PUA Forum :: Why do my pickups end up like this. Any Advice?

Same shit happens to me. I can easily number close but when I try to hit them up later I usually get no response...

I think it's because I am obviously drunk and can't be taken too seriously. Going out tonight and only having 2 beers tops.

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Drink light beer, Coors light, bud light, miller light. Tastes nothing, but you can drink all night without being drunk

You didn't build enough attraction when you got her number. Girls will give out their number to a guy at a bar sometimes when they aren't attracted to him at all, either as a way to get rid of him or just to avoid appearing rude, or maybe at the time they really did want to. I don't think there's that big a gap between a good number close and a k-close in terms of how physical you've been and how much attraction/comfort has been built up. The only difference is you couldn't kiss her for some reason.

If you get a flake, its usually because you just weren't doing as well as you thought.

It could affect matters, if she's really insecure. Or maybe you're misinterpreting. Maybe you didn't realize she was absolutely not into you, and he was more making fun of you than her

It's a legit possibility.

You build attraction through conversation and kino escalation. Like I said, your kino should be going on enough that you'd be making out or kissing her, but for some reason you get her number instead.

The vibe is different the day after. Suddenly mind comes into play and things get put into perspective. What seemed a good idea at that time might not be anymore now etc. Flaking occurs, get used to it.

What did you text her?

Texting is a very impersonal form of communication. This is why women use so many emoticons and over-punctuation when texting. It injects emotion and personality, into dry text.

If you are just texting her stuff like "Hey, remember me?", that's not gonna cut it. You have to hook her somehow.

Presuppose interest and comfort and text her casually. Use humor, recall funny or memorable moments from the night before, use lols and emoticons, give her a nickname or say something silly, tease her, flirt with her, ask her questions that require a significant answer rather than a one word answer, keep it light and fun.

It may seem weird and awkward to text this way because men tend to only text with a purpose rather than for the joy of a texting conversation. But women love to just text constantly about nothing, and they love text messages like this. If you can start a texting conversation like this, it is going to be hard for a woman not to respond, even if its simply out of curiosity.

Author:	PUAKarma [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 7:40 pm ]
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Hey guys small question. My pickups seem to end like this all the time. I get the correct number from the girl but when I text, I get a response and they never want to meet up and might respond with a hey or something like that. Second response i get is no response. Here is an example of my last pickup and you guys tell me. I will explain how much i remember but it was about a week ago. I was in a random lecture hall waiting for a friend and this girl asked me if i was in her next class and i had no interest in her so i just talked to her and her guy friend for a bit to kill time. Then an HB8 came about 10min later and i talked to her right away and introduced myself and at this point we all got each others name. 5 min later another HB8 came and I liked this one and she really distracted me when she came. I stopped talking and turned to her direct eye contact, i walked close just so we're about 3ft away and introduced myself and asked her for her name and held her hand but she was a bit of an airhead and kept forgetting stuff like her name haha and i called her out on it. Anyway we talked for 15min and still holding her hand and then my ex gf randomly walked by and these girls were saying how hot that girl is and i had to introduce her they talked about fashion and my target pointed at me and said this guy likes girls who dress like skanks and i said yeah i know thats what i like you so much. After that my ex left and i told her im meeting friends for pub night later tonight she should join us with her friends and told her to text me to let me know and i walked away and then turned and she says i dont have your number we just met. She took my number and texted me hers. Later that night i texted her and no response at all. Any guesses why this always happens to me?

Author:	watusippin? [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 7:45 pm ]
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Same shit happens to me. I can easily number close but when I try to hit them up later I usually get no response... I think it's because I am obviously drunk and can't be taken too seriously. Going out tonight and only having 2 beers tops.

Author:	Vanazzul [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 7:47 pm ]
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Quote: Same shit happens to me. I can easily number close but when I try to hit them up later I usually get no response... I think it's because I am obviously drunk and can't be taken too seriously. Going out tonight and only having 2 beers tops. Drink light beer, Coors light, bud light, miller light. Tastes nothing, but you can drink all night without being drunk

Author:	jpmorganjr [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 7:56 pm ]
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She didn't have a good enough reason to text you back. People act on emotions. You didn't create enough. Games will make people laugh...but they'll forget quickly. Cause real attraction and they'll be calling you.

Author:	watusippin? [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 8:04 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Same shit happens to me. I can easily number close but when I try to hit them up later I usually get no response... I think it's because I am obviously drunk and can't be taken too seriously. Going out tonight and only having 2 beers tops. Drink light beer, Coors light, bud light, miller light. Tastes nothing, but you can drink all night without being drunk I think that I would rather swallow a loaded gun than drink light beer haha. I just need to learn to fully eliminate my AA without the use of alcohol. Especially since I have the kind of eyes that scream "Im fuuucked up" when I drink or smoke.

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Author:	DJ_Z [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 8:53 pm ]
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You didn't build enough attraction when you got her number. Girls will give out their number to a guy at a bar sometimes when they aren't attracted to him at all, either as a way to get rid of him or just to avoid appearing rude, or maybe at the time they really did want to. I don't think there's that big a gap between a good number close and a k-close in terms of how physical you've been and how much attraction/comfort has been built up. The only difference is you couldn't kiss her for some reason. If you get a flake, its usually because you just weren't doing as well as you thought.

Author:	papichulo818 [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 9:07 pm ]
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pickup lines are lame, they only work on very insecure women. Approach with something original, but not a pickup line makes u sound like a newb.

Author:	PUAKarma [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 9:38 pm ]
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Quote: You didn't build enough attraction when you got her number. Girls will give out their number to a guy at a bar sometimes when they aren't attracted to him at all, either as a way to get rid of him or just to avoid appearing rude, or maybe at the time they really did want to. I don't think there's that big a gap between a good number close and a k-close in terms of how physical you've been and how much attraction/comfort has been built up. The only difference is you couldn't kiss her for some reason. If you get a flake, its usually because you just weren't doing as well as you thought. any tips on building attraction? I have just been relying on strong body language and eye contact and I try to be a little touchy to get physical.

Author:	PUAKarma [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 9:40 pm ]
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oh yeah one more thing i forgot. When i was leaving i over heard the guy in the group laughing at her and saying hahaha you enjoyed that didnt you. Could that have any affect on not texting back?

Author:	DJ_Z [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 9:47 pm ]
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It could affect matters, if she's really insecure. Or maybe you're misinterpreting. Maybe you didn't realize she was absolutely not into you, and he was more making fun of you than her It's a legit possibility. You build attraction through conversation and kino escalation. Like I said, your kino should be going on enough that you'd be making out or kissing her, but for some reason you get her number instead.

Author:	PUAKarma [ Mon Sep 26, 2011 11:12 pm ]
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Quote: It could affect matters, if she's really insecure. Or maybe you're misinterpreting. Maybe you didn't realize she was absolutely not into you, and he was more making fun of you than her It's a legit possibility. You build attraction through conversation and kino escalation. Like I said, your kino should be going on enough that you'd be making out or kissing her, but for some reason you get her number instead. Thanks bro. I did think of the possibility that she wasnt into me and just being nice but i couldnt tell if she was into me or not because she sent a couple of IOIs. Also I dont go to clubs or bars. I always do day game so taking kino to a kiss is very hard during the day, specially if the girl is with a group of friends. I have never had a k-close during the day as well. Mainly because im very new to pickup and still an AFC

Author:	P-Style [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 6:23 am ]
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The vibe is different the day after. Suddenly mind comes into play and things get put into perspective. What seemed a good idea at that time might not be anymore now etc. Flaking occurs, get used to it.

Author:	PUAKarma [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 7:41 am ]
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Quote: The vibe is different the day after. Suddenly mind comes into play and things get put into perspective. What seemed a good idea at that time might not be anymore now etc. Flaking occurs, get used to it. You're right. The fact that she was holding my hand for about 15 min from when i first seen her kinda made me think for sure she was into me at the time when usually girls who are not into me in the past just let go and pull their hand away. What do you think of this situation? about 3 days ago I randomly talked to this HB10 from extreme fitness. She gave me 3 IOI's when i talked to her. She did hair flip to one side and then again a few min later. Then she started playing with her necklace for a bit then keep taking her ring in and out non stop. All i did was go to her and tell her shes hot with strong eye contact made her laugh in the first 30 seconds. Then i just went on directly hitting on her like looking at her boobs and saying dont worry im not looking at your boobs just your name tag or am I?? lol she was respond so well i think. Then she says she has a bf. I tested her by asking a few questions and she didnt seem like she was lying.

Author:	Kalel [ Tue Sep 27, 2011 8:14 am ]
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What did you text her? Texting is a very impersonal form of communication. This is why women use so many emoticons and over-punctuation when texting. It injects emotion and personality, into dry text. If you are just texting her stuff like "Hey, remember me?", that's not gonna cut it. You have to hook her somehow. Presuppose interest and comfort and text her casually. Use humor, recall funny or memorable moments from the night before, use lols and emoticons, give her a nickname or say something silly, tease her, flirt with her, ask her questions that require a significant answer rather than a one word answer, keep it light and fun. It may seem weird and awkward to text this way because men tend to only text with a purpose rather than for the joy of a texting conversation. But women love to just text constantly about nothing, and they love text messages like this. If you can start a texting conversation like this, it is going to be hard for a woman not to respond, even if its simply out of curiosity.

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Author:	PUAKarma [ Thu Sep 29, 2011 2:16 am ]
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Quote: What did you text her? Texting is a very impersonal form of communication. This is why women use so many emoticons and over-punctuation when texting. It injects emotion and personality, into dry text. If you are just texting her stuff like "Hey, remember me?", that's not gonna cut it. You have to hook her somehow. Presuppose interest and comfort and text her casually. Use humor, recall funny or memorable moments from the night before, use lols and emoticons, give her a nickname or say something silly, tease her, flirt with her, ask her questions that require a significant answer rather than a one word answer, keep it light and fun. It may seem weird and awkward to text this way because men tend to only text with a purpose rather than for the joy of a texting conversation. But women love to just text constantly about nothing, and they love text messages like this. If you can start a texting conversation like this, it is going to be hard for a woman not to respond, even if its simply out of curiosity. Nah i only used "remember me" on my first pick up ever and didnt go so well lol. Thanks for the info. I know my texting is very bad. Maybe any suggestions on a book i can check out to improve my textgame?