Let me start off by saying I am by no means an expert PUA. Within a few posts I think that’ll be clear to everyone, but that’s why I’m here. I’m ready to learn but learning is a process, so if I make any mistakes at any point during the conversations I'm going to be sure to mention, let me know so I won’t make them in the future. Anyways...
Alright a while back I met this amazing girl about an 8.5-9.0, and we start talking. I instantly can tell by her accent she was from Finland. (I’ve known a few Finnish people so I’ve learned the sound of the accent.) So I ask her about it and I was right. (Maybe I was a bit blunt with the question, almost to the point of awkwardness. I just outright said “Are you from Finland?” as my third sentence to her.)
So we've been hanging out for a while and every time we do she's always looking at ME. When she's talking she makes eye contact with ME specifically. Normally that wouldn't be a sure sign of anything but the thing is we usually hang out with a few other friends too but every time I glance over at her she's always looking right at ME.
So that's when I start thinking that she's into me, which with any luck is the case, but the other day she said something which made me pretty sure of it. Here's a brief rundown of how the conversation went about half way through.
(I have a feeling this might be borderline on breaking rule#3 but I don't know for sure. If there was anyway for me to explain this without the rule being broken I would but I can't really think of anything.) She's quizzing me on Finnish because she's been teaching me for a while, then we make eye contact. She smiled a little and said something along the lines of
"Listen... I really trust you. More then I trust most of my friends back in my own country. I have to be honest... I've been thinking about trying weed." So at this point I'm thinking to myself "What the fuck
?" although I didn't say that out loud for obvious reasons.So I answer back "Okay... so why didn't you ever think about it back in Finland?" (Maybe not my best choice of words...)
This is where I think she's lying to me but I don't know, I might google this later for verification purposes, but she tells me something along the lines of, “We don’t do that in Finland. Nobody I’ve known there has done it before. I’m not even sure it’s in the country.”
So I say back "And why exactly are you telling this to me?" (Also not my best choice of words...)
This is where she says something like "Because I want to try it, but I'm scared. I'd rather smoke with someone I trust then with a stranger or by myself, and I trust you more then anyone else here. I'm going to try it either way but I'd feel a lot safer if I did it with you." So my question is not if I should smoke with her or not. What I'm wondering is this: does this mean she's into me, or am I misreading the signal? I genuinely like her as a friend so if she's not into me I'd rather not do anything to fuck it up, but if she is into me I wanna know so I can make my move before she loses interest.
What do you guys think?