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When it comes to the loss of someone peoples psychological state are erratic and unpredictable. There is really very little that you can do to "make them feel better", a few things to remember when it comes to helping someone with the grieving process:

1.) appear that you are 100% comfortable, the more uneasy you are the more uneasy they are likely to become.

2.) avoid talking about yourself or making attempts to "know how they feel" this can be almost alienating or insulting to the person that is grieving.

3.) there are 5 stages of grief denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Be prepared to deal with all of these emotional states

4.) expect them to jump around to any of the above listed states without notice.

5.) some find physical contact comforting some don't, an arm across the shoulder or lightly rubbing the back should be fine, if they seem irritated or unexciting don't take it personally. (**for the love of god do not try to sexually escalate or the heavens will open up and the god will take your balls and for the rest of your meaningless existence you will be limp dicked and lonely)

6.) try to listen without interrupting

7.) if possible do something they enjoy to take her mind off things (again don't push)

I'm sorry to hear about the loss,

Best of luck, friend.

- Vitamin-J

Author:	BigJo [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 9:14 pm ]
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seeming some people are taking this way outa context cbf arguing.

Author:	Tr@veler [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:04 pm ]
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Dude. 5 of her friends fucking died. You can't make her feel better. Forget game, just be a decent person and be there for her.

Author:	skills360 [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 10:10 pm ]
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Quote: Dude. 5 of her friends fucking died. You can't make her feel better. Forget game, just be a decent person and be there for her. Exactly, how about you be there for her and focus on her and her feelings and empathize with her with what she is going through...Just try to be there for her...

Author:	GKS [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:05 pm ]
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No escalate. Just be there, but don't be her shoulder to cry on. Try to reframe and lighten her mood.

Author:	BigJo [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:19 pm ]
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Author:	kaala [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:22 pm ]
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lwould you like to have sex with a hot chick right after your family died? leave her alone.

Author:	Snake Doctor [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:33 pm ]
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@kalaa... he didnt say anyhing about sex. is just asking for guidance Just be there for her, listen what she has to say, be friend on that situation is not much you can say or do to lighten mood. Yeah buy some chocolate, rent a dvd oir something.

Author:	Vitamin-J [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:38 pm ]
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When it comes to the loss of someone peoples psychological state are erratic and unpredictable. There is really very little that you can do to "make them feel better", a few things to remember when it comes to helping someone with the grieving process: 1.) appear that you are 100% comfortable, the more uneasy you are the more uneasy they are likely to become. 2.) avoid talking about yourself or making attempts to "know how they feel" this can be almost alienating or insulting to the person that is grieving. 3.) there are 5 stages of grief denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Be prepared to deal with all of these emotional states 4.) expect them to jump around to any of the above listed states without notice. 5.) some find physical contact comforting some don't, an arm across the shoulder or lightly rubbing the back should be fine, if they seem irritated or unexciting don't take it personally. (**for the love of god do not try to sexually escalate or the heavens will open up and the god will take your balls and for the rest of your meaningless existence you will be limp dicked and lonely) 6.) try to listen without interrupting 7.) if possible do something they enjoy to take her mind off things (again don't push) I'm sorry to hear about the loss, Best of luck, friend. - Vitamin-J

Author:	Vitamin-J [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:41 pm ]
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Quote: No escalate. Just be there, but don't be her shoulder to cry on. Try to reframe and lighten her mood. There is nothing wrong with being a shoulder to cry on. Forget any game 99% of people are not capable of feeling attraction in this state anyway. their brain chemistry is far too overwhelmed. If she needs/when she needs to cry, be that shoulder, that's just being a good friend.

Author:	BigJo [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:41 pm ]
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Quote: @kalaa... he didnt say anyhing about sex. is just asking for guidance Just be there for her, listen what she has to say, be friend on that situation is not much you can say or do to lighten mood. Yeah buy some chocolate, rent a dvd oir something. Thanks mate.

Author:	BigJo [ Fri Oct 07, 2011 11:44 pm ]
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Quote: When it comes to the loss of someone peoples psychological state are erratic and unpredictable. There is really very little that you can do to "make them feel better", a few things to remember when it comes to helping someone with the grieving process: 1.) appear that you are 100% comfortable, the more uneasy you are the more uneasy they are likely to become. 2.) avoid talking about yourself or making attempts to "know how they feel" this can be almost alienating or insulting to the person that is grieving. 3.) there are 5 stages of grief denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Be prepared to deal with all of these emotional states 4.) expect them to jump around to any of the above listed states without notice. 5.) some find physical contact comforting some don't, an arm across the shoulder or lightly rubbing the back should be fine, if they seem irritated or unexciting don't take it personally. (**for the love of god do not try to sexually escalate or the heavens will open up and the god will take your balls and for the rest of your meaningless existence you will be limp dicked and lonely) 6.) try to listen without interrupting 7.) if possible do something they enjoy to take her mind off things (again don't push) I'm sorry to hear about the loss, Best of luck, friend. - Vitamin-J Thanks vitamin J, what i needed. thanks every one else i will take it all in to consideration, its a touchy subject one i have zero experience with. thanks =)

Author:	Vitamin-J [ Tue Oct 11, 2011 1:10 am ]
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I'm somewhat curious how things turned out, everything okay?

Author:	BigJo [ Wed Oct 12, 2011 11:02 am ]
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Quote: I'm somewhat curious how things turned out, everything okay? yeah it went well.. just cuddled her. and spoke about it shes sad but i let her know that i was there for her. it went well though, i was just there for her an she appreciated that fact. thanks for everything lads

Author:	Vitamin-J [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 2:57 pm ]
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Good to hear please don't edit posts after they've been posted (unless for spelling issues and such) the point of an open forum is to help people in similar situations as well Thanks man Vitamin-J

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