I'm new to gaming and just found this site and it has a wealth of information. I've been doing some analyzing on myself and realized how beta I am right now, I use alcohol way too much to losen up. I need to do a complete overhaul of my behaviour. I've already started working out again (just need to tone up really as I have muscles from before but I've got a beer belly now) and eating healthy. I take every chance I can get to talk to people and socialize. I also enrolled in capoeira which I've found is great at generating positivity.
My biggest problem is I'm very closed and have a hard time coming out of my shell. I recently moved to another town with all new people and haven't been able to produce a stable social circle (obviously my closeness is hindering me quite a bit). I also broke up my my girl of 9 years when I moved here (total relationship meltdown, she ended up cheating on me) which has also taken it's toll on my self-esteem.
I'm thinking I should work on my inner game before I start the newbie mission, I intend to read up on as much material as I can. Can anyone recommend what books would be a good starting point? I know I can create attraction when I'm relaxed so I'm confident that once I get the wussiness out of me I can do this.
It's really frustrating being this way. I have conversational skills, I can make girls laugh. I get compliments on my looks sometimes but dammit I'm mental blocking all my progress.
The road to becoming a PUA should start with becoming comfortable with yourself in all situations right? I read the newbie FAQ but there's just so much information I really need to fix the basics first so I have a good solid ground to build on.
Any/all help is appreciated.
