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Author:  Dr. Spargenator [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 1:24 pm ]
Post subject:  how do you guys deal with flakes?
ok so this girl named kyla really likes me. i know she does, she tells me and shows every IOI on the planet. But she always flakes on me. anyway. what do you guys do when a girl flakes? what are you suppose to do? i really have no idea what to do when a girl flakes thanks guys.
Author:  Falcony [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 9:16 pm ]
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I usually eat flakes with ice cream mmm very nice ice cream and chocolate lol. Do you have the flake chocolate sticks in the US I wander? :?

It depends on the circumstances and how she flakes, do you ask her out and she says yes but then texts/calls you on the day and cancels at the last minute?

This is a bit disrespectualy, I would tell her what an awesome time you had when you next see her create a bit of a jealousy plotline, perhaps you met another girl or a really good time with some friends and didn't need her.

Does she not let you know at all?

This is totally disrespectful, I would write her off as there are plenty more fish in the sea and people who are more deserving of your time.

Or does she let you know well in advance, give a good reason and suggest meeting up at another date/time and apologise?

She has shown you respect so agree to meet up with her again but don't be too available or needy and also don't do anything lame like pretend you are busy to make you look unavailable/cool. Some PUA stuff is BS you know. Use your common sense be normal and reward good behaviour and punish bad behaviour.
Author:  anthonypham [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 9:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how do you guys deal with flakes?
Quote:
ok so this girl named kyla really likes me. i know she does, she tells me and shows every IOI on the planet. But she always flakes on me. anyway. what do you guys do when a girl flakes? what are you suppose to do? i really have no idea what to do when a girl flakes thanks guys.
The most common thing AFC does, is to make things less awkward ['no, that's ok'. or 'too bad you didn't come, I called someone else to join me']. I did that too!
But you shouldn't! Now the girl thinks it is ok to flake on you, because you are not getting mad.

If she flakes on you, this means she is not into you.
If she flakes on you, but shows IOI's and initiates the contact, she likes you, but wants to keep her options open [there are other guys involved]

The theory generally advices you to freeze her out. I must admit that this solution didn't work for me.

I would advice to send her a text with the following:'I am going to have a cup of coffea at 'pub" at 3pm. You can join, if you want. If you don't want, that is ok too'
[Notice: you set time and date. you are not asking, you are telling!. No begging. If she is interested, she will make time and come. If she is not interested, she will come with an excuse. You will ignore the excuse!]
Author:  jurupa [ Tue Sep 20, 2011 12:18 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how do you guys deal with flakes?
If a girl likes you she won't flake, it is that simple. As far as dealing with it, build up her interest.
Author:  bansario [ Fri Sep 23, 2011 10:38 pm ]
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Read this: http://bosproject.com/blog/why-do-women ... ys-part-1/

It'll show you how to decrease the chances of being flaked on dramatically.
Author:  Impetumus [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 2:30 pm ]
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Quote:
I usually eat flakes with ice cream mmm very nice ice cream and chocolate lol. Do you have the flake chocolate sticks in the US I wander? :?

It depends on the circumstances and how she flakes, do you ask her out and she says yes but then texts/calls you on the day and cancels at the last minute?

This is a bit disrespectualy, I would tell her what an awesome time you had when you next see her create a bit of a jealousy plotline, perhaps you met another girl or a really good time with some friends and didn't need her.

Does she not let you know at all?

This is totally disrespectful, I would write her off as there are plenty more fish in the sea and people who are more deserving of your time.

Or does she let you know well in advance, give a good reason and suggest meeting up at another date/time and apologise?

She has shown you respect so agree to meet up with her again but don't be too available or needy and also don't do anything lame like pretend you are busy to make you look unavailable/cool. Some PUA stuff is BS you know. Use your common sense be normal and reward good behaviour and punish bad behaviour.





Yes, Falcony is right. I couldn't agree more. Last Saturday I was out with six girls, and I liked one of them, so I tried dancing, negging, playfully teasing, but somehow she wasn't really into it, so I dropped her, and started dirty dancing with her friend, she was so jealous.
The rest of the guys were hitting on her but then she kept coming to me for more...

JEALOUSY is the strongest weapon in your pick-up arsenal. If you can, ignore her, talk with other girls, talk about girls in your life. If she wasn't attracted to you, she will be now... :)
Author:  Impetumus [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 2:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how do you guys deal with flakes?
Quote:
ok so this girl named kyla really likes me. i know she does, she tells me and shows every IOI on the planet. But she always flakes on me. anyway. what do you guys do when a girl flakes? what are you suppose to do? i really have no idea what to do when a girl flakes thanks guys.



I had some girls flake on me, but I don't think it had anything to do with my game, because sometimes, life just gets in the way... :\

If she is a girl who is part of your social circle, when you see her next time, try to find out what she hasn't tried before, and then tell her that you would like to do that with her

I don't know if you know what timebridge is, but try to minimilize the phone game.
If you have done the attraction right, she will be into it, don't make a phone number your goal.

Do not take her phone number at the end, take it in the middle of conversation, just don't make phone number your goal...

EXAMPLE:

You: Hey, have you ever been to a sushi bar?
Her: No, I haven't.
You: Well, I was planning to go this week. You know what, you are a cool girl, you should come with.
Her: Yeah, sure.
You: Ok, give me your number and I'll call you. (If you already have her number, tell her that you erased it accidentaly, and that she gives it again)

*If she says that a friend will come with her, you accept it and say:"Yeah, sure, but you should know that my friend will come too"*

After she gives you her number, continue talking at least for 5 minutes, and then you can leave.

I hope this helps bro... :)[/b]
Author:  snubby (aka Zen) [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 2:54 pm ]
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Jealousy is a short term strategy. If you plan on playing that game long term, you are setting yourself for a very bad relationship. And don't forget, she can play that game too.

As for flaky girls, I have a 1 flake you're out rule. If the girl has what sounds like a genuine and sincere excuse AND apology, I will make an exception. Otherwise, it's freeze out time. If she contacts me to try to get together again, I make it someplace convenient to me, like a bar down the block.

There are too many women out there to waste time on the flakes. Some are just not interested enough, some will set up multiple dates and go on the one that interests her most, some are just amazingly disorganized and always late. I have no interest in any of these women. My time is valuable. Yours is too.
Author:  Impetumus [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 3:11 pm ]
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Quote:
Jealousy is a short term strategy. If you plan on playing that game long term, you are setting yourself for a very bad relationship. And don't forget, she can play that game too.

As for flaky girls, I have a 1 flake you're out rule. If the girl has what sounds like a genuine and sincere excuse AND apology, I will make an exception. Otherwise, it's freeze out time. If she contacts me to try to get together again, I make it someplace convenient to me, like a bar down the block.

There are too many women out there to waste time on the flakes. Some are just not interested enough, some will set up multiple dates and go on the one that interests her most, some are just amazingly disorganized and always late. I have no interest in any of these women. My time is valuable. Yours is too.



Look, I have a friend, who is natural, and he is already 5 month's in a relationship, and I think due mostly to jealousy. He just likes talking to girls, and when she hears about other girl, she knows that he is a keeper, he is a guy of value..

But, he is also romantic, and he know how to treat his gf (he is like the prefect bf).

Look, you are right. Dr. Spargenator needs to show that he is alpha, and that if she can't find time for him, well he can't find time for her.
By calling her to a sushi bar (an example of interesting place she has never been) he is actually saying, I already planned to go there, and if you want you can join me. (she is not the prize, she is just going to a interesting place with a interesting guy)

I think of this girl as playette, and she likes the attention of the guys, so if Dr.Spargenator takes him from her, and other guys just continue coming to her, Dr.Spargenator will be the prize, she will want him.

*The harder we get the thing we desire, the more we value it*
Author:  Ezo [ Sat Sep 24, 2011 5:06 pm ]
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If a girl flakes on me I know that
1. I didnt build enough interest
2. Any attempt to build it now will end with me looking like a loser
3. Any attempt to confront her will make me a whiny brat

So what do I do, I pretend like nothing happened and go out with someone else.

Thats it, people will tell you to freeze her out or something but you know... Just do your stuff and if she keeps being a bitch she will have lost you since you have found something better... And if she wants back in, she has to take that step. Anyway, you are gonna have fun while you wait.
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