PUA Forum :: Maybe It's Just Me... Give Up/Keep Going, Either Way Sucks

What do you do in this situation? Give up or continue on

Instead of droning about why they shouldn't give out their number and how you're funny and smart.. blah blah ,You should focus on the reasons why they stop talking to you after a while.

It could be something you said, or something you did, it could just be something in your body language or tone.. either way, the problem needs to be diagnosed.

Ignoring your issues, will just lead to more and more failures.

Pick-up is not about women, it's about becoming better men.

I went out with a friend. He notices this girl keeps staring at me. When I get up and walk away, her eyes would follow me. So I approached her and started talking to her.. she kept turning her body away and just simply wouldn't talk to me. She wouldn't keep the conversation going (letting it die off quickly).

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I need a lot more detail before I can help with this. How did you approach? As much as you can remember, what'd you say? Did you take too long to approach?

I'm 23, skinny, no kid, a car and a pretty decent size place to myself. I'm brand new to this whole thing because I was pretty much silent and never talked to anyone.

Three numbers later, tons of messages online later, and meeting various people.. I have yet to seal one deal or even find someone who is attracted to me.

I keep thinking to myself.. "obviously I'm doing something wrong, but what is it?" Well.. maybe it's just me. Every night I'd go home alone thinking "Maybe you should just give up." but then I thought to myself.. no.. no I'm not going back to late nights of World of Warcraft only to wish I was someone else.

Well here we are two months later, and instead of video gaming.. the only thing I've truly learned without fault about two months of going out, it's just me.

Girl A: She works at Bdubs which we go to regularly, that night I go out to see her.. I get her number and she refuses to talk to me now for what ever reason..

Girl B: I met her at a bar and she seemed interested in me, even when she was talking with friends she wouldn't stop glancing over at me.. but she would randomly just leave and talk to someone else and she hasn't responded to my text anymore.

Girl C: I'm pretty sure she was just being nice but she seemed genuinely interested in me, touching my arm, talking to me.. she gives me her number.. no response.. I try again 3 days later, no response.

Seriously wtf? Why even give a guy your number if you have NO intention of ever talking to him or don't even like him? I almost wish I was born gay.. they're so much more relaxed and easy going.

Some days I want to give up.. and just go back to World of Warcraft gaming and wasting my life into pixels.. but would I be happy no? What's the alternative though? To continue going to bars/clubs only to come home depressed and wishing I could be re-born as someone else? So what do you do?

Besides a slightly larger nose than normal, I really don't think I look too bad.. and people who have actually gotten to know me classify me as very intelligent and funny. A smart ass at times but in a good way. So instead of wondering exactly what I am doing wrong.. because I have no fucking idea what I am doing wrong, maybe it's just me.

What do you do in this situation? Give up or continue on, you're just going to end up miserable and every night my mental health just gets worse and worse.. I'm sick of girls who randomly stop talking to me for no reason or girls who won't even give me a chance to get to know them. What kind of vibe do I honestly give off that just says "yeah I'm never talking to him again and not telling him why."

*sigh* Wondering what to do.

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I need a lot more detail before I can help with this. How did you approach? As much as you can remember, what'd you say? Did you take too long to approach?

I never actually looked at her. I sat beside her and asked for her opinion on something. She was talkative then, but immediately after finishing her sentence she turns away and pretty much shuts me out unless I ask her questions. I tried to get her talking but she only replied with short answers.

Author:	cg319 [ Sat Sep 10, 2011 12:06 am ]
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I'm 23, skinny, no kid, a car and a pretty decent size place to myself. I'm brand new to this whole thing because I was pretty much silent and never talked to anyone. Three numbers later, tons of messages online later, and meeting various people.. I have yet to seal one deal or even find someone who is attracted to me. I keep thinking to myself.. "obviously I'm doing something wrong, but what is it?" Well.. maybe it's just me. Every night I'd go home alone thinking "Maybe you should just give up." but then I thought to myself.. no.. no I'm not going back to late nights of World of Warcraft only to wish I was someone else. Well here we are two months later, and instead of video gaming.. the only thing I've truly learned without fault about two months of going out, it's just me. Girl A: She works at Bdubs which we go to regularly, that night I go out to see her.. I get her number and she refuses to talk to me now for what ever reason.. Girl B: I met her at a bar and she seemed interested in me, even when she was talking with friends she wouldn't stop glancing over at me.. but she would randomly just leave and talk to someone else and she hasn't responded to my text anymore. Girl C: I'm pretty sure she was just being nice but she seemed genuinely interested in me, touching my arm, talking to me.. she gives me her number.. no response.. I try again 3 days later, no response. Seriously wtf? Why even give a guy your number if you have NO intention of ever talking to him or don't even like him? I almost wish I was born gay.. they're so much more relaxed and easy going. Some days I want to give up.. and just go back to World of Warcraft gaming and wasting my life into pixels.. but would I be happy no? What's the alternative though? To continue going to bars/clubs only to come home depressed and wishing I could be re-born as someone else? So what do you do? Besides a slightly larger nose than normal, I really don't think I look too bad.. and people who have actually gotten to know me classify me as very intelligent and funny. A smart ass at times but in a good way. So instead of wondering exactly what I am doing wrong.. because I have no fucking idea what I am doing wrong, maybe it's just me. What do you do in this situation? Give up or continue on, you're just going to end up miserable and every night my mental health just gets worse and worse.. I'm sick of girls who randomly stop talking to me for no reason or girls who won't even give me a chance to get to know them. What kind of vibe do I honestly give off that just says "yeah I'm never talking to him again and not telling him why." sigh Wondering what to do.

Author:	Slip n Slide [ Sat Sep 10, 2011 12:27 am ]
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Read "The Power of Now" or a self-help book of your choice. Pick up needs to come from a place of confidence that comes with a strong focus on self improvement. You need to want to get better, as both a person and with pick up, for girls to feel a positive, radiating and confident vibe coming off you. A book (particularly the Power of Now) will also help you deal with the feelings you're having now. Failing with 3 girls does not mean your quest is hopeless. If you want to get good fast, you need to buckle down and go out night after night to pick up girls and have fun. That is the quick fix, to push nonstop for better pick up skills, and to be constantly (as in EVERY NIGHT) feeling uncomfortable because you're going out of your comfort zone, going for the kiss where you would have otherwise tried for a number, and pursue a girl way beyond when you want to eject. Otherwise, if you want to progress more slowly, like you're doing now, you need to make yourself confident in other areas of life. Results with women will be less frequent, but you won't mind, because pick up is only a piece of an overall trend of improvement in your life.

Author:	Jimbo Slice [ Sat Sep 10, 2011 1:57 am ]
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i find that if you go out to pick up and don't you have shit night where as if you go out to have fun you will have a much better night try and work your pick up around your night don't make getting a girl the goal of your night just try going crazy say stupid shit try make it fun they will pick up on this watch this this stops me going home depressed when i go out http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUJdJIxg ... re=related

Author:	Algorythm [ Sat Sep 10, 2011 7:14 am ]
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Quote: What do you do in this situation? Give up or continue on Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

Author:	Don Draper [ Sat Sep 10, 2011 2:27 pm ]
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Instead of droning about why they shouldn't give out their number and how you're funny and smart.. blah blah ,You should focus on the reasons why they stop talking to you after a while. It could be something you said, or something you did, it could just be something in your body language or tone.. either way, the problem needs to be diagnosed. Ignoring your issues, will just lead to more and more failures. Pick-up is not about women, it's about becoming better men.

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Author:	cg319 [ Sun Sep 11, 2011 3:09 pm ]
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Quote: Instead of droning about why they shouldn't give out their number and how you're funny and smart.. blah blah ,You should focus on the reasons why they stop talking to you after a while. It could be something you said, or something you did, it could just be something in your body language or tone.. either way, the problem needs to be diagnosed. Ignoring your issues, will just lead to more and more failures. Pick-up is not about women, it's about becoming better men. I'd love to fix the issue that's caused almost every girl I've ever met to just stop talking to me, but the problem.. I have no idea what that is. They'll never tell me and once they stop talking to me it's for good. You'd think I murdered children with disabilities and my face and what I did is posted on a billboard somewhere I don't know about. Anyways.. last night. I went out with a friend. He notices this girl keeps staring at me. When I get up and walk away, her eyes would follow me. So I approached her and started talking to her.. she kept turning her body away and just simply wouldn't talk to me. She wouldn't keep the conversation going (letting it die off quickly).

Author:	Slip n Slide [ Sun Sep 11, 2011 4:32 pm ]
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Quote: I went out with a friend. He notices this girl keeps staring at me. When I get up and walk away, her eyes would follow me. So I approached her and started talking to her.. she kept turning her body away and just simply wouldn't talk to me. She wouldn't keep the conversation going (letting it die off quickly). I need a lot more detail before I can help with this. How did you approach? As much as you can remember, what'd you say? Did you take too long to approach?

Author:	cg319 [ Sun Sep 11, 2011 5:11 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: I went out with a friend. He notices this girl keeps staring at me. When I get up and walk away, her eyes would follow me. So I approached her and started talking to her.. she kept turning her body away and just simply wouldn't talk to me. She wouldn't keep the conversation going (letting it die off quickly). I need a lot more detail before I can help with this. How did you approach? As much as you can remember, what'd you say? Did you take too long to approach? I never actually looked at her. I sat beside her and asked for her opinion on something. She was talkative then, but immediately after finishing her sentence she turns away and pretty much shuts me out unless I ask her questions. I tried to get her talking but she only replied with short answers.

Author:	skills360 [ Sun Sep 11, 2011 8:34 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Maybe It's Just Me... Give Up/Keep Going, Either Way Sucks
Quote: I'm 23, skinny, no kid, a car and a pretty decent size place to myself. I'm brand new to this whole thing because I was pretty much silent and never talked to anyone. Three numbers later, tons of messages online later, and meeting various people.. I have yet to seal one deal or even find someone who is attracted to me. I keep thinking to myself.. "obviously I'm doing something wrong, but what is it?" Well.. maybe it's just me. Every night I'd go home alone thinking "Maybe you should just give up." but then I thought to myself.. no.. no I'm not going back to late nights of World of Warcraft only to wish I was someone else. Well here we are two months later, and instead of video gaming.. the only thing I've truly learned without fault about two months of going out, it's just me. Girl A: She works at Bdubs which we go to regularly, that night I go out to see her.. I get her number and she refuses to talk to me now for what ever reason.. Girl B: I met her at a bar and she seemed interested in me, even when she was talking with friends she wouldn't stop glancing over at me.. but she would randomly just leave and talk to someone else and she hasn't responded to my text anymore. Girl C: I'm pretty sure she was just being nice but she seemed genuinely interested in me, touching my arm, talking to me.. she gives me her number.. no response.. I try again 3 days later, no response. Seriously wtf? Why even give a guy your number if you have NO intention of ever talking to him or don't even like him? I almost wish I was born gay.. they're so much more relaxed and easy going. Some days I want to give up.. and just go back to World of Warcraft gaming and wasting my life into pixels.. but would I be happy no? What's the alternative though? To continue going to bars/clubs only to come home depressed and wishing I could be re-born as someone else? So what do you do? Besides a slightly larger nose than normal, I really don't think I look too bad.. and people who have actually gotten to know me classify me as very intelligent and funny. A smart ass at times but in a good way. So instead of wondering exactly what I am doing wrong.. because I have no fucking idea what I am doing wrong, maybe it's just me. What do you do in this situation? Give up or continue on, you're just going to end up miserable and every night my mental health just gets worse and worse.. I'm sick of girls who randomly stop talking to me for no reason or girls who won't even give me a chance to get to know them. What kind of vibe do I honestly give off that just says "yeah I'm never talking to him again and not telling him why." sigh Wondering what to do. That is the problem is see in the community, focusing on getting phone numbers, the only time i get a phone number is after i have made out with a girl nasty and i mean nasty, but that is just me... In your case you problem is that you need the right technology, get the book double your dating david d, for simple understanding of the game, then get a role model, i like a guy here by the name of wrapped minds, he offers coaching for dirt cheap.....

Author:	Slip n Slide [ Sun Sep 11, 2011 9:32 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: I went out with a friend. He notices this girl keeps staring at me. When I get up and walk away, her eyes would follow me. So I approached her and started talking to her.. she kept turning her body away and just simply wouldn't talk to me. She wouldn't keep the conversation going (letting it die off quickly). I need a lot more detail before I can help with this. How did you approach? As much as you can remember, what'd you say? Did you take too long to approach? I never actually looked at her. I sat beside her and asked for her opinion on something. She was talkative then, but immediately after finishing her sentence she turns away and pretty much shuts me out unless I ask her questions. I tried to get her talking but she only replied with short answers. You never looked at her at all?? Even when she was talking? That'll ruin any set no matter what else you do. You probably let her talk too much. Opening in any situation is going to be mostly you talking (someone set out the proportions somewhere, it was something like 90% you). She doesn't know you, why would she talk to you? Think about how uncomfortable you were talking to strangers before getting into pick up. If she gives you an opinion, listen to it, then talk about it! When you were trying to "get her talking" you were probably thinking about it in those terms at the same time. So you were thinking about what questions to ask that would elicit a good response. So you weren't thinking about how she was answering your question. Next time really pay attention to it. Meditation helps focus yourself in the moment in these sorts of situations.

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