and it has worked greatly.
I'm getting everything I need to done on scedule.
Our time together is more valuable.
It's win-win
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