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Author:	noochie [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 9:14 pm ]
Post subject:	Unique situation for you all to figure out... help
I hope you guys can help me here, im kind of in a bind. Feel like im in limbo. I usually have an answer for these things but I just can't figure this one out. Heres the situation: So, I've been seeing this girl for lets say 3 weeks. Things are doing really well, I mean super well so far. All the signs are there, i have no doubt that she thinks im the bomb, and I think shes the bomb. Were really hitting it off hard. Ever since I met her we've been texting everyday with occasional phone calls. Last Friday a friend of hers passed away. On saturday she texted me to let me know what was going on. I told her I was sorry and was here if she needed me. We're not quite in a position where I can just go over to her house and comfort her. Plus she probably is with family and friends and all that stuff. I feel really helpless. Since that last saturday text we haven't talked at all. Shes been feeling down in the dumps. I texted her last night to ask how she is after 4-5 days of not talking. She hasn't read it yet. RSD talks about taking what you want and stuff like that. I'm thinking about sending her an email or facebook inbox message making everything clear telling her I really like her and I know shes going through a tough time right now but I just want certaintly that we will continue seeing eachother and stuff like that (giving her certainty - as Tim would say). You know, like laying everything out on the line because I hate being in limbo and not knowing what is happening between us and how she feels. I just want to get out of limbo wether its that were going to stop seeing eachother or continue I just want a clear answer. This is a different situation because I also have to be sensitive to what shes going through right now. I can't just take what I want because it might come across and being self-centered and selfish of my own wants when clearly something so much more important is going on in her life. Someone I talked to about it said it might be a front for actually trying to get out of this forming relationship for some unknown reason. But that sounds super-unlikely, all the signs point to go. I don't have any reason to believe she might want out and it just seems silly that she would make up a story of this magnitude just for that purpose. Rediculous. Normally it would be clear to me to take the stand as a man and go for what I want but in this case its quite different theres alot more things going on here then I can handle or know what to do with. HELP!

Author:	DJ_Z [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 9:29 pm ]
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My solution, because this is my experience, is to call her and offer to take her out somewhere. If she refuses initiallyLet her know that it may help to just go out and relax a bit to take her mind off things, if only for a couple hours. It's tough to deal with grief when you are just sitting there, thinking about what has been lost. It can help tremendously to take some time to remember that life will go on, and life will get better. If she says she still does not want to go out, the best you can do is offer to help her when needed. That is a good way, in my opinion, to combine "going after what you want" with being sensitive to the situation.

Author:	mickeyjackson21 [ Thu Sep 22, 2011 9:40 pm ]
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Hey man. I must say that I have never heard a story like this before. This problem can be handled without any pua material or tactics. I think it would be a good idea to send her a message to let her know that you understand that she is going through a tough time and that you are there for her if she needs you. But I would think that telling the girl that you really like her and asking her straight out if you guys will still see each other would be a bad idea. the reason for this is that it would shift your attention from her to yourself which would make you look selfish, self-centred, needy and desperate for her. the best thing you can do is to send the message to her with the right things and to play it cool. Patience is a virtue in this case. Being patient in this case is not like you met her for the first time and just starting to do text game on her. you already met her, you absolutely know that she's into you. she will get back to you when you send her a message to her saying that you are there for her. girls always go to guys for emotional support, and us guys will get the sexual support lol. hope that i have helped. happy gaming dude

Author:	Don Draper [ Fri Sep 23, 2011 8:32 pm ]
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Well, call her and take her out, if not that then go on a walk or something with her. Let her talk, be patient with her and if she needs a little prodding, and I strictly mean little, do that. You don't have to thinking of gaming her or anything of that sort, right now you just need to comfort her in your own way. So, do that. RSD can go to hell for all I care, this is about being a human being. Not some emotionless robot all of which it cares of, being it's own agenda. Good luck.

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