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I dated a girl for 6 months and things were great for the first 4 months or so. Then we started having stupid arguments, most of which were caused by me saying something with nothing but good intentions, but her thinking it was some kind of subtle insult. By the time we broke up, it seemed like I was constantly defending myself for things that were not at all meant to be bad. Now maybe this was all just a symptom of other things going bad in the relationship, but as far as I could see situations like these were the main source of the friction between us.
My question is how do you respond to situations like these? Normally Id say something along the lines of "I meant that as a good thing and im sorry if you took it any other way". But most of the time she wouldnt believe me and it would turn into a big pointless discussion. How do you avoid getting dragged into an argument without hurting someones feelings?
I don't think you should be looking for answers for the questions you are asking. You were placed in a situation in which you had to deal with an insecure person who apparently was always playing "defense". My question is how do you respond to situations like these? Normally Id say something along the lines of "I meant that as a good thing and im sorry if you took it any other way". But most of the time she wouldnt believe me and it would turn into a big pointless discussion. How do you avoid getting dragged into an argument without hurting someones feelings?
This is not the norm, and from now on, you should aim for women who are a bit more secure and grounded.
Do not take this experience as something you have to deal with. If a woman misinterpret things all the time is either because she's really dumb, or wants to find an excuse to argue with you (or she's really insecure). Either case, do not fall for it.
More confidence, better inner game, more determination. That's how you handle those situations
.Good luck champ.