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| Author: | Tidy [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 5:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to treat someone after you've full closed? |
This is something I've been wondering for a while, and kinda feel like a complete prick for asking it but I've never seen it covered on this forum. What to do in the case of a girl you've slept with being too into you, or thinking it wasn't as casual as you first thought? I figure this is an issue with my game as I might be being 'too nice' or something I don't know. Don't get me wrong, I'm not lying to anyone by telling them i'm interested in a relationship or anything. But this is the 3rd time this has happened and the last two times feelings got hurt. Maybe i'm too vague about what I want, I don't know... But here's the deal. Okay, so here I am starting my second year of uni, and it's freshers fortnight! I got with a HB7 last night and full-closed, but, she's been saying she's "way too into me" and I'm worried that it's going to affect my game with other girls. The one downside of uni is that everyone knows each other and goes to the same student nights, at the same clubs so I don't want anything kicking off while i'm with other girls. Nothing was mentioned at all about a relationship, or being exclusive. She did say however that it was "not a one-night-stand". At the time I just treated it as LMR along with the "we shouldn't be doing this" she was giving me and told her that it didn't have to be just one night, but now I look back I'm worried that she doesn't see this as a casual thing, or taken that line the entire wrong way and thinks something more is going on. I'm all for seeing her again, she was a cool person and fantastic in bed, but to hell am I being exclusive at uni, that's just not going to happen. I know the rule is to "Leave her better than you found her" so how do I get out of this situation without shit hitting the fan, assuming i'm not being paranoid and looking too much into this. |
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| Author: | Stand Up [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 7:20 am ] |
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I'd suggest doing all you can to avoid that happening in the first place, such as actually stating outright that you're only interested in a one night stand. After the fact I'd suggest staying nice and complementary but gradually becoming more distant and openly encouraging her to hook up with other guys so she gets over you fast. If the message still doesn't get through, and sometimes it just doesn't(girls always seem to think they can win you back) then just be flat out honest and say you're not interested in taking things further with them. I've had to do that a few times. It fucking sucks. But you gotta do it. |
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| Author: | TBolt [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 7:41 am ] |
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That's why I always kept the SNL humping out of my social circle. Think twice before you FC that cute colleague/student on a small campus/good friend's friend. In your case - be friendly, play it smooth. Stand up hit the nail with his tips. Your environment should see you as a gentlemen with a good lay rate that does not want a LTR. That's OK for a student, no one can curse you for that, it will actually help your game. Just don't be a prick or obvious heartbreaker. Don't brag with the storys, keep the details private, and add a melancholic tone when someone asks you why it did not work out in the long run with a particular girl. |
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| Author: | Tidy [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 1:03 pm ] |
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Thanks for the help. I figured it would have been something wrong before the lay, however I'm not a huge fan of SNL's either tbh, I prefer 10 night lays, so I like to stay on good terms. |
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| Author: | khuram [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 1:21 pm ] |
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there are a lot of think that u cn do b4 and after sex to be sure that the girl is nt going to think abt a relation. Usually deep connection, enf cmfort and techniques like future projects make a girl abt having a relation with you. But skipping all the long details, i would jump right into what u should do now. Ok here is what to do don't ignore her don't be distant towards her. Don't talk abt relation talk to her when she wants to talk if she asks you, "are we in a relationship" reply,"i am nt sure yet, i got so much else to do you know" dnt give point black no (it could get her hurt, furious and she could be dangerous 4 ur reputation) and dnt say direct yes. Just tell u are nt sure. Talk to her abt other gals (how dat gal iz so beautiful, how dat galz fgr iz so hot etc) hopefully she will get the point. Now there is another way out behave like a beta male. Be needy text her a lot be sexually needy inshort, do everything that is nt alpha and a wuss move. And be sure that she would dump u i hope that helps |
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| Author: | DJ_Z [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 3:24 pm ] |
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This is why you always, always always always always (repeat 1000 times) tell a girl up front what you are looking for. And you need to stop assuming that she is on your wavelength, and stop trying to use tone, body language, and vague statements to assume she is on your level. Tell her, straight up, what you are tryingi to get with this relationship, romantic or casual. If you are honest immediately, you cannot honestly be called a player. |
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