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| Author: | ipman [ Fri Sep 02, 2011 1:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Could use some advice/suggestions on Girl with BF |
theres a girl that comes by the breakfast shop i manage a few times a week. i have the hardest time reading girls but we exchanged words a few times. i had no idea of the PUA community until maybe a week ago. looking back i think maybe she was giving IOI's. once i asked her if she was born n raised in the area, bc her accent didnt really match. she said yes and me being the AFC i am had nothing to say after. but she asked "why? where does it sound like im from". shes always friendly so i didnt think anything of it. sometime after, i asked her where young people hang out at. i was new to the area, and its a small town so no clubs or anything. she said her and her friends just hang out at the lake or loiter in the parkin lot at the local walmart. but ended with "if you ever see us out there, stop by and say hi". again, didnt think anything of it. still not sure to be honest if its an IOI or she was just being nice. anyway, i realized she never gave any one worded answers. im modest when it comes to thinking girls are into me but after reading a bit of PUA material i started thinking maybe i could have a chance with her. so i mustered up the courage to just ask her out when she came by this week. she replies with "um yea but like when?" i say "whenever". she says she has to babysit this weekend or something but next weekend is cool. i say cool ill be out of town this weekend anyway so ill see her when i get back. it was also the first time i asked her for her name as well. so i did a little FB search when i got home from work. turns out she has a bf. so now im confused. i figure if she wasnt interested, she wouldve just said she was taken, but she agreed to go out. maybe she thinks it's casual? i did say "go out" and not "hang out" though. ill be honest, i went into stalker mode and went thru her FB pretty thoroughly. ill list the facts, you guys tell me what you think and what you would do. shes 19, bf is 24. im 26. theyve been dating a few months but i think on and off for a year. she seems to like him alot given her FB posts. we are different races and even different sub cultures. shes country and im city-suburban. probably a disadvantage for me since her bf works construction, hunts, and drives a huge pick up. not sure what to do next time i see her. we didnt exchange numbers, so ill have to ask her out again kind of next week. if we do go out, im not going tell her i went thru her fb, but am wondering if i should ask her if shes seeing anyone or avoid relationship questions altogeher and just act like im assuming shes single and completely clueless about her life. i want to go that route to see if she just wants me on the side as a FWB kind of thing, but i dont think i have the game to be that smooth about it and escalate things sexually quickly. ive always been the AFC guy that loves to tell the girl how much i like them and what i like about them. so easy to read the PUA material and imagine doing it but cant filter all that info when im interacting live. |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Fri Sep 02, 2011 7:57 am ] |
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The first rule in life is : STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS. You are better off not assuming that you know about things, then assuming you do and then finding out that you're wrong. If she didn't bring up the boyfriend card herself, why the hell are you getting worked up about it? That is something she will deal with, when the time comes, it is none of your concern. Not now, not later. Secondly, the whole "he's cooler/smarter/faster/sharper than I am" crap that you have been spouting suggests an insecurity and a low self-esteem, that guy is not even in the frame and you're imagining all kinds of things about it. Once again, in your world, you are God. Stop giving others so much importance and all that worrying over them is just stupidity. Game this girl. Don't be shy. Don't hesitate. And for the love of God, give her more than one-word answers and one-question conversations. Good luck. |
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