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Author:  RossMan [ Sun Sep 18, 2011 4:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Can't get sex!
Ok ive been have my appt neighbor over pretty much every night to hang out and stuff. As in she comes over we hangout and talk awhile then make out. BTW she was just in a 3yr relationship which ended about the day she met me, and we've been doing this since. About a week ago she came over in a super sexy dress and i finally got to get her clothes off but i didn't have a condom!! :twisted:

Since then i've tried to get her naked but she keeps saying shes not like that..and she doesn't know me enough..EVEN THOUGH if i would've had a condom that one night we probably wouldn't have the conversation. You guys know anything i can do to help push her over?? Maybe not talk to her for a day? Any advice would help!

And any sex tricks i should try?? Its been like 6months for me and this girl is SUPER sexy so i want to make it awesome
Author:  jpmorganjr [ Sun Sep 18, 2011 6:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Pushing is for Rapists
Stop trying to push her into sex. Pushing is for rapists.

She wouldn't keep coming back if she didn't want to have sex with you.

She's waiting for two things:

1. To be sexually aroused enough. You aren't seducing her effectively. Turn her on more. Create tension between expectation and uncertainty the sex will occur.

2. To feel safe enough. Give her a reason to feel safe. You do this your compassionate responses to her discomfort.
Author:  skills360 [ Sun Sep 18, 2011 7:34 pm ]
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you got to turn her on enough to have sex, without making it look planned, second you may be falling into boyfriend zone, which may delay sex..
Author:  RossMan [ Sun Sep 18, 2011 8:47 pm ]
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Its a weird situation..We've been doing this for about 2 1/2 weeks but her roommates don't know we make out..One is close friends w/ her exbf of 3 years so i guess she doesn't want her to know we've been hooking up. Which is understandable after a relationship of 3 years i guess. So its hard to get her alone a lot and sexually escalate. She responds well to making out and i can tell shes turned on but it always takes me awhile to start kissing her if i'm not drunk (major afc, i know) :( And then she will say "ok i gotta go home" becuz its so late. And she does say i hint at sex too much(bad?). We've also talked about being single. i said i "enjoyed being single" and she agreed but we've also had the conversations where she tells me that she likes me. I'm going to invite her over again tonight.
Author:  RossMan [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 7:47 am ]
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I think i'm going to just ask her over tomorrow to take a few (1 or 2 shots), hang out, maybe see if she wants to hit up a bar. I think i'm going to ask what are "relationship" is. Something along the lines "hey what are we? Neighbors that just have a physical make out when we drunk or is there potential for more than just Friends w/ ben." Is this a good or bad idea?
Author:  jpmorganjr [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 9:00 am ]
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I think i'm going to ask what are "relationship" is. Something along the lines "hey what are we? Neighbors that just have a physical make out when we drunk or is there potential for more than just Friends w/ ben." Is this a good or bad idea?
Very bad idea dude. More importantly than patching this hole though is changing the cause, because it will just leak out somewhere else.

The cause is neediness. You need to know what is going on because it will make you feel better.

Women aren't turned on by men who need to know so that they can feel better. Such a man can not provide for a woman in the ways that stimulate her.

Find your neediness and destroy it.
Author:  Don Draper [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 1:39 pm ]
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She responds well to making out and i can tell shes turned on but it always takes me awhile to start kissing her if i'm not drunk (major afc, i know) :( And then she will say "ok i gotta go home" becuz its so late. And she does say i hint at sex too much(bad?). We've also talked about being single. i said i "enjoyed being single" and she agreed but we've also had the conversations where she tells me that she likes me. I'm going to invite her over again tonight.
Well, if it takes an effort to kiss her, then you're doing things wrong.

Secondly, hinting at sex too much makes you sound like a sex addict or someone who just wants her for her body, none of those things have any positive value attached to them whatsoever. Don't do that.
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I think i'm going to ask what are "relationship" is. Something along the lines "hey what are we? Neighbors that just have a physical make out when we drunk or is there potential for more than just Friends w/ ben." Is this a good or bad idea?
Unless you're the one wearing panties in the relationship, you have no business to ask her where the relationship is going. You are a man, you dictate the bloody relationship in the direction where you want it to go. Don't submit to her whims all the time, shows weakness.

AND DO NOT ASK THAT QUESTION. Made me cringe.
Author:  RossMan [ Mon Sep 19, 2011 2:04 pm ]
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So my next move should be.. Call her tonight and tell her what we are doing tonight or should i have no contact for a day or so and then call her
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