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| Author: | Teknine [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Baffled - She not only flaked on 2nd date, she disappeared |
Ok - I really don't know how to proceed here, except maybe to freeze her out. I will try to sum up with bullet points: This situation could not have gotten any better leading up to, including, and immediately after the 1st date. -met her from online -The text game I was running was strong. She keeps texting me 'i can't wait to meet you' -We have an amazing first date, make out, there's real chemistry, she suggests we meet up over the weekend, 20 mins after the end of the date she texts me 'i knew you'd be everything I thought you were - I wasn't disappointed' -I text her the next day and ask her to do something on the weekend. -She agrees to my suggested 2nd date, with exclamation points everywhere, saying she'd been wanting to do that for a while -My friend said to confirm the day before, so I texted her 'hope you're having a good day, see you tomorrow' - NO answer! -The date rolls around, Radio Silence -Finally, I called her a few hours after we were supposed to meet and simply said I thought we were meeting today what's up? It didn't even ring - went straight to voicemail. Guys, I'm 32. I'm not a master at this, but I've been on dozens of dates this year - never seen anything like this. All i can say is she was acting a little borderline sending me photos of herself with her tits falling out of her shirt before all this, and she's 33... |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Mon Oct 10, 2011 10:45 pm ] |
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Any girl that you talked to online and is sending you nude pics before you even meet, in my experience is at best good for a one night stand. As more than likely they will have uh issues. As far as this girl goes sounds like she was looking to get laid and didn't get any. Next her and move on. Also don't know if you know this or not but girls in their 30's tend to be horny and want sex more than 20 somethings. This is speaking in general. |
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| Author: | Teknine [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 1:33 am ] |
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jurupa no doubt and respect to you for all your advice here. the only reason I handled this the way I did is because she was sending me texts saying literally: "I am a good girl. If we ever meet, these are my rules: never ask me for 3 some, never ask me for sex on the first date, and never try to take me home on the first date" well, i followed the directions and look where that got me. goddamnit. |
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| Author: | vicparkguy83 [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 1:48 am ] |
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Quote: jurupa no doubt and respect to you for all your advice here.
Well I hope you learnt something. Never take what a girl says too seriously, I've been on plenty of dates where they said "i don't fuck on first dates" only to, guess what, yea that's right end up fucking her on the first date. I had one girl say it about 20 times over and over again on the phone before we met, and then ended up fucking her in the back of my car about 1.5hrs into the date. Chicks are full of shit.the only reason I handled this the way I did is because she was sending me texts saying literally: "I am a good girl. If we ever meet, these are my rules: never ask me for 3 some, never ask me for sex on the first date, and never try to take me home on the first date" well, i followed the directions and look where that got me. goddamnit. I totally agree with jurupa, she wanted to get banged and she didn't, big turn off so she moves on to the next guy. I can almost guarantee to you that's exactly what happened. |
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| Author: | jurupa [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 4:31 am ] |
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Quote: jurupa no doubt and respect to you for all your advice here. Thanks.Quote: "I am a good girl. If we ever meet, these are my rules: never ask me for 3 some, never ask me for sex on the first date, and never try to take me home on the first date" As Vicpark said above me never take what a girl says on this sort of stuff to serious. They say this because they generally don't want to look like sluts. But in the inside they are (not saying its a bad thing). The next time you go out with a girl especially a 30 something one keep an eye out on horny behavior. As its a good sign they want to fuck as much as they told you otherwise. If its a single mom more than likely she be game if you play your cards right.
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| Author: | atomicglow [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 4:57 am ] |
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I wont bore all of you by agreeing with everything that was said...instead, I will summarize it all up with 4 words when it comes to chicks saying "I don't do x on the 1st date...or OMG...I have NEVER done this before" JUDGE ACTIONS NOT WORDS.....this applies to EVERYTHING about women. |
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| Author: | GKS [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 5:16 am ] |
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If a girl brings up the "i will not have sex on the first date" or anything similar before you even get a chance to sexual frame her, guarantee she eventually ends up naked at the end of the date if you escalate enough. I find girls that act normal or very flirty harder to fclose. |
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| Author: | Teknine [ Wed Oct 12, 2011 2:09 pm ] |
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Hmm. I see things more clearly. Thanks for your responses. The only thing I don't see clearly - is there any move I can make at this point? Like hit her up in 2 weeks or some shit? |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Wed Oct 12, 2011 5:53 pm ] |
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Quote: Hmm. I see things more clearly. Thanks for your responses.
You can.The only thing I don't see clearly - is there any move I can make at this point? Like hit her up in 2 weeks or some shit? But, it's not something I'll recommend or even suggest, for that matter, to anyone. Why? Because it's about over-investment. She was not as invested in the second date, actually there was ZERO investment on her part. Other than a text message. And no doubt, your first date might've been straight out of an episode of the World's Most Romantic Dates, but do remember that unless it meant the same to her, there's no point writing romance novels about it. Look, what I'm trying to say is simple: This behavior is not worth her being pardoned for. She outright disappeared on you, and whatever be the reasons. If she did not even have the courtesy to inform you about her interest or lack thereof, I just cannot see any reason to give her another chance whatsoever. There are a lot of single and definitely, more attractive women in the world, compared to her, and I can assure you that quite a few of them will mean what they say. Go for them. No point in going back to our old disappointments. Good luck. |
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| Author: | Teknine [ Sun Oct 16, 2011 2:32 am ] |
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I'm not trying to bump this thread up to the top, but I tried to give some rep points to Draper and it didn't let me. So let me just say - that is some razor sharp advice. Every guy who wishes he knew 'what went wrong' or 'where did she go' should memorize that shit. I'm not gonna lie. I have 3 dates scheduled the next 3 days. Yet this is the shit I'm still thinking about...I hate losing. But we all have to move on. I did find out thru the grape vine that this girl has a kid. She never told me that. |
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