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Hey guys, I'm new. Sorry, I haven't had time to read much of the material around here, so sorry about ahead of time. So I asked a girl out the other day for the first time in my life at 24(I know I know)*, and amazingly enough she said yes. We are both at college, though shes only 19 and is pretty hot(Okay, I think pretty much every girl is hot at this point). In short, we ended up "hanging out" at her place for about an hour and a half mostly watching videos. Basically, I froze up and didn't make any moves or initiate any physical connect and pretty much said nothing substance. Still, we did laugh and smile alot which is good, though it was mostly caused by the videos. Anyways, at the end she said she'd like to hang out and was glad she made a new friend *sigh*.
So how should I proceed? I was thinking about texting her something along the lines of "I know I was boring as hell today but I really do like you" or something like that. Help Please!
*I'll put some info up in the introduction thread, but basically I gradually became a social recluse in college and eventual had to drop out because of severe depression. I think I'm pretty much better from a mental perspective but my social skills are still pretty crappy.
First of all, welcome to the forum and the community. You've made the best decision of your life Hey guys, I'm new. Sorry, I haven't had time to read much of the material around here, so sorry about ahead of time. So I asked a girl out the other day for the first time in my life at 24(I know I know)*, and amazingly enough she said yes. We are both at college, though shes only 19 and is pretty hot(Okay, I think pretty much every girl is hot at this point). In short, we ended up "hanging out" at her place for about an hour and a half mostly watching videos. Basically, I froze up and didn't make any moves or initiate any physical connect and pretty much said nothing substance. Still, we did laugh and smile alot which is good, though it was mostly caused by the videos. Anyways, at the end she said she'd like to hang out and was glad she made a new friend *sigh*.
So how should I proceed? I was thinking about texting her something along the lines of "I know I was boring as hell today but I really do like you" or something like that. Help Please!
*I'll put some info up in the introduction thread, but basically I gradually became a social recluse in college and eventual had to drop out because of severe depression. I think I'm pretty much better from a mental perspective but my social skills are still pretty crappy.
. Do not text her telling her that you were boring. Even if it's a joke, there's no point on going back to a past that wasn't necessarily "pleasant". Instead, plan your future moves.
Now, I know a lot of people are going to come back talking a lot of crap about this, but I'd suggest that the first step should be for you to read "some" material. At some point or another you'll need guidance, so it's better to start sooner than later. The reason why covering some courses is important is not because it can teach you some pick up lines and routines, but because it can show you what to avoid when dealing with women, and how to change bad behaviors for more appropriate ones.
In terms of this girl, well, I'd say invite her out before the hype of seeing you again dies off. If she's still interested she will say "YES". Since you have been out with her before, inviting her for a second date (assuming you guys still talk) shouldn't be challenging.
Do not try to change who you are completely on this second date. You should try to improve, but be subtle in your ways.
You don't seem like a boring guy, but you might be getting nervous around women due to the lack of interaction with them. That's something that will be solved over time. For now, start learning about inner game and self confidence. I think that should be the area where you need to concentrate the most time.
Learn some routines and games to show her that you're not a boring person. Try to discover a bit more about her.
Should I suggest kino (physical) escalation? Maybe. If you're new to all this, and you try to escalate into sex too easily, you might blow it (sorry, but it's true). So be careful. If you don't mind killing your chances with this girl, then do it. At the end of the day, there's more fish in the ocean.
Take all the learning experience one day at the time. Becoming good with women is a process, so don't rush into it. Be open minded, ask a lot of questions (that's what we're here for) and practice in real-life scenarios.
If you're looking for a good step-by-step guide on how to become better with women, check this one: http://www.bosproject.com/index.php?tid=93011
If you want to improve your inner game (self-confidence) try this: http://www.bosproject.com/more-confiden ... ?tid=93011
Good luck