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Author:  03webberjos [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 8:50 am ]
Post subject:  I just made a dick of myself (is there any hope)
i had been friends with this girl for at least a year and she was really hot maybe a HB 8. and i thought that she was way out of league when some of my other friends said that she liked me. so i started flirting with her and seemed to be going really well so i held her hand and went to kiss her (big mistake!!!) she asked me what i was doing and i said "kissing you" and she punched me in the face and said i was a creep and stormed off. what the hell do i do now god damn it?????!
Author:  L.A. Tripp [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 9:03 am ]
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Now, you sincerely apologize to her if you want her to remain your friend. It sounds like she has you solidly in the LJBF zone, of which there is VIRTUALLY no escape, unless you're very experienced. Game other girls and repair this friendship. If ANYTHING will ever turn her into more than a friend, it would be you gaming other girls.
Author:  03webberjos [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 9:12 am ]
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cheers mate, ill take that into account. thinking about it. why should i waste time on someone like her anyway.
Author:  Marco Polo [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 9:27 am ]
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If you were such a good friend of yours she wouldn`t even try to hit you and said you are creep. You are not her brother after all dam`it! Meet her, tell her you made a mistake by missreading some signs, apologise for that but also tell her directly that you are hurt by her reacting like that and that you are dissapointed with her`s disrespectfull reaction and words she used. Be calm, even little cold, talk normaly without showing much regret and finish by telling her you are sorry that your friendship ended in that way and then go away. There is huge chance she will start feeling realy guilty and call you for a make up meeting and she can even start feeling sparks of emotional interest for you. If not, who cares, you should treat yourself as a king and other people should traet you with respect. Don`t aloww nobody to threat you like she did, even if she is/was your "very good friend"!

Marco
Author:  Valence [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 3:40 pm ]
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Come on guys.....

So a girl hits a guy and he should apologize to her? What is wrong with that fucking picture. Apologizing to her would be weakness (AFC)

She should be apologizing to him. She was the one that flipped out. She could have easily held him away or stopped him in some other civilized way.

03webberjos

Learn some kiss routines. You obviously do not know how to read signs and it will help you.

DO NOT seek her out again. The next time you run into her, neg her about hitting like a girl and needing to go to the gym. Tell her that next time that you kiss her, you will find a piece of gum first.
Author:  Arkitekt [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 4:07 pm ]
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She went totally overboard regardless of your relationship with her.
She could have handled it a lot more humanely than that. So that tells
me something:

For her to go off and actually punch or slap you shows how strongly it
affected her. Maybe it's happened to her before and she's gotten hurt.
Or maybe you were such a good friend that it shocked her so much as
to rashly hit you...or both.

If a girl gets angry or upset at you, then that means in some way,
shape, or form, you are important to her. Think about it.

If you do want to remain friends with her, maybe you don't necessarily
have to apologize. Instead, maybe you should just acknowledge the
situation and ask her why she responded so strongly.
Author:  Marco Polo [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 4:34 pm ]
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Quote:
Come on guys.....

So a girl hits a guy and he should apologize to her? What is wrong with that fucking picture. Apologizing to her would be weakness (AFC)

She should be apologizing to him. She was the one that flipped out. She could have easily held him away or stopped him in some other civilized way.

03webberjos

Learn some kiss routines. You obviously do not know how to read signs and it will help you.

DO NOT seek her out again. The next time you run into her, neg her about hitting like a girl and needing to go to the gym. Tell her that next time that you kiss her, you will find a piece of gum first.
Apology only displays his supremacy in human interaction and his maturity. She will understand that she made a mistake by reacting the way she did and she`ll have guilty concience which will most likely result by her apologising him. This is higher level of human psychology my friend! :wink:

Neging her AFTER what she did is an AFC thing to do, it will only make her think that he IS a jerk and that her reaction was correct.
Author:  Valence [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 6:08 pm ]
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I subscribe to a different avenue of human psychology. I also take into consideration that he will not present a proper frame with his apology.

He will get no where with it. At the very lest, the other direction allows him to have a chance.

It is much easier to go from being a jerk to being pursued by a person, than from being a patsy to being pursued.
Author:  Starbuck [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 6:15 pm ]
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Try to kiss her again.. :lol:
Author:  Claire [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 6:29 pm ]
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I can't believe she just up and hit you what a bitch
a simple hand up a "STOP" would have been acceptable
She should be apologizing to you in my opinion
Author:  Arkitekt [ Fri Nov 16, 2007 6:46 pm ]
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To just up and apologize first thing without completely understanding
the situation would be uncalibrated.

At this point, you have absolutely no idea why she did what she did.

... and vise-versa.
Author:  Roads [ Sat Nov 17, 2007 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I just made a dick of myself (is there any hope)
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i had been friends with this girl for at least a year and she was really hot maybe a HB 8. and i thought that she was way out of league when some of my other friends said that she liked me. so i started flirting with her and seemed to be going really well so i held her hand and went to kiss her (big mistake!!!) she asked me what i was doing and i said "kissing you" and she punched me in the face and said i was a creep and stormed off. what the hell do i do now god damn it?????!
Sure you'll telling the whole story? Also, those "friends" of yours who said she liked you, were they guys or girls, and how well did you know them?

It's possible you're just bad at telling IOI's, it's possible your friends played a joke on you, it's possible you failed to properly escalate kino, it's possible she just had the sudden realization that her best platonic friend was chasing her ass for a year, and it's possible she's a psycho.

But if you apologize after being slugged in the face for attempting to kiss her, you're not a man, you're a tool. I say, do not apologize, instead be hurt and angry like you are supposed to be, go up to her, look her square in the eye, and ask her why she punched you and demand an apology from her.
Author:  Hengman [ Sat Nov 17, 2007 3:27 am ]
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Lemme help with this because the LJBF zone never happens to Hengman!

Alright, you need to escalate kino more until she's comfortable.

Girls love that ish.
Author:  03webberjos [ Sat Nov 17, 2007 1:43 pm ]
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thanks for all the posts guys, its nice to know that im not totally in the wrong here. I spoke to her yesterday she apologized asked if she wanted to start again. i took your advice and said "no, we should just be friends". i think she has a screw lose personally :P.
unfortunatly it has dented my confidence with girls a bit :(. (but hey im sure i will recover!!)

thanks for all the opinions. its nice to know there are people who can help even if they are 100+ miles away.
Author:  Feelsonumb [ Tue Apr 01, 2008 4:53 am ]
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Thats the strangest reaction ive heard to a kiss unless you jumped her and stuck your tongue down her throat...

I have to side with valence and roads on this 1, did you ask your buddies if they were fucking with you or not?

give up some more details about your relationship with her and exactly what you did so the pros and analyze it ... im a noob
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