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| Author: | MacReady [ Sun Oct 16, 2011 5:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | a problem i never expected |
Edit: So yeah right after I posted this I noticed a bunch of other posts with guys having more or less the same issue. I never heard this sort of thing before. Hokay, so I did (finally) lose my virginity. The problem is that I have difficulty staying hard enough to have sex with her. And she is really into me - I basically have her begging to be fucked and I just cannot get it up. WTF is wrong with me? I was thinking anxiety had to be the cause but I am getting less convinced thats the whole story everytime this happens. Its true that I am not attracted to her, but I figured my man biology would enable me to fuck anything when the moment presented itself. It isn't letting me though. She is also getting way emotionally attached and I do not know how to handle it in a way that won't hurt her. Last night we 'tried' to have sex, then we had some long converstation and she told me she loved me - this is a month after we first had sex. Apparently that is supposed to be a big deal. Maybe I just have a naturally low sex drive - could be part of the reason I didn't have sex until I was 26. And if I'm being honest with myself, I'm not trying to fuck girls because I really place a high value on fucking itself. That hit me every time I had sex with this chick - the moment after I nut, I realize that "wow, sex really isn't a big deal like I was putting it up to be", and I starting thinking that I should give this whole chasing girls thing up because really, the most important thing to me is my personal time and freedom which is something I imagine you forfeit to a good extent if you get in a "serious relationship". No, I'm trying to fuck girls because it is an ego boost. And the thought that other guys are fucking girls and I'm not is toxic to me. I read up on viagra and apparently it does not increase sex drive it just helps you get hard (which is maybe what I need). I know working out increases sex drive but I already do that. Or is it normal to not be able to get hard for girls that you find not attractive? |
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| Author: | Lodewijkp [ Sun Oct 16, 2011 6:40 pm ] |
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Quote: Or is it normal to not be able to get hard for girls that you find not attractive?
i have never been in real loveim not really attracted to woman , it's not like i stare to every piece of ass out there i don't really think like '' i want her'' and that stuff.... i accepted sexuality and being a man in general... it's just normal behaviour to fuck everything walking on 2 legs - doesn't mean you have to btw... to be honest.... i never had trouble getting hard until a few months ago... when i woke up that morning the thought had struck me that im wasting my time on sex, woman and whatever , that i want to relate to someone and not actually want sex or approval at all.... from that point on i have difficulty getting a hard on... even tho i accepted being a biological machine... what im saying is that you have multiple needs and sometimes they get into conflict.. psychology is huge - most erectile dysfunctions are psychological. aside from that .. i never get a hard on for girls im not attracted to... im very specific about this stuff. |
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