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| Author: | thedude1221 [ Mon Sep 05, 2011 10:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Mixed signals from this girl |
So back in July, I met this girl in a bar. I had just gotten there and before I even saw her, she came up and started talking with me. I was getting tons of IOIs, and we seemed to have excellent chemistry. I number closed, and we agreed that we should see a baseball game sometime (I had just come from a game and was wearing my team's jersey, which is what she started talking to me about first). This was on a Friday, so I waited until Sunday to call. As I'm about to call her, I see that she looked me up on Facebook. I call, playfully give her some shit about facebook stalking me, etc. We set up a date that weekend to go to a beach, which ended up going really well (talking/flirting for 2.5 hours, dinner afterwards, lots of playful touching but no k close). I invite her to a baseball game, which she excitedly agrees to. However, two days before the game she bails. She is in a super competitive, rigorous program that makes her schedule unpredictable. It seemed like she was legit, not blowing me off. She was very apologetic and I told her no big deal, we'll do it some other time. At this point we are texting on a daily basis. I felt like she was attracted to me and (foolishly) felt like I didn't have to run my game at all. I didn't do anything too retarded, but I didn't make her chase me at all, didn't play hard to get at all, etc. I went against my instincts, but I felt this girl was genuinely into me and that game playing was not required (stupid I know). Anyway, we agree to another date after she bailed on the game. We go to a brew pub and have dinner and drinks on a Thursday. Again, we have great conversation, great chemistry, I'm getting tons of eye contact, playful touching, she's laughing at practically everything I say, she's telling me about personal stuff with her family, etc., and I'm enjoying her as well. I give her a ride back to her place (she had to wake up early the next day). I offer to walk her to her door, she declines, so we hug and agree to meet up again. Still no k close, but from things she said she seemed like a girl who takes it slow. Since I was genuinely interested in this girl and not looking to just fuck her, this didn't bother me. We had talked about a show in the city that weekend, so the next day I find out the details of the show and invite her. She excitedly agrees. We go to the show the next day and have an amazing time. After the show we hang out in the city until 3:30 am, both fairly drunk. Great conversation, lots of laughing, eye contact, playful touching but nothing beyond that physically. Finally we catch a cab home, and for the entire 40 minute ride she is asleep with her head in my lap and a smile on her face. We get to her place, and I tell her I'm probably still too drunk to drive. She says no problem, sleep in my bed with me. We strip down to our undies and crawl into bed and start spooning. At this point, I really wanted to make a move, but it was 4:30 am, she was drunk and tired, and because I was actually interested in something possibly long term with this girl, I decided not to. We have breakfast the next morning. Again, lots of eye contact, laughing, nothing physical beyond playful touching. We agree to hang out again, and I drive home. An hour later she texts me telling me what a great time she had, and we do our usual flirty text thing. Because of conflicting schedules, we aren't able to meet up until almost 3 weeks later. During this time, we actually had tickets to a show, and she bailed again, but again it seemed like she was being honest and not blowing me off, so I don't give her shit about it. We are still texting pretty much daily in between, and occasionally calling (Phone calls go just like our face to face convos, lots of laughing, complimenting each other, etc.). We agree to do dinner and a movie at her place, and I'm thinking I'm golden here. Our last date (the show in the city 3 weeks prior) went so well, we've kept steady contact and she genuinely seems interested in me, her roommate's out of town so we have the whole place to ourselves, and I'm spending the night because I have to be somewhere early the next day that is near her place. However, when I get to her place she seems kind of distant (screwing around on her phone, sits in a different couch than me). After an hour, she says that she wants to be honest and says that she was interested in dating me initially, but now she just wants to be friends. This totally took me by surprise. I even said something like, "Oh man you're friend-zoning me?" I tell her that I was really interested in her and I thought we had great chemistry, but if she just wants to be friends that's okay. After really no physical contact on her couch, we end up in her bed in our underwear spooning, but i don't make a move because of the whole friend thing (was this a shit-test that I fucked up?). After this, our texting drastically goes down. I don't initiate texts as much, frequently take longer to respond, etc. We agree to meet up again, but then I cancel because a fwb wants to come over that day and I want to show this other girl that I'm not going to bend over backwards just to see her, especially considering all the times she bailed on me. I tell her sorry, I forgot I had a friend coming out that day. We playfully give each other shit about bailing on each other, and agree to get together next week. The next week, she comes out to my place and we go bar hopping. Again, the whole night she's giving me constant eye contact, laughing at everything, complimenting me, playful touching, but I'm still not sure about escalating kino because of the whole friend thing. Eventually we end up back at my place, both pretty drunk, and make out. I don't do anything beyond making out though because we are both pretty drunk and I'm afraid of her regretting stuff the next day. The next day we just hang out in bed watching tv. She's still laughing at me, engaged in my conversation, and lets me put my arm around her but doesn't reciprocate physically at all, other than eventually resting her head against mine. At this point I'm not even sure if she remembers that we made out the night before. Finally she leaves, but texts me as soon as she gets home, thanking me for the hangover I gave her. After some playful texts, I tell her this band we like is playing a few cities over. I make a crack about how I wish they had public transit out there, and she says she really wants to go, and offers to drive, so we go. Again, great conversation, eye contact, etc. throughout the whole drive there and back, we have a ton of fun at the show, but very little physical contact. She drops me off at my place, have a hip touching goodnight hug, but it seems like she would not be open to a kiss. Because of our conflicting schedules, it has been 3 weeks since we have gotten together. She initiated a call last week, and we talked for like an hour, fairly flirty, again she's laughing and complimenting me. However, now she rarely initiates texts with me. Every 3 or 4 days, I'll send her a text and she usually responds immediately and always responds eventually. While her texts are shorter than they used to be, she still asks me questions and it seems like she's not trying to blow me off. Thursday is basically her Saturday, and it's basically reserved for me at this point. This Thursday she's coming out to my place again and we're gonna bar hop again, and next Thursday we're seeing a show in the city together. My question is, how do I play it with this girl? Normally I would have written this girl off already, or else tried to fuck her and if that didn't work, then I would move on. The thing is, this is the first girl in like 3 years that I could actually see myself having a real relationship with. I really like her and I don't want to fuck things up (I know this is probably the biggest thing fucking me up at this point, as initially I probably came on too strong and probably came across as a little desperate). She doesn't seem like the kind of girl who is juggling multiple guys, and a lot of her free time gets dedicated to hanging out with me. I have never been in this situation before, and am completely unsure of how to proceed. Again, I'm not looking to just fuck this girl, I actually want to have something more serious with her than that. Please advise, and thank you for reading my long ass post. I just didn't want to leave out any details. |
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